I just keep shaking my head. This poor man isn't gonna know what hit him.

and OW is probably not allowed anywhere near WH's cell phone

Yes, when it regularly vibrates during the evening, and he gets this shifty look on his face.

I know that look!! It's related to the "deer in the headlights" look. :RollieEyes:

Ya know, because I have no expectations(but a lil bit of hope) I don't see what you guys see. I guess since all that talk about, "time just needs to happen and I'm not anyone's time line and I don't want to hurt anyone anymore"{{gag}} I hope he misses me. We also talked many times in the evening watching the election coverage so that was nice. I can't see that he misses he really. Weird sometimes he comes in and hugs kids and hugs me and sometimes when he hugs me he half hugs me like he's not sure what to do or ya know how you hugs someone you don't really wanna hug and then ya kinda pull back and pat type thing? I mean when no one is looking he's groping at me so I guess that's good. He's coming over tomorrow so that's when we'll see him next.

I know that he several time he told DD17 that he was in his car and working on his laptop which I thought was weird that he wasn't in the apartment doing his reports. Wonder why he doesn't go in? I think he talks to the kids outside the apartment from what i can gather. My DD17 said that said something to the effect of I'll be right back as he answered the phone.

I try to send him texts in the evening too, but I am not sure if she works in the day or at night. It seems weird that he can stay as late as he does when he is here. I was thinking maybe she has a night job and he gets home just before her. Who knows. I know he spent the night last Saturday to Sunday and it was a last minute thing because the kids begged him so I wonder what lie he tells her. Maybe she's one of those chicks who doesn't care and that's why he likes her??? I'm sure he told her some dumb excuse that he stayed at his mom's house. I know he's never tell her he's staying at our house.

I really hope OW starts LB'ing in huge proportions.

Anyways, got all my letters and conditions done. I am focusing on doing the best I can to be as happy as possible for Thanksgiving, 19 year anniversary and Christmas/New years. I don't anticipate him being home that soon as He is stubborn. Think I'll have a party.

2 weeks and 3 days left til Plan B. I was thinking I am going to hand it to him in person when he leaves us that night. I am going to look him in the face(is this ok?) and tell him I love him and to read the letter. I don't tell him that anymore since this all started. I think I'm going to put it in a blank card that way he thinks he's getting a card and not a letter.

Such a hard time to implement Plan B but I truly can't spend the holidays with he white elephant in the room, it would draw to much out of my love bank I think. I hate being the one doing this to him during this time of year, but I tell my self that he has no problem doing it to me, so it really helps push me to go forward.

I have all you If I fall apart during Holidays so I'll make it....This will be the 1st Holiday season we are apart since we were 14 years old.....{{sigh}}....I'm going to be ok.

Disneyland is wonderful during the holidays - You & kids - no WH

Big Bear is a great place during the holidays - You and the kids - no what's his name

That timeline gibberish was talk.
Talk is cheap.
NEVER listen to what they say.
His phoning you to chat about the elections was action.
Actions reveal where they are truly at.

Yes, I ended that last sentence with a preposition.
So sue me.

****Pouf****

Turtle is now Sue.

(blowing off the tip of my fairy wand)

:MrEEk:

Oops! I'm sorry?

Did it sting a bit?

(shaking wand that has glittery bits flying everywhere and is smoking slightly)

Dang thing hasn't worked right since my 4 year old put it in the microwave.

Guess who just popped by you guys? The kids ran to the door and screamed mom daddy is here. I guess he had a lil free time between his appointments and came by. He's in the kitchen with the kids.

I say hey you what brought you here. He says well i had a lil free time, so I say well come in can I get you anything.......wow kinda shocking.

back later...

Who wants to lay money of Mr. T2L getting lunchtime "ahemming" in?

Who also wants to lay money on Mr. T2L is thinking that the grass is WAY greener at T2L's casa?

Yeppers.

Gotta love a well executed plan.

Ok so he just left and he shoulda left a half hour ago. He spent at least 45 with me just talking on the bed. He did reach and grab my rear and did hint that he wanted to get some "afternoon delight" LOL but unfortunately I can't-monthly feminine down time-darn!!! But when he did try to grab my rear, I say Oh so ya miss me don't ya and I smile and he says nope I'm just being a guy and doing what guys do. I laugh out loud and I say nope you miss me!

But we layed on my bed and talked and enjoy each others company, hugged, and part of the time I sat on his chest. That's the update for today. He'll be back tomorrow.....

And he shoulda figured out that i'ze gots the greenest grass there is and now he just has weeds and crabgrass LOLOLOLOLOLOL

I forget what they're called, but Cinderella was talking a while back about some catchum gadgets that go...up there...and you can have SF without any mess.

Try and get your hands on one by tomorrow when he drops by again, and tell him you've got another little experiment you want to try out on him.

And oh yeah, he loves your grass.

Soooo... I'm a lurker and am rooting for you x's a million!!!

Just lay a towel down and go for the "ahem"! Extra lubrication, I say! (be safe though!)


<--- back to lurking, but ((((Trying))))






*giggle* @ H (not WH) lovin' da grass!!

Fertilize it baby!

The item is a moon cup, and it was me asking about it
I am going to order one, but I don't know if I'll be giving an update on the effectiveness

I concur with the towel and lube, and just go slowwwww and gentle.

:o) I'm happy to see that I'm not alone!


Seriously. We've had kids, we've "been there, done that" why do we not have to have SF during "that time"??? Our Dh's have already seen all that there is to see, 'specially if we've given
vaginal birth... Yes, I'm NOT discreet! It is what it is! They usually get it!!




Trying, go to working on your man! Girlfriend, he is yours for the picking.... Yes I'm optimistic. Revert back to the ones who have the experience, wisdom, etc... they've not led you wrong, my friend.






<--- hoping for info for hersself... Whilst high-5ing the supah strong-chicks who reside here...


I'm so blessed to be in your company...

Hi T2L,

I've only read the last 10 pages but it sounds so positive for you.

My WH just moved back home over the weekend and I missed a lot of the signals that the MB's tuned in to. He was not having a PA or living with the OW, but she is still in the picture as his friend and colleague.

We have a long way to go!

Good luck - I'll keep checking in on your progress.

K

Advice for recovery please - my WH moved back home