It has been a while since I've checked in here. I've seen some of the same names and faces back to 2002 when I first was on the site. I am so happy to see a few of you find your special someone. I pray you will have a "marriage builder" fruitful and happy marriage.
Well, 5 years post divorce, and time certainly does heal. My kids (2 in college, 1 a senior in high school) still struggle with issues from time to time, but God has really blessed us all. I have attempted several relationships in these past almost 6 years. Each one has failed. I don't know if that means it's still not the right one/time, or if I am just not going about it the right way. I have a very definite pattern, and have mentioned it before here. I become extremely interested in a man and believe "he's the one." We see each other often (too often), and then I totally lose interest. Usually over night. Then I start having extreme anxiety and just want to be alone again. this happens in a time span of 2 weeks to 3 or 4 months. I don't think I've had one go over 4 months. My moods swing up and down, and I find that I am emotionally healthiest when I'm not interested in someone. But then I start to thinking I do want someone, and I usually sign up for eharmony, or get fixed up by a friend, or find someone at a church singles group. I have finally decided that it is becoming a big issue, and I need to get help (duh!) if I ever want to get married again. In another year, my last one will leave for college, and I guess I will start to get my act together soon. I'm looking for a good therapist (hard to find). Any suggestions on how/where to find one?
THanks for listening, friends, and I will try to be on more and see what's going on.
For the most part, I'm very happy and contented. Maybe I am not meant to be with someone.
KK

Check with your church or a large church in the area. I know I got a list from my church of local Christian therapists and doctors when I was going through my divorce.

I guess I feel like I've gotten over the anger and bitterness of the divorce, but now I just don't know how to have a healthy relationship. I am so happy for those of you who have! I pray that one day I will.....
KK

Hi Kay...... I saw your post and I just had to post.... Wow your kids are doing great huh??? Two in college and one going to graduate.... Time flies huh?? My oldest just graduated... she is going to a technical school right now for an 8 month program for Medical Admin. Assoc. my youngest is going to be a sophmore....Also can I just say don't beat yourself up --- at least you have dated my friend - me not so much - just that one little thing I had going on with Mark back right when I just got divorced - since then nothing - like two dates.... I am still hiding in the world of non dating if you will.... It is funny I called my first therapist well the same office back in - May because I really thought that I needed to go back to therapy because well I am just not happy - do you know they said well let me check with the doctor if we can accept you back and I will get back to you - ummm ok July is almost over and I still haven't heard from them.... and yes I know I could have called back but I have been busy.... Actually not busy for me but for everyone else... Ok so if you want you can email me - and we can catch up... mimi_welch@yahoo.com....