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So me and my wife were talking the other night at dinner and she told me that a lady in her office had hooked up with this guy about two weeks ago on some girls night out thing and were sleeping together.
Well my first reaction was... Isn't she married and ya she is. She has been married for 8 years from what I remember and has 2 kids. I have met her once but never her husband and really don't know much about the situation etc.
Should I send a message to the husband about what I heard? I do know how to contact her husband since I have her on my myspace page and she has her husband so I could go that route.
My worries are I am not really sure its my place to step into a situation I know nothing about. I also worry that he wont believe me and I have no proof. I also worry that he may even think the OM is me which of course would not make any sense.
But, I think about if someone knew something like this about my wife I would want to know...
So what should I do? Nothing? Something?
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Joined: Sep 2005
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YES, tell.
Next, why is your hanging out with a woman like this??? (assumption)
And WHY isn't your wife doing something about it?
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My wife doesnt hang out with her. She works with her and just heard about it.... She doesnt hang out with her though.
My wife told me the woman in question hangs out with a bunch of single women. She is 26 years old if I remember. My wife is 24 but only hangs out with other married women...
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Klesko,
I believe the husband has a right to know. If you were in his shoes, would you rather hear the information from a stranger or never hear it at all. And probably find out through std's, pregnancy, or walking in on them? Maybe the guy is suspecting something and is going through h e l l right now. Heck, maybe the guy knows about it and doesn't care. Many things could happen, but telling the truth is NEVER wrong...everyone who has been cheated on knows this.
Heck...give me the guys contact info and I'll tell him.
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
Henry David Thoreau
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Let's see...
Klesko knows.
Klesko's wife knows.
Klesko's wife's office buddies knows.
Klesko's wife's office buddies' husbands and friends know.
OM knows.
OM's friends know.
OM's friends' wives know.
OM's friends' wives' friends know.
Who is the only person who doesn't know?????
THE BETRAYED HUSBAND.
Gee, I vote that he be allowed into the circle of the VERY FEW PEOPLE who seem to know this "secret"
about HIS LIFE.
Yeah. Tell.
Schoolbus.
Lucky to be where I am, in a safe place to get marriage-related support.
Recovered.
Happy.
Most recent D-day Fall 2005
Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.
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