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My wife says to me. Well, we had been back and forth on some stuff that doesn't matter for the purpose of what she said, it is what she said that sold me.
She says:
"Ya know, I can get sex anywhere. Sex is easy. Thirty minutes at WalMart and I can hook up. Sex is great and I wouldn't want to live without it. Family is hard. If I had to pick between sex and family, family wins, every single time. I love my family and I love my life and I love you.
You are my family."
My wife, the FWW, was a teen who, while not the town bicycle did trade sex for affection, attention, acceptance and self esteem, a major precursor for an affair later on in life.
It has been three years. I have often wondered if the rocky road traveled was worth it. I wondered if the price I was paying for her growing up and becoming a real adult would be worth it.
It was.
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Thirty minutes at WalMart and I can hook up. Wow! Is there ANYTHING you can't get at WallyWorld? J/K  Your wife's revelation was wonderful. I LOVE reading about successful recoveries.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Wow! Is there ANYTHING you can't get at WallyWorld? J/K Your wife's revelation was wonderful. I LOVE reading about successful recoveries. If you are not toooo picky about what you get  Larry
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One small step for a wife, one giant leap for a marriage.
Good stuff Larry. Well earned mate.
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One small step for a wife, one giant leap for a marriage.
Good stuff Larry. Well earned mate. Thanks Bob. And I note that you have moved up from your plateau as well. Well, I think I replied to your thread but if I didn't, congratulations to you as well. It seems to work better when we can see our spouses as real human beings who can really screw up. Larry
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Larry:
Thanks for the update.
Good to hear your W express this revelation...and I know you and your children have paid dearly for her education...sounds like she realizes what is truly valuable in life....although, personally, I would have preferred my spouse state that family wins over just about anything...not just the sex comparison. (Maybe she did express this in other parts of your conversation).
Anyway, I am glad for you and your family.
LoBoy
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Thank you LB - wasn't sure you were still reading here. And yes, she thinks that family wins over anything. See, you gotta humble yourself to get where she got. So did I in a different way. It works.
Some can do it, others are too stiff neck. Some want to blame everyone but themselves for the choices they make. A real grownup rejects that. Problem is we all pay the price, kids included, for bad choices. Pity. . .
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Larry, First congratulations. It seems to me this is quite a step. Don't ask me why, perhaps it is just Fri. But, your post reminded me of an old saying. A child NEEDS what they want, an adult wants what they NEED. Somehow that just popped into my head. In any case, congrats. JL
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