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Hi, Before the Mods kick me off, I would like to have popular opinion on who wants me to leave MB and who wants me to stay on MB.

I will go with the greatest number of votes just like on American Idol.

Be honest, it wont hurt me. If I dont add anything (even some non-boring drama) to the board for you in your opinion, then vote for me to leave MB.

Thanks, I appreciate honesty. I really hate false "caring" and fakiness. Go ahead and be honest. I do not know if I am wanted or not wanted here and I surely dont want to be where i am not wanted by anyone.

If the vote is a tie we will have a tiebreaker!

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I say stay. I don't always agree with individual posts, but it's up to me to take and leave what I see fit.

And btw, I've not read anything from you that I find terribly objectionable.


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I'll jump in even though I don't really know you and have absolutely no opinion about you. I've just recently seen some areas where you have been bantering with some of my "faves" (e.g. FH).

You could have been the very thing that many people have needed at the time they needed it. Give yourself credit for that.

And statistically....(not that this really matters either)

5,117 posts since 2005 =
1,705 posts each year
142 posts per month
average 5 posts a day

Maybe you need to give yourself a break for awhile! smile

Said with love (truly!)

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Now - one day at a time....
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Confession: I am a secret STELLAKAT fan. I love unique, truly "authentic" people and Stella is most certainly unique and authentic! laugh

p.s. Stella, it looks like the mods had no intention of booting you or taking you the woodshed from the sounds of cooper's latest post. Guess we are stuck with ya, hunny! laugh


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted by Stellakat
Hi, Before the Mods kick me off, I would like to have popular opinion on who wants me to leave MB and who wants me to stay on MB.

I will go with the greatest number of votes just like on American Idol.

Be honest, it wont hurt me. If I dont add anything (even some non-boring drama) to the board for you in your opinion, then vote for me to leave MB.

Thanks, I appreciate honesty. I really hate false "caring" and fakiness. Go ahead and be honest. I do not know if I am wanted or not wanted here and I surely dont want to be where i am not wanted by anyone.

If the vote is a tie we will have a tiebreaker!

Can I vote?

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I hear ya both. Want to here the verdict with the mods?

NOTHING!

The mod said they had answered thier own question and that was it. No encouragement no discouragement. I feel certain they just wanted my e-mail address for some reason...

1. Advertising
2. To talk to me if I present a problem here
3. Just to have it.

Who knows. There was nothing said and I would like to know why I was asked to e-mail them. I responded and asked why but no answer yet.

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Please vote, YES! Mods are people too!!!!

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I was looking forward to a little lashing at least......

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Stay! As a PRINCESS, I get to have a vote - or two or more if need be. I say STAY!!!!

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Stella,

clearly you have been here for quite a while and have most likely helped many people in the process.

I believe that any advice, no matter how harsh it may appear to some, as long as it is intended to help not hurt, should be welcomed. Often a 2x4 is the only appropriate measure. God knows I've needed them a time or twelve...

We are all adults here, and can only glean what we can from each post in our own way. What may be trite and offensive for one may be a breakthrough opinion for another. We can only judge for ourselves. Someone wiser than me has said "take what you need, leave the rest"...

Or as Jerry Garcia sang, "One man gathers what another man spills." RIP, Jerry...

With that I say stay, that I and others may continue to take what we need.

Peace to all,
TTH


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FWW:(ILMH) 28yo
DS 3yo
Married 7yrs
Together 10 yrs

??? Spring '07 - Adultery Begins
8/25/07 - 1st D-day (week of our anniv.)
8/07 thru 5/08 - About a dozen D-days/Gaslighting/Flaunting/Fake Recoveries

She finally quit on...

1/1/08 - First real NC attempt(Maybe?)
3/1/08 - Told me OM is an A**hole.(Hope?)
5/3/08 - D-day (Admitted to PA once)
5/4/08 - Latest D-day(Finally confessed to multiple EA/PA in our home)
5/8/08 - Present
Struggling to hold on

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Originally Posted by Stellakat
I was looking forward to a little lashing at least......

Wrong forum. ****edit****

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

HEH,HEH!!!

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I am surprised that all of you do not completely hate me. Last nite was difficult. I guess just some hate me not all.

I HAVE JUST PUT MYSELF ON A SIX POST A DAY DIET! IN THE NEXT FEW WEEKS I WILL TRY AND REDUCE THAT TO 3 POSTS A DAY AND GO DOWN FROM THERE! I CAN DO THIS!!!!

(Have a good day, all, I had nightmares again from FH but it was not like I did not contribute to my own nightmare)

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This voting will be open 8AM to 8PM CST for one week! You can TXT or E-Mail your votes but posting is best....

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Hey, we all have bad days. After all, we wouldn't be here if life was perfect.

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Stick around Stellar,

Having bad days is how we learn and grow, not only as a person, but as a community.

I wouldn't dare put my forum participation to a vote.
I'd lose in a New York minute laugh laugh

All blessings,
Jerry

ps; I might get booted for spelling! mad

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I vote stay! I actually agree with you quite often. Perhaps I should post that but I don't see the point in making a thread longer just to say "I agree".

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stay.

reading your posts can offer comic release for the masses! wink

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Stay! smile


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Stay.

I can't be the only abrasive person on the board.


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