Yes, my unnecessary blasphemy was edited. *whispers* I don't think they'd have even know if I hadn't pointed it out. *whisper over*

My brain hurts.

Not someone up there - someone down under there.

And I see that thread got a lot more scrutiny. If unnecessary blasphemy is going to be edited by the mods, then the fourm guidelines need to be amended to clearly state that unnecessary blasphemy is not allowed. Otherwise how are we to know?

When you think about someone and they appear, it produces an odd feeling.

And, who would ever have known that unnecessary blasphemy was not allowed?

Well it certainly doesn't say in the TOS that unnecessary blasphemy is not allowed.

Thank Go......odgraciousness we still have necessary blasphemy!

They can never take that away from us!

The only louse I've ever missed is back.

I was looking at another thread this morning because basically I am always fascinated by BigK's cat fights. Few do it as well as him. I will also say that even when I first registered with MB, I was shocked by the number of registered users. I guess it just goes to show how pervasive infidelity really is. Over the years I also noticed how few people there are that post advice here. Not really sure how to make that understood but I am trying to differentiate advisors from advisees and my feeling is that there are not that many advisors (at least as compared to 55K registered users). I also believe that there are many people still here by force of habit so I never included them in my "advisor" category. I am also still fascinated (dare I say gob-smacked?) of the significant number of posters who apparently have never experienced infidelity in their marriages and yet still post advice. (As I said before, I really think those posters are alter-egos of the Harley clan).

But I had stayed away for a while and then came back with an update and made a few other posts. Suddenly last week, the wheels fell off. I don't know what came over me but I was just about ready for the big D. So I asked myself what was different. Looking at it logically, I had to admit that gemela had done absolutely nothing wrong or even changed any behavior. She continues to be wonderful. My best guess is that it is just PTSD and I had flashbacks.

My point to all this is that I can understand how those who had recovered their marriage might not choose to remain around here for the long haul. I personally am not capable of talking about infidelity day in and day out without it taking its toll. So I'm sure others have discovered that as well - not all - many people seem to be able to handle this just fine. Great for them. You should learn from the past but not live in it. I think maybe I have another couple of years to go before I will truly be able to say it was all worth it. I am certainly not 100% sure of that today. But I do have that hope most of the time.

Everyone posts advice here for their own motives. Some motives are obvious and some are not. Regardless of those motives, the message is that MB can and sometimes does work. If we could all just follow the three-legged dog theory, it would be so much simpler. And at its fundamental core, MB is the three-legged dog. So the problem is not MB - the problem is us.

I'm not an advisor nor an advisee. I tend to just state what happened/is happening in my life.

It beats me why I keep coming back. I enjoy talking to the other side of the world. That's about it really. Sometimes I think "my" story might help, inform, give hope to someone else.

I joined Facebook recently where I talk to a lot of people I met on the "other" board. Infidelity never gets a mention. I just like talking to people. I am in a job which takes a lot of my time, the rest of the time is family time. The internet is my outlet.

There are a lot of times I've wished there was just a board where you could just talk when you get past the infidelity process. I think I've found that with Facebook.

I know the three legged dog is buried in TKO somewhere but I'm blowed if I'm trawling back through hundreds of posts to find it.

Well Pio - I sure am having fun on that thread! They are so easily refuted.

Actually there only a handful of people that I have attributed motives to for posting. The majority I don't give that much thought to. But there are those few...

Name names.

We want NAMES, you silly foreigner!

Do I hear an echo????

Okay here is a little holiday tidbit that might help some of you not to repeat my error.

I spent nearly the entire day yesterday baking 7 gingerbread houses.

What I hadn't realized at the time is that ginger powder and curry powder look a lot alike.

They don't SMELL alike!

:MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk::MrEEk:

Maybe you could decorate the tops of the houses with rice instead of frosting and serve them as entrees instead of dessert!

Well the clove, cinnamon, vanilla and nutmeg odors sort of masked it. Curry powder doesn't have much smell unless you stick your nose right in it.

The bag wasn't labeled.

I hadn't thought of that. If I lived in England, I could make a fortune selling these!

Pio, I guess I haven't yet gotten a life - other than my homelife-- Maybe I don't count!!!

SAY IT ISN'T SO!!!!!