First of all, I am not a skank. Second, you think I would let my son know. One day, I will have to face him but telling a 12 yr old about an affair you had when he was 4 is not a good idea. I think the subject should be left alone until he is an adult, ******.

I have a hard time buying this is a real person with real issues - if you are old enough to have a 12 year old, you are old enough to act like an adult. The last time I heard someone call someone else a retard was in 9th grade. My guess is a troll.

*******? You are discussing an affair from 8 years ago...members here are talking about the affair that YOU ARE HAVING NOW !!!!!

Who's the *****?

I don't mean to be. In know that I have been wrong. I just want to figure things out but I can't help but be defensive. Especially when people do not understand or know me.

whatever

The vets here do know you. [censored], I'm new here, and I know you. You are my W 3 months ago. What makes you so [censored] special that you think seasoned vets of MB don't know you? You are a WW who doesn't think about anyone but herself, and is using her child as an excuse to continue an A.....trust me, they know you.

Your "whatever", "******" and continues disregard for your marriage IS all we know, what do you expect? If you want respect, then deserve it.

Rain,

I think you can use the "ignore" button on this forum rather than continue to banter back and forth. It's much more productive.

There are several people still on this forum that would be happy to work with a repentant wayward.

And don't give up on Dr. Harley's concepts based on strangers in an internet forum.

Good luck!

I am going to make one last comment, just in case you sincerely want help here

think back to how you felt after your A, when your H first found out. You felt bad, and you still do.

think back to every time you gambled and lost a bunch of money. To the times when the bill collectors were calling you,and you knew you had just dropped a bunch of money at the casino. You knew you could have paid a bill, but didn't do it, and now it is too late to do the right thing.
Think about how crappy you felt all those times.

If you leave your H to chase after this OM, you will end up with that same bad feeling again. That is what I am trying to stop, for you. That crappy feeling when you know you have just messed up.

It is not too late to stop the cycle. Put a notch in that tree and declare that from this day forward you WILL build a fun, happy M with the father of your child. The man who loves you.
If you do not build a fun M with this man, if you D him you will end up in an even deeper hole. You will have another bad choice in your past.
Your H, on the other hand, will move on. Build a new life. Find a woman who appreciates his love. That is what has happned to many of us here. That is why we come back here, to post. To tell other BS's that they will find love again, and happiness. And occasionally someone comes here, like you, who is about to make a huge mistake, and we say DON'T.

I am not here mourning over the loss of my WH. I am here to tell people like your H that they can have a good life again, even if their BW divorces them
And I hope I can tell people like you that happiness does not come from dumping one M, and finding another one who appeares to be more perfect. There is no perfect man. A man is a man. You will either have to work hard at this relationship, or work hard at the next one. You may as well work hard at this one. Becuase at least with this one, your son will see his parents every morning at breakfast......and your son will never have to worry about how to tell you that Daddy has found a new love, and he is getting married.

You are about to jump right out of the frying pan, into the fire. I beg you to stop.

Its ok....I don't take that serious. I know there are some real idiots out there. Suicide only punishes your family. You can't take it back. Children can deal with divorce successfully. They will never recover from the loss of a parent caused by suicide. I would never do that to my family, no matter what.

ok intro....whatever

Then I guess you are not hanging around in a crappy, "cold" marriage for your son then?

WTF is wrong with you?

What is this "whatever" for?

Thank you. I will use that.

As do affairs....endlessly.


And they never recover from the kind of abuse you are laying on your family.

He is exactly the reason.

That was nice of you, signing your post with your name!

because you have givin no insight. Only badgering. So to you I say " whatever"

I didn't think that you would take their "advice"! However, you do not deserve to be disrespected in that manner....and that is true even if you are a troll instead of a sincere poster.

I'm wondering why you're accepting that level of disrespect....and engaging in disrespectful behavior in return?

Did you know that participating in an affair (even if it's an EA instead of a PA) is an act of huge disrespect to yourself as well as to your spouse and family?

You say that you don't want a dicorce because of your son....now you say that children can deal with divorce successfully....now you say that your son is the reason.

You are one messed up chick....sorry, I came in here to help, but you are just messed girl.



Here....I'll save you time...........


WHATEVER !!!!!