I have come to learn that when one spouse is spending most of the time at work or most of the leisure time on their hobbies with others, then, thats the perfect breeding ground for affairs to develop.
The late night meetings, the out of town seminars, the after church activities, the girl scout moms meetings etc.
There needs to be a balance and couples need to create time for each other each day. Time to talk and romance each other.DAILY. This is not the time to balance books or do laundry.
This is the time that should be used to reconnect. Affairs start when two people drift apart emotionally. Love deposist have to be made daily into the love bank or soon the bank is empty and you will find it very hard to make a withdrwal.
People also have to take responsibility for their actions. If i cheat its cause its a conscience decision to do so.

Can I get an Amen?

God's Blessings,

Say

My wife kept telling me to come help out in her activities.She kept telling me how people said she was beautiful.I did not hear this as a call from her to come be with her. She spent countless hrs at meetings for church n developed this closeness to this guy there. Thank God it was only a month and nothing more happened but i do look back and realise i can not afford to ignore her.I have made a conscience decion to praise her, to be involved in her life, to compliment her looks and make her feel desireable and to talk about her projects at church or else someone else will.I just thank God it did not get physical and me and her have reconnected so closely after we had a frank talk.
We often forget to mention that at times our spouses will have emotional affairs cause we are absent mentally.Its very hard to win them back when they connect with someone emotionally and then have sex.Remember, DEPOSIT LOVE NOTES INTO THE LOVE BANK DAILY. An apple a day keeps the doctor away

Well, it appears you've learned a little in your 24 hours here, but you seem to have conveniently forgot the most important advice you were given ...

YOUR WW IS LYING TO YOU!!!

We've ALL been there, and she just threw you a bone to get you off her trail, and you picked it up and ran away with it.

You need to stop LISTENING to your WW and start watching her ACTIONS. SNOOP ... SNOOP ... SNOOP!!!

Just read his thread. Another Amen to Myrev's post is in order. Please listen to the advice you are being given!!!! The wool is being pulled over your eyes, Gforce!

God's Blessings,

Say

Congrats on learning what you have and what you have realized. Now onto what is at matter. Listen to MyRev and all those that are posting to you and take what we are saying to heart. If shes not in a PA then at the most you get to find out what shes really up too.

Start involving yourself with her activities and vice versa get her more involved with yours.

TOO MUCH TIME AT WORK + POOR PERSONAL ETHICS/BOUNDARIES ESTABLISHED = AFFAIRS

Otherwise, I would be long overdue to have a A myself.