Good job DF. I'm very happy to hear that you have done your own recovery and are not letting this control you any longer.
Good luck in your future, whatever that looks like.
Only the people on these boards know the pain and hopelessness we feel as BS's. It was a 2 year lonely journey, but at the end of the day, I made myself better in every way for the next relationship. My X has changed nothing except that she now has OM in her house instead of me.
I'm ok with this. I'm out of my personal hell.
These things either end with Reconciliation or Divorce.
My MARRIAGE and family therapist closed her door after one paricular session, (the last one) and told me "Jarrod...YOU NEED OUT OF THIS".
Each week more is revealed to me...and I have to say I am fully behind my decision to divorce. Theres more I know after the divorce than I did while married and trying to recover.
One of the biggest things that turned my wife off to me completely was when I confronted the OM. The OM backed off a few months, did not return calls and realized he was being lied to as well. This made her SOOOOO MAD and livid at me she never forgave me for it nor did she EVER express she was doing the wrong thing.
Her poor parents now must see and have court with him, knowing HE was the OM that I EXPOSED to them 2 years ago. BUT they are so in need of validation and love from their 'estranged' daughter that they are willing to never draw any boundries or limitations on her....hence it makes perfect sense she is who she is today.
Thank GOD I don't have to deal with her in that way anymore. Divorce CAN be a blessing, even though you never want it.