Thank you to all of you here. I have already started being back in lurker mode for the most part for a while. You guys have ment so much to me, and helped to save my sanity more often than I can say. I intend to be here once a day and will keep posting the prayers. If you guys need me just post to me I will see it.<P>I have realised most of our problems (mine and Mikes) at this point have little to do with the infedilitys but with everyday issues we face.<P>I hope you all realise how much you all have done for us, and how grateful I am to God for all of you. I miss you all, but I have to try to stop crawling and learn to take a step or two. No doubt I will fall down and hurt me, if I do can I come back and cry here / <P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

Deb, that'a a major breaktrough!<BR>I kept trying to explain that many times, our problems have nothing to do with the affair, but I know that since we think so much about it, it is easy ( or easier ) to blame them on it, or just assume that the affair is the cause.<P>Understanding that it is not so, is one of the best turning points, and I'm glad you reached it.<P>I too have been away quite a lot, mostly due to a very busy month. But I try to come here as much a sI can.<P>I'm glad you guys are doing fine in that issue. Tha will free you to work on resolving any other issues that have nothing to do with the affair.<P>Take care<BR>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Deb, I wish you the best in your journey toward a strong and healthy marriage. You know you can do it... And you know we are all here if you get that feeling like you can't ...<P>terri

Good for you Deb! I'll be thinking of you and praying for you both - you're headed in the right direction. <P>Lori

Deb,<BR>I realize that most of our problems do not have to do with infidelity, either. <BR>I hope you stay in touch via e-mail. There's a cool Bible study you might want to be a part of - lot of familiar faces.<BR>God Bless you and Mike.

Good for you Deb & Mike. I will miss your postings.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P>

Deb,<P>I am so happy about you and Mike and I understand the lurking and getting away so that you can continue to move forward. <P>I too will miss your posts and advise. I am glad that you will keep posting the prayers. They are of so much help.<P>I will continue praying for the both of you. <P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

HI Deb, Have wondered where you have been hiding and happy to see you are lurking again. How are you feeling? <BR>I think that when dealing with something as painful as infidelity we tend to overlook the growth we make everyday as a result. If you look back to a few months ago, you will see that your progress is remarkable!! <BR>(((hugs))) cl

Dust off your knees now Deb...you can do it!<P>------------------<BR>Joan <P>"Turn your wounds into wisdom..." That really cool black gal who was on Oprah all summer.<BR>