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My MIL or now XMIL died on Thanksgiving day this past year just before dinner.
She was sitting in her chair watching TV and just fell asleep.
They didn't even know she was gone until they went to get her for dinner.
I do know for a fact she was a true Christian. Too bad my exw isn't, but the typical counterfit.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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ark,
I am so sorry to hear about your MIL.
I know what I would do...(others might disagree)
I would hold her hand and pray. Lots of times others are "brought" to God through prayer. She might be cognizant enough to realize what you are doing without being able to voice that to you.
It would give her the opportunity to find her way if she wishes and wants to. It would give you a sense of peace knowing that you helped to show her the way and all she needed to do was take it.
She might take it when lit by someone she loves and trusts.
Just like coma patients, you don't know what they can hear.
Ministers lead people to God...be that to her.
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I know what I would do...(others might disagree)
I would hold her hand and pray. Lots of times others are "brought" to God through prayer. She might be cognizant enough to realize what you are doing without being able to voice that to you.
It would give her the opportunity to find her way if she wishes and wants to. It would give you a sense of peace knowing that you helped to show her the way and all she needed to do was take it.
She might take it when lit by someone she loves and trusts.
Just like coma patients, you don't know what they can hear.
Ministers lead people to God...be that to her.
jmho
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I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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me too.
You and your family are in my prayers, for your MIL and for peace.
me - 47  H - 39  married 2001 DS 8a  DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy: (Why is DS7b now a blockhead???) (Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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Praying for peace and salvation.
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Married 12 years
Me 35
DW 33
DD 12
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HUGS, Ark. My prayers are with you and your family.
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2 Girls
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Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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I BELIEVE that HE will come to her in the end and give her that chance...
Continue to PRAY for her SALVATION... WOW I agree with Mimi! Continue to pray Ark. I'm sorry you are going through this.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Ark, My prayers are with you and your family during this time. I'm with so many others, and FH has my full agreement on this - Until she passes, all things are possible for God. and Mimi Originally Posted By: mimi_hereI BELIEVE that HE will come to her in the end and give her that chance...
Continue to PRAY for her SALVATION... YOU may not hear her say the words out loud, but HE will hear her heart of acceptance. Trust that with Him ALL things are possible. {{{{Ark}}}}
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"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Ark, I am sorry to hear the news. May you and the rest of the family find some peace in knowing that her struggle is over. In knowing that you loved her and she loved you.
We are hear for you if only in heart and spirit.
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So sorry to hear this, Ark.
My dad died at the end of November and two months later, mom was diagnosed with a very agressive cancer.
It's sad that your FIL feels he failed, but I know he did his best. Mom took care of dad for 3 years in the home, but I regret part of it because I think it took a toll on her health. My dad even told me that she was supposed to be getting treatments, but she denied it. She didn't want to abandon him. Now she is the one that is dying.
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I BELIEVE that HE will come to her in the end and give her that chance...
Continue to PRAY for her SALVATION... WOW I agree with Mimi! Continue to pray Ark. I'm sorry you are going through this. me too.. that doesn't happen often for the three of us! Ark, I hope today went as well as can be expected. God knows the heart...remember that.
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One of my dearest friends witnessed all his adult life to his very stubborn father who was completely uninterested in any kind of Christianity. He was a kind, loving man, but just didn't want to believe.
When he was in a coma, hours from death, my friend sat and sang to him and read scripture and told him what he COULD have if he believed. At this point he was not even responsive to pain. My friend begged his father to just squeeze his hand if he believed. No squeeze. My friend said, " OK Dad, maybe you are too weak to squeeze my hand. If you want to believe that Jesus is your Savior, maybe just raise your eyebrows."
And...up went his eyebrows, three times. He died a few minutes later.
God is soooooooo Good!!!!
May he give you this comfort and assurance now in YOUR time of pain and loss.
Blessings to you all.
WH2LE
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Ark: I just wanted to say I am sorry. It is very sad and I want you to know you have my prayers. Please take care.
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Ark, So sorry to read of your MIL.Perhaps this will help. Last month as my mom lay in the ICU after ALS had almost taken her from me, I was able to go home to Ohio and spend almost 5 days at her bedside. My mother was never a very touchy feely woman but during that time she kept my hand clasped in hers as she struggled mightily for each and every breath. I talked to her continuously about her life, my admiration for her strength,the good qualities that she had bestowed upon me as a son and lastly some of the most funny things that we had shared together in life. After coming back to California, I could not forget the look on my mom's face as I smiled my "I will see you in a couple of days". I had shared my grief with a couple of patient's and confessed my shame at wanting to see her suffering ended. One special young lady scolded me for my attitude, reminding me that God had his own plans and his own time when his call would come. She directed me to this special beautiful prayer. That night I prayed that special prayer and asked that if it was God's intention of calling for her that it be mercifully quick. At five the next morning the phone rang with my brother telling me that mom had died that last night in her sleep. Chaplet to the Divine Mercy Ark, my prayers for you and your family
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Ark - My prayers are with you and your family tonight.
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Do not ask the Lord to guide your footsteps if you are not willing to move your feet.
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Prayers for you and family, Arkie.
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We have laughed with you,
Worked along side you
Admired your work
Enjoyed your comments
Learned from your posted thoughts.
Now we mourn with you also.
May God comfort you, and yours, as you have so freely comforted others.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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she passed last night around 2:00 AM
thank you all for your kind words and thoughts....
funny that a flat fingerprinted screen can bring so many feelings of peace....
your prayers mean a lot to me..
thank you cymanca for your link....
BS and WS fighting your way back...remember that you hold great value to those who know you in this universe...
know that your worth is not, never has been and never will be connected to any thing a WS does or says...
you stand alone in your own right...and don't ever forget that no matter how dark it seems/feels
I pray that she truly is at peace...
I keep imagining her reunited with her mother and father whom she hasn't been with with for a long time....
that thought makes it sweet and sappy in a strange way....
thank you all very very much
ark
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Sincerest condolences, Ark.
May God grant you and the family peace and comfort among the pain and loss.
God bless.
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