She is a person who REQUIRES an emotional connection before anything sexual could ever happen. She cannot grasp the concept of sex because it feels good. She had the emotional connection with the OM. She admitted this much. We have had discussions about "sex without feelings" and she just does not understand how someone can do that.
CrushedJim, I can understand your W’s thinking about this since I can’t grasp the concept of just having sex without any emotional connection/feelings too and because of that, especially the thought of a one night stand with a total stranger is a total foreign and ridiculous concept to me personally. However, your W has been involved in an A and at least she should have learned how one-on-one interactions with the opposite sex can eventually lead to the emotional connection/feelings that starts an A… She has proven that she is vulnerable to that type of interactions with the opposite sex and after the pain she has caused you, herself and the M, she should at least have the desire to
never be in that type of situation again and protect herself and her M by having strong and healthy boundaries with the opposite sex… Even if she really believes a person is just a “friendly and nice guy” she should still stay away from that type of interactions to protect
herself from her
own weaknesses and vulnerabilities…to protect herself from developing an emotional connection/feelings with another man ever again… Have your W ever communicated to you what exactly she has learned from her A and wrong choices of the past?
