Hello All-

Just found out about two days ago that OW is 6 months pregnant with my WH's baby. I know it was a sign from God, I saw her with my own eyes and stopped her so that we could settle some things. I didn't make a big scene, I'm not going to fight for someone that has lied to me and continues to do so. She was trying to run away from me, but we ended up talking. What I don't get through my head, is why he keeps on calling me every day and tellign me how much he loves me? He wants to get back together as a family with our DS. It's been a year ago since he left me for the OW and I've moved on with my life! Obviously he has done the same, why can't he just move on with her? I don't bother them at all and the only times I do call him is to inform him stuff about our DS. It was really a low blow when I found out about the pregnancy but I was expecting it. He doesn't seem bothered by the new baby, but instead is wanting for us to go on vacations and go back to being a family. Why all this feelings all of a sudden? Shouldn't he be worrying about his Newborn soon to come? Why didn't the OW every throw that in my face that she was expecting a baby? Was she embarrased? Apparently not! Someone out there who has gone through the same experience, please help

I am sorry for the news. That must have hurt to see her pregnant. If you have been separated for a year why are you still married? What do YOU want? I don't care what your WH wants at this moment.

Hi Faithful-

When I go on months without having him bothering me, I have so much peace in my heart and LIFE! I want to move on with my life without him. If he is still with OW and has her pregnant, he must have some interest in her. We have been going through with this divorce process for more than one year because he wanted full custody at the beginning. We have agreed on joint custody of our one year old and now we are working on dividing our properties. Why is he like that? He cries and cries, there are times when I believe him, but then I come to find out she just bought him a cell phone.....(come on, someone will not just buy you a cell phone just because). I've told him in the nicest form that he needs to leave me alone and not contact me at all unless it has to do with our child. He washed me out completely, there is nothing left inside of me to offer to him, that I know for a fact. It was devastating to see her pregnant, but I've come to realize that the worst just happened, what else can I expect?

My WH told me the OC is already born. It hurt me really bad. I don't want my M back, but just the simple fact that an other women took over and trapped him. I feel so disgusted because every time he sees me, he cries to me saying he loves me and wants our M back. After a second Child, he still can't get his life on track? Why does he keep hurting me?

i never knew our situations were somewhat simalar.... i am sorry to hear about all of this..... we are close in age and so are our WH and our DC. i wish i had more to say.... i'm just sorry

How are you coping with this? It's so hard for me? Does the OW bother you? What do you tell you WH when he insinuates things?

I am so sorry calibabeus. {{{hug}}}

I have a suggestion - ready or not!

this whining calls for a firm boundary on your part "every time he sees me, he cries to me saying he loves me and wants our M back" .... no no no no


Enforcing your boundary means YOU take action -



Who made You his human trampoline? His human punching bag? His human kleenex? no no no no

Each and every time he starts any of this emotional spillage you stop him before he finishes his first sentence

"NOPE - NOT ONE MORE WORD"

you hold up your hand in front of your body like stopping traffic

each and every time - you interrupt him

"NOPE - NOT ONE MORE WORD"

If he tries a third time - you pick up your stuff and exit without explanation

It's like training a dog - consistent approach with a reliable results - he'll be trained to stop trampling over your heart without a license!

He'll test you for awhile - but without the "payoff" of upsetting you - he'll soon tire of his dramatic performance without an audience!

It is totally within your ability to STOP listening to his whining. His whining hurts you and drags you back into HIS situation. ~blegh~

I really hope you listen to this - it's a skill you will enjoy the rest of your life - disallowing emotional dumping by this pathetic man - it's HIS stuff to endure - you are not a drive-through therapist

Pep