My W had breast reduction surgery on 29 Sep. Today the doctor took all but 3 the stitches out today. When I took her home to shower at the doctor's suggestion, she thanked me with a caring tone in her voice when I took her back to work. <P>It made me feel good after our conversation last night. We talked about fixing tv's and putting one in a particular room. During the discussion she said that one would be going my room (our bedroom.) This hurt me deeply: referring to our bedroom as my room. I asked if she planned on coming back to our bedroom. She said she didn't want to discuss it, so I left it alone after one last question.<P>I am still convinced that she is having an emotional affair with someone she calls a friend. Our oldest son told me he heard her crying on the phone two days ago. I checked the caller id and determined that it was him. Our oldest thought she was talking to me at first.<P>This morning on the way to the doctor's office, I heard Adrian Rogers preaching about being the Godly example for those who are not saved and for edification to those who are saved. God reaffirmed me this morning with Adrian's sermon that I was doing His will. Though I die a thousand small deaths from her treatment of me, I know that I am loving her in ways that she has never loved me. There is no greater love than what I am showing her now. I have come to realize that I may never get that in love feeling for her because it seems trivial to what I feel and am displaying for her now.<P>Sorry for rambling. Had to get some of this off my chest.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>

You're doing a great job, Rob! You are such a strong Christian, and quite an example to those of us still struggling!<P>Thanks for being on here and sharing your feelings with us.<P>Just continue taking one day at a time.

Thanks Maya. I struggle too. He just keeps reaffirming me at my weakest point irght before I know that I would break if He were not there. Though I am not wealthy or getting accolades from most of the world, He continues to strengthen me with comments such as yours and through sermons like Adrian Rogers.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>

How long have you been Plan A with your W?<P>I know how hard it is to be there, I knew of H's affair for 4 years, but only A'd H the last year.... <P>Be strong... God loves a cheerful giver, and I think that can be in all areas...<P>cozy

cozy,<BR>Though I did not originally know that I was plan A-ing, I have been since the first affair nearly 6 years ago now. It started as an emotional one that became physical for two straight weeks. It was with an old friend in her hometown.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>

Those little signs of "headway", although not perfect, are great measuring stops to know that your plan A, and prayers, and listening to God's promptings are working.<P>Good for you.<P>Praise the Lord!<BR>