Hi Jean, good to hear from you. There usually isn't much advice for my sitch. But I still come here anyways.
I've been in NC since Sat., but a plan B is difficult because I am still supervising visits. But I'm thinking about calling that quits too. Meaning he would have to pay someone to supervise visits. It's been a year I've been doing it.
He says he's going to get unsupervised visits but I haven't seen any court papers requesting that, so it makes me think he can't pass a drug test. He promised to show me one the past few weeks that his Dr. surprised him with (he says) at the end of July. He hasn't shown it. So there hasn't been a visit since last Sunday. I'm tired of his games.
There have been him and other women sitings again since last Nov.
Soooooo.......
How are you and the girls doing?
Lady
The girls are good, they hit an emotional snafu when ex moved in with a new GF but they seem to calming down as time goes by.
So...
Lady, what do you want?? (And you can't say "I want H to be a good H).
Is being the long suffering wife fulfilling to you? No judgement here, it can be a fulfilling role. What do you want YOUR life to look like in 5 years and can you get to point b from where you are?
As much as I hate the way my situation ended with the divorce, at least I wasn't in limbo anymore. I completely understand if you say that you will stand by your vows until you are dead, is that what you intend to do? If so, let's figure out a way to make that OK with you (because you don't sound OK).
If you are ready to make some change, then let's talk about that. Maybe plan B with him paying for supervision.
What's the quick cliff notes of your marriage? Plans A and B, some fake recovery thrown in.
Hoping for the best for YOU and yours.
Jean