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Originally Posted by silentlucidity
It's a prank call that Bart Simpson made to Moe's place. "IS There Amanda Huginkiss here?"

rotflmao I think I'll do that too!! Just for the halibut.

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6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

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Hey SL just thought i would drop by and say "hello" grin

It sounds like you are feeling better.

I am sure you will still have rough patches until things are final faint .

I do not have any words of wisdom just thoughts and prayers hug .

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SL,

Walking is both great physical & mental exercise for me. It gives me good time alone in my own head with few distractions. I can talk to God, work out plans, or even just enjoy watching the world around me.

Love, love it!

Do it!

I'm glad you are feeling a bit better - - hope to hear about a great weekend from you, too!


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WEll, I finally got around to getting to your thread...I see that it's still lite hearted here...

I feel like you do...a little low...or at least you were...I don't have a whole lot of motivation to do much of anything right now...pretty busy with work, school, homework...haven't been making it to Al-anon meetings...being that I work so late now...

just a whole lot of lack of motivation...

Well, I'm a work...need to DO something...being Friday, I'm not sure HOW MUCH I'll get done...


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Originally Posted by silentlucidity
I spend most of my time either mowing, floating in the pool, or watching movies.

Well, if those are your main hobbies, try not to multitask, it could be disastrous TEEF



Originally Posted by silentlucidity
I really wish I had amanda huginkiss sigh

MAYBE YOUR STANDARDS ARE TOO HIGH!! :crosseyedcrazy:



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Howdy Rin,

The meds help with the lows. I still feel them, which is actually good, but they don't wreak havoc on everything else. I feel a little more motivated to get up and out, but the money isn't there, so I stick close to home. Meh, it's okay. I do enjoy getting out with my girlfriends now and then, though, which is nice.

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I wouldn't call mowing a hobby; it IS a task, though. When I try to imagine mowing while wearing a bathing suit, sitting on a raft, drinking champagne, and watching a movie on a portable DVD player, with all the flying grass and obstacles, it is kinda funny. grin

The grass is getting pretty thick...


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Ah...I stopped taking my meds last March...AND ALL OF A SUDDEN...I can sleep all night...no more waking up every 45 minutes, an hour all night long...and that was on several different kinds...

I just have to make myself go to bed...I think that if I got more sleep then I would probably feel better...it's like after the kids get off to school, I would love to crawl into bed again...just for about an hour!

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When I try to imagine mowing while wearing a bathing suit, sitting on a raft, drinking champagne, and watching a movie on a portable DVD player, with all the flying grass and obstacles, it is kinda funny.

LOL, that IS funny...bugs, dirt...YUCK!


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Originally Posted by silentlucidity
The grass is getting pretty thick...

Well bikini up and grab a bottle!! laugh

just trying to be supportive

seriously, it's my only real motivation


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Originally Posted by BC the SAINT flirt
just trying to be supportive

seriously, it's my only real motivation

Just trying to help a sister out, huh? RIIIIIiiiiiiight.

I'll take it into consideration. Maybe I'll make someone else mow, while I float in the pool, watching them sweat and get covered in debris. Preferably, said mowing person would be that guy from the movie 300--'cause he is total eye candy, and his voice is fantastic.

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WOW BABY! I can handle that one! I was thinking about hiring someone earlier to cut the cut so that I didn't have to do it!

Some eye candy SURE WOULD do me about right now...

I'm in a MUCH better mood than earlier...one of our massage student's appt. didn't show up and it's been a few weeks since I got a massage...I didn't realize how tense I was...WOW!!!

The POWER of TOUCH! faint grin


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that guy from the movie 300
Must not be the traitor guy. He's the memorable one for me. The rest of them all kind of blurred together. The queen, on the other hand. . . .

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I didn't realize how tense I was...WOW!!!
Relaxation is so important. We BS's carry around so much stress and tension--we need to do everything we can to help ourselves relax.

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The POWER of TOUCH!
A double (or triple)-whammy. Not only are we heaping stress and tension on ourselves, but we are generally deprived of touch, and on top of that it's the deprivation of touch from our spouse that is causing so much of the problem in the first place. I can't even remember what it's like to be touched by someone who I was sure wanted to do it. What a thrill that must be!

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SD, I have to completely agree with you...there are times in the day that I just have to put my hand on someone in passing to get around them, just anything...of course, with a polite excuse me...

I think that's the thing that I miss the most...is cuddling up with someone...to go to sleep...no matter what was going on with XWS...he was always right there...well, most of the time...there was times when I didn't want to touch him at all, much less sleep in the same bed with him...

That's where the loneliness has been coming in...probably the main reason why I prolong going to bed, hence the lack of sleep and we all know what that does to someone...perhaps resting and no having much to do this weekend will be good for me...help lift the spirit some...

What about you SL? Same thing with you SD?

I said a few days ago that I missed being in a R...but the question is WHAT EXACTLY did I miss...I mean, we are all independent, I certainly don't HAVE TO HAVE Someone in my life...not going to settle for less then the best...all lessons that I have learned here over the past few years...

It's a matter of HOW can those needs be met...

BC, I know that you have to have SOMETHING on that one...perhaps if I knew exactly what it was that was bothering me, I could do something about it...

Sorry SL, I probably should have asked all of that on my thread...but SD hit on something for me...



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SD,

IT is not the TRAITOR of the movie that I like, it's the dude who plays King Leonidas.

Anywho, in regards to what Rin is saying, yup, it's the touch. I don't know HOW to get the need for physical affection filled by anybody but a significant other. If y'all figure that one out, lemme know. dontknow



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IT is not the TRAITOR of the movie that I like
You didn't really think that I thought. . . Sheesh.

I guess I haven't been playful enough lately. It's a sign that I'm bummed out.

Or maybe it's a sign that you're bummed out. Overly bummed out.

I'm asking everyone else. Are you breathing?

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Ahhhh, joking, gotcha. wink

I just got up from a nap, so you'll have to excuse me. i also attended the open house and was sideswiped by nearly half a dozen moms on a collision course to MEET THE NEW TEACHER. Zoiks!!!

Breathing? We don't get that round these parts.

Yes, I've been breathing in and out. JUST A wittle wonesome, that's all. sigh You'd think I'd be used to it by now.


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Hey SL,

How are you doing? My life has suddenly and happily become very busy with stuff, but it should calm down soon..

I wanted to check in with you and let you know I was thinking of you and hope you are doing ok.

I'll be back soon.

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Hey Queenie,

I'm makin it. Like I reported earlier, not much to report. Just hangin out with my family this weekend, doing some yard work and relaxin before DS starts his first day of FRIST GRADE. Gotta shock the pool and do some laundry. Ta ta for now. flirt


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Hey SL,

I'm thinking about you. How are you? What's going on?

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Que pasa, mis amiga?

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I demand an update.

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