You believe God created the entire universe, but you don't think he can take care of your adultery, requiring you to take drastic action yourself?

Jeez, you'd think a being who willed the cosmos into existence would get a little more credit from one of his followers...

Perfectly stated!

Intro, yes I suppose it is possible that this guy has a new woman picked out. If that's the case, God will not bless that relationship either. But as far as I can see, we have no evidence of that, in fact not even a hint or clue (unless there are posts I have missed.)

So, as with any other members, I am going by what I see, until otherwise enlightened. And the fact is, he has been living in adultery for 5 years, so I am glad he is ending it.

As far as "Where was God when this began?"

Well, unfortunately He was being pushed away so the OP and his partner in adultery could enjoy their sin. God does not FORCE His presence. But I have known of many cases where God spent years working on someone's heart until they finally repented and turned to Him. Hopefully that is the case here. If it's just an excuse to get involved with another off-limits partner, God will see right through that.

TJ/
I think that's exactly what's happening.

Doesn't matter though, it's obvious that any thread that mentions someones beliefs pretty much pushes your button for whatever reason. The pain comes through loud and clear. Have you looked at that?

If this post bothers you so much, why post on it? Isn't that what you said about posting to suspected BA threads?

/TJ

Most Christians who are in blatant sin choose to ignore that sin... you know... just like a wayward chooses to ignore their vows to their betrayed spouse? Doesn't mean they can't repent and turn from their ways.

Turning from their ways in this case would mean actually ending the marriage.

Not that I want to start a religious debate, but God also allowed the Holocaust to happen.

I personally view all marriages that start as affairs as illegitimate.

And I would ask that those of you who come to a Christian website (and yes the Harleys say that it is), try and show some respect for Christian beliefs. It is disingenuous for you to come here and mock Christian beliefs. It's like going to a Chevrolet forum and belittling Chevys (only worse.)

Then why aren't we all divorced?

Everyone here is either a "sinner" or is married to one. Why are any Christians even here if all of this is so cut and dry for you guys?

We agree on this!

Thank you.

Did I mock Christianity in some way?

I attend service on Sunday...doesn't mean that every person who claims "enlightenment" after being a sinner for 8 years is all of a sudden an honest person in my eyes.

The guy is just using the ultimate excuse for leaving his wife, and has every Christian here cought...hook, line and sinker. Except me.

I don't understand the question.
We are here because we are fighting for our God-ordained marriages, which have been put in danger through poor decisions by one or both spouses.
Yes, we are all sinners, but that doesn't mean we have completely surrendered to sin. We are striving to overcome.

Where did I mock Chrisianity?

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Thanks for nothing MB.

No, YOU did not. Introvert did.

c ya skippy.


bwaaaaa

Wow, Intro, aren't you special?! The exception to every rule!
How'd ya get so much smarter than the rest of us mere mortals?

This topic was briefly discussed in the last Divorcecare meeting I attended. It was said that God hates divorce and that even if the marriage had this kind of beginning, it should be saved.

I am not sure that I agree with that, I am undecided.

BUT, I do think that OP and his wife need to ask her exH what amends they need to make to him. The exH is the victim here, he is the one who was wronged.

If the OP and his wife have not made amends to their victim, then it does sound like self serving whining. IMO

I sincerely hope you're wrong Intro. I guess time will tell.

If he's duping us, does it really matter? If he's not for real, maybe someone out there reading this in the same situation will get their question answered. Maybe that reader will be convicted to make things right in their own life.

**DIT**

Please keep your posts helpful to the poster and stop the religious bashing. We don't want to have to lock this thread.

Thanks

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old enough to not care what you think.