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my sweet daughter and soon to be DIL and their sister in spirit .. I've adopted her too lol ... not long ago was off entertaining the troops sang this at a concert before they left and it was so beautiful.
When your day is long And the night The night is yours alone When you think you've had enough of this life Well hang on
Don't let yourself go Cause everybody cries And everybody hurts Sometimes
Sometimes everything is wrong Now it's time to sing along (When your day is night hold on) Hold on, hold on (If you feel like letting go) Hold on If you're sure you've had too much of this life Well hang on
Cause everybody hurts sometimes Take comfort in your friends Everybody hurts
Don't blow your hand Oh, no Don't blow your hand When you feel like you're alone No, no, no, you're not alone
If you're on your own In this life The days and nights are long When you're sure you've had too much Of this life To hang on
Well, everybody hurts Sometimes, everybody cries And everybody hurts Sometimes
And everybody hurts Sometimes
everybody hurts Sometimes
So, hold on, hold on Hold on, hold on Hold on, hold on Hold on, hold on (Everybody hurts You are not alone)
Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
This is a recovery song that my FWH played for me not long after we had decided we could make it through this mess. He had to search through hundreds of old LPs to find it cause there is apparently no recording of it on the internet. Gotta love Humble Pie! How's that for showing my age?
Humble Pie - Say No More
Well it felt so bad to be Where I didn't need to be Now I feel so good to know How you still care for me When it's all right in front of you It's so hard to see But there was a wall about you Though it took me awhile just To suss it out And what I layed down At my shout didn't help me none 'Cause you held my soul in your hands It sifted through your fingers Like fine silver sand Well I don't need a swimming pool I don't need hammocks on the wall I just want you Babe And that's all I'll say no more I laid all my cards on the table I can give you what you need Now I'm able to Now I tell you how I feel I hope you come thru "Cause if you're the sea Then I'm your rock And if I'm the key Then you're my lock Well if you're the foot Then I'm your sock So wear me well Oh! Don't go away all alone Don't leave me here Babe With just this one-way telephone Without you I ain't no bigshot Even now looks like I hit the jackpot I just need you Babe That's my long shot I can sing no more
Me, BW-57 FWH 54 4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007 FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side. One day at a time by God's grace.
So welcome! Also one of my favorite bands. We have watched all of the you tube performances since DH dusted it off in June of "07 Never really listened to the lyrics closely. Just reading them again made my day. We have "Eat It" on vinyl. Would love to have a CD. Alas, not available. Fortunately the album is in perfect condition as is our turn table and I love the really BIG sound of albums.
Say
Me, BW-57 FWH 54 4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007 FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side. One day at a time by God's grace.
You got me runnin' goin' out of my mind, You got me thinkin that I'm wastin my time. Don't bring me down, no no no no no......ooooOOO-hoo, Ill tell you once more before I get off the floor Don't bring me down.
You wanna stay out with your fancy friends. I'm tellin you it's gonna be the end, Don't bring me down, no no no no no.........ooooOOO-hoo, I'll tell you once more before I get off the floor Don't bring me down.
Don't bring me down, grroosss Don't bring me down, grroosss Don't bring me down, grroosss Don't bring me down.
What happened to the girl I used to know? You left your mind out somewhere down the road, Don't bring me down,no no no no no, I'll tell you once more before I get off the floor Don't bring me down.
You're always talkin' 'bout your crazy nights, One of these days you're gonna get it right. Don't bring me down, no no no no no......ooooOOO-hoo, I'll tell you once more before I get off the floor Don't bring me down.
Don't bring me down, grroosss Don't bring me down, grroosss Don't bring me down, grroosss Don't bring me dowwwwwwww-owwww-owwww-owwwn!
You're lookin' good just like a snake in the grass, One of these days you're gonna break your glass. Don't bring me down, no no no no no no no no no....oooOOO-hoo!! I'll tell you once more before I get off the floor Don't bring me down.
You got me shakin' got me runnin' away You get me crawlin' up to you everyday, Don't bring me down, no no no no no....oooOOO-hoo, I'll tell you once more before I get off the floor Don't bring me DOWN!!
Oooh I like this thread! There are so many songs that make me think of this whole sitch, but especially this one by Kelly Clarkson.
Be Still: Far, away from it all You and me with no one else around A brand new start Is all we need, it's all we need to mend these hearts Back to the beginning
Be still Let it go
Before we lost hope When we still touched and love wasn't so hard
Be still I already know
Foolish one with the smile You don't have to be brave Every time we fall down But we're falling from grace I'll gladly climb your walls if you'll meet me halfway
Slow, slow it down Why do we run, we're missing so much babe Just lay in my arms for a while
Be still
We should've known
Foolish one with the smile You don't have to be brave I'll gladly climb your walls If you'll meet me halfway Every time we fall down But we're falling from grace Here's my hand and my heart It's yours to take
Be still.
and there is one more that I want to post, that ALWAYS, ALWAYS makes me think of WH and OW: Ugh. But, I love the song.
Mr. Brightside: I'm coming out of my cage And I’ve been doing just fine Gotta gotta gotta be down Because I want it all It started out with a kiss How did it end up like this It was only a kiss, it was only a kiss Now I’m falling asleep And she’s calling a cab While he’s having a smoke And she’s taking a drag Now they’re going to bed And my stomach is sick And it’s all in my head But she’s touching his—chest Now, he takes off her dress Now, let me go
I just can’t look its killing me And taking control Jealousy, turning saints into the sea Swimming through sick lullabies Choking on your alibis But it’s just the price I pay Destiny is calling me Open up my eager eyes ‘Cause I’m Mr Brightside
I never... I never... I never...
You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
The person who is always finding fault seldom finds anything else.
God I hate these threads, yet I'm drawn to them like a magnet. Music was my life. LaLa and I actually met singing karaoke in a bar. Our love for music was the foundation on which our relationship and M was built. I used to spend 3-4 hours a day listening to music. Now, I avoid it like the plague because I'm one wrong song away from turning a pretty good day into panic attack H$ll. For those of you that don't know, LaLa's OM was the producer/engineer of a demo CD I had given her as a gift for our 10th wedding anniversary. Needless to say, it has completely screwed up my love for music. I'm trying to own it and tip toe my way back, but it is EXTREMELY hard. Anyhoo, in the weeks following Dday this song brought me a lot of comfort and hope for the future.
Chris Daughtry It's Not Over
I was blown away What could I say It all seemed to make sence. Your takin away everything And I can't do without.
I try to see the good in life. The good things in life are hard to find. We're blowin away, blownin away Can we make this something good?
Well I'll try to do to it right this time around It's not over, Try to do it right this time around It's not over But a part of me is dead and in the ground. This love is killin me But your the only one It's not over.
I've taken all I can take And I cannot wait We're wastin too much time Bein strong, holdin on Can't let it bring us down
My life with you means everything So I won't give up that easily Blowin away blowin away Can make this something good? Cause it's all misunderstood?
Well I'll try to do to it right this time around It's not over, Try to do it right this time around It's not over But a part of me is dead and in the ground. This love is killin me But your the only one It's not over.
You can't let this get away Let it out, let it out Don't get caught up in yourself Let it out.
Let's start over Well try to do to it right this time around Its not over But a part of me is dead and in the ground. This love is killin me But your the only one It's not over.
Lets start over Its not over This love is killin me But your the only one It's not over
BS-me 36 FWW-34 DS-7 & DS-3 PA - 7/06-8/06 EA - 6/06-1/07 D-Day: wife confessed 2-17-07, suspected 8-02-06 Broke NC: 2-19-07, 3-24-07, 5/07 My Story My Wife's Story --------------------- Healing one day at a time.....
This keeps me going when others try and discourage me.
Tripping Daisy- Piranhas
Keep thoughts high in the sky You're like a big kite That's flying from people Who wanna keep you down, Down in the crowds Where they're always breakin' out Watch out for piranhas There's always piranhas Watch out for piranhas Ready or not, like it or not, here they come again It's a shame but you are just laughing People want to keep you in the dark You're always a mess But you're always a step ahead of the crowd Watch out for piranhas There's always piranhas Watch out for piranhas So many times I have been late While feeling the breeze Tons of hopeless thoughts in me Now I'm free And now I'm free Watch out for piranhas You can be what you want It's a matter of time Prepare to be amazed You're flashing, they're frowning, you flash the clover leaf cheer It's a game You're winning There's always so many piranhas
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
Lyin' here by your side, the silence speaks to me I've got no where to hide Except in your misery I've said I love you before, I said I love you, But I've never showed you Baby I'm sorry once more, for what I've put you through Can we dream about tomorrow, tonight, Oh baby And we'll dream that everything's gonna be alright I've got a thousand prayers, each one is for you and I Lord knows I really care for you baby, I would live and die for you I know I've hurt you before, I know I've hurt you, now I wanna heal you Baby I'm sorry once more, for what I've put you through REPEAT CHORUS I know you've cried many rivers, And you've cried your oceans too If I'm the reason we've withered, Let me bring back the water and sun So our love can bloom
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Married 23 yrs WW-46 Me- 47 DD18 DD11 Dday #1 - Oct. 8 2006 Too many other D-Days to remember
My song of the week. Please be sure to actually listen to it as well. A tip of the hat to Pariah for turning me on to Tripping Daisy.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Alter Bridge - Before Tomorrow Comes -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I couldn't sleep I had to listen To a conscience knowing so well That nothing comes from indifference I look inside of myself
Will I find some kind of conviction? Will I bid the hero farewell? Will I be defined by things that could have been? I guess time will only tell I guess time will only tell
So don't let it be Before tomorrow comes Before you turn away Take the hand in need Before tomorrow comes You could change everything
I curse my worth and every comfort That blinded me for way too long Damn it all I'll make a difference from now on Cause I'm wide awake to it all Cause I'm wide awake to it all
So don't let it be Before tomorrow comes Before you turn away Take the hand in need Before tomorrow comes You could change everything
Does anyone care it ain't right what we're doing? Does anyone care it ain't right where we're going? Does anyone dare justify how we're living? Does anyone here care at all?
So don't let it be Before tomorrow comes Before you turn away Take the hand in need Before tomorrow comes You could change everything
We could be so much more than we are We could be so much more than we are We could be so much more than we are Oh this much I know
Me: 48 XW: 44 DD: 15 Lived Together: 7 Married: 18 Total: 25 years W announced divorce 11-3-2006, I moved out 11-7-2006, served papers 11-8-2006. Divorce final 12-19-2006. Life gets better every day.
You, you got me Thinking it'll be alright. You, you told me, "Come and take a look inside." You believed me, In every single lie. But I, I failed you this time.
And it feels like tonight. I can't believe I'm broken inside. Can't you see that there's nothing that I wanna do, But try to make it up to you? And it feels like tonight, Tonight.
I was waiting For the day you'd come around. I was chasing, And nothing was all I found. From the moment you came into my life, You showed me what's right.
And it feels like tonight. I can't believe I'm broken inside. Can't you see that there's nothing that I wanna do, But try to make it up to you? And it feels like tonight.
I never felt like this before. Just when I leave, I'm back for more. Nothing else here seems to matter. In these ever-changing days, You're the one thing that remains. I could stay like this forever.
And it feels like tonight. I can't believe I'm broken inside. Can't you see that there's nothing that I wanna do, But try to make it up to you? And it feels like tonight. Tonight. Tonight. 'Cause there's nothing that I wanna do, But try to make it up to you. And it feels like tonight. Tonight.
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
Don't ya love her madly Don't ya need her badly Don't ya love her ways Tell me what you say
Don't ya love her madly Wanna be her daddy Don't ya love her face Don't ya love her as she's walkin' out the door Like she did one thousand times before
Don't ya love her ways Tell me what you say Don't ya love her as she's walkin' out the door
All your love All your love All your love All your love
All your love is gone So sing a lonely song Of a deep blue dream Seven horses seem to be on the mark
Yeah, don't you love her Don't you love her as she's walkin' out the door
All your love All your love All your love
Yeah, all your love is gone So sing a lonely song Of a deep blue dream Seven horses seem to be on the mark
Well, don't ya love her madly Don't ya love her madly Don't ya love her madly
For a BS to sing to a WS before handing over the PBL:
"Maybe"-Perry Como
Maybe . . . you'll think of me, when you are all alone, maybe the one who is waiting for you will prove untrue Then, what will you do?
Maybe . . . you'll sit an' sigh, wishing that I were near Then, maybe you'll ask me to come back again and maybe, I'll say maybe!
Maybe . . . ( maybe every now an' then, maybe ) you'll think of me, when you are all alone ( wondering what I'm doin' and if I'm alone ) maybe the one who is waiting for you ( will prove untrue ) ( what'll you say? ) then, what will you do? ( what'll you do? )
Maybe . . . ( maybe as the days go by, maybe ) you'll sit an' sigh wishing that I were near ( 'cause you're just a little blue an' lonely ) Maybe you'll ask me to come back again . . . and maybe . . . I'll say . . . maybe!
Friends all tried to warn me but I held my head up high. All them times they told me, but I only passed them by. They all tried to tell me but I guess I didn't care. I turned my back and left them standing there.
All those burning bridges that have fallen after me. All the lonely feelings and the burning memories. Everyone I left behind each time I closed a door. Burning bridges lost forever more.
Joey tried to help me find a job awhile ago. When I finally got it, I didn't want to go. What is there in keep for me when I just walk away? Now there's nothing left forme to say,
All those burning bridges that have fallen after me. All the lonely feelings and the burning memories. Everyone I left behind each time I closed a door. Burning bridges lost forever more.
Years have passed and I keep thinking what a fool I've been. When I look back into the past and think of way back when. I know that I lost everything I thought that I could win. I guess I should have listened to my friends.
All those burning bridges that have fallen after me. All the lonely feelings and the burning memories. Everyone I left behind each time I closed a door. Burning bridges lost forever more.
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
Lyin', cheatin', hurtin, that's all you seem to do. Messin' around with every guy in town, Puttin' me down for thinkin' of someone new. Always the same, playin' your game, Drive me insane, trouble is gonna come to you, One of these days and it won't be long, You'll look for me but baby, I'll be gone. This is all I gotta say to you woman:
[Chorus] Your Time Is Gonna Come [X4]
Made up my mind to break you this time, Won't be so fine, it's my turn to cry. Do want you want, I won't take the brunt. It's fadin' away, can't feel you anymore. Don't care what you say 'cause I'm goin' away to stay, Gonna make you pay for that great big hole in my heart. People talkin' all around, Watch out woman, no longer Is the joke gonna be on my heart. You been bad to me woman, But it's coming back home to you.
If you didn't care what happened to me, And I didn't care for you, We would zig zag our way through the boredom and pain Occasionally glancing up through the rain. Wondering which of the buggars to blame And watching for pigs on the wing.
When all the dark clouds roll away And the sun begins to shine I see my freedom from across the way And it comes right in on time Well it shines so bright and it gives so much light And it comes from the sky above Makes me feel so free makes me feel like me And lights my life with love
And it seems like and it feels like And it seems like yes it feels like A brand new day, yeah A brand new day oh
I was lost and double crossed With my hands behind my back I was longtime hurt and thrown in the dirt Shoved out on the railroad track I've been used, abused and so confused And I had nowhere to run But I stood and looked And my eyes got hooked On that beautiful morning sun
And it seems like and it feels like And it seems like yes it feels like A brand new day, yeah A brand new day oh
And the sun shines down all on the ground Yeah and the grass is oh so green And my heart is still and I've got the will And I don't really feel so mean Here it comes, here it comes 0 here it comes right now And it comes right in on time Well it eases me and it pleases me And it satisfies my mind
