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Hi Bugs,
I am so happy for what is happening your life. It brings me so much hope as you can imagine.
Mark is so amazing with his words. I still do the struggle with seeing what G-d sees, but I'll save that for another day, and maybe ask G-d what he sees in me so I can know.
Talk to you soon.
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From everything that Mark said, this is what I think we all struggle with THE MOST. even when it isn't where you wanted to go when all this began. We focus on the loss, the past, where we thought we WERE going. Right now is what we know, and is all we have to go on, and that can be painful and scary. FAITH, however, that we are heading to where we need to be, and that we will reap the benefits of walking this line, is where it's at. It's the FEAR that holds us down. I have fears of more loss, and whatever that levels upon me. The reality is that there is more mourning to be done, more losses to incur. It's the nature of separation, in my case, divorce. It's a nasty business that wreaks havoc on all facets of your life. It just plain stinks. I have faith that I will be happier on the other side of this; that I will have all I need, and may have what I want in ABUNDANCE. Queenie, IT really is going to be okay, whatever IT is.
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Mark, I love that quote - "when you're going through h3ll, keep moving."
All the MBers here remind me of a wagon train going through the desert. We're all going through H, so we have to keep on moving.
Queenie, hope everything goes OK with your DD.
Keep moving Queenie. I've seen you move a long way in the last few months and I am very proud of you. You are emerging as pack leader I would say....
I'm trying to follow in your footsteps.
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12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
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SL,
We are so in this together, supporting each other, feeling each others' pain at times and moving through it. We just simply get to keep walking in FAITH because the alternative is ICKY and I like you, Luna, Chai and so many others choose not to go there.
Chai, I am no pack leader, I'm just someone like you who just wants to make it through this with as much in tact as possible, like my ability to love another man, my ability to love myself, my ability to keep seeing good in people and life and to know that when it's all said and done we walked through this with grace and dignity and became people of G-d, who can be very proud of us. Nothing special.
We can keep each other moving when life just takes us down a little more than we hoped. I know I am here for you.
You are one special lady and G-d has something magnificent planned for you. No, Mark is right, it may not be what we want, but it will be what we need.
And all we have to do is keep walking in FAITH....
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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
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All the MBers here remind me of a wagon train going through the desert. We're all going through H, so we have to keep on moving. Great analogy. And just consider those of us who have been through the fire ahead of you as the trailblazers. We've been there. We've seen the dangers that lie ahead and we can help you get through to where you need to go. Queenie, I've watched your progress as well. Go back and read your threads at the beginning. You HAVE come such a long, long way. Sometimes may feel like babysteps or steps backwards, but mostly you've made a lot of forward movement! The only major flaw I see is that you're not a Cowboys fan.  (((Queenie)))
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The only major flaw I see is that you're not a Cowboys Bears fan. Sorry...Couldn't let it pass... Mark
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The only major flaw I see is that you're not a Cowboys Bears COLTS fan. Sorry...Couldn't let it pass... Mark Neither could I... see you in week 1 my friend  Can ya tell it's football season yet?
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Who's ready for some FOOTBALL. PM,  Don't even THINK such thoughts....  GO REDSKINS!!!!!!!!!!!
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Who's ready for some FOOTBALL. Ooh ooh.. Me! ME ME ME ME!!! No, not you Mimi.. ME! I'm ready.. good Lord am I ready.. this offseason lasted FOREVER it seemed. Is it bad you think that I have the first measure of the Monday Night Football theme as my startup sound on my work PC?
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Is it bad you think that I have the first measure of the Monday Night Football theme as my startup sound on my work PC? What are you kidding me? From the woman who would get it as her ring tone on her phone if she could afford it because they don't have Hail to the Redskins yet. Yes, I would give up dinner for that one. And from the woman, whose DD knew what a choice it was to take her to the hospital instead of staying home and watching a preseason game. I have come so far in life.....
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Morning SL,
How are you today?
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What are you kidding me? From the woman who would get it as her ring tone on her phone BEST IDEA TODAY.. I'm so doing this.. You ROCK Queenie! 
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Always a pleasure to be of service.
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Football is so much more interesting than baseball. Instead of pulling on their own genitalia, the players whack each other on the gluteus maximus!
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the players whack each other on the gluteus maximus! Personally I think END ZONE seats are the best. Hey Cinders, how goes it. I sure missed YOU.... {{{{{{{{{CINDERS}}}}}}}}}
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Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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Cinders was just looking for a good reason to use the eyes.
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