Did anyone here ever find out as an adult that the man they thought was their father wasn't their bio father? I'm planning to tell my 18 year old daughter about her bio dad in the next day or two. I'm so scared, I don't know how she'll take it. She dearly loves my husband, the man who raised her and has no idea he might not be her bio dad. I know I should have told her earlier, but her bio dad never wanted anything to do with her. (he changed his mind when she turned 18) I pray now that she doesn't ever want anything to do with him. <P>If anyone has ever been in this situation, can you tell me how to approach the subject? <BR>Lisa

Ltaylor: Like your daughter, I did not find out about my bio-father until I was a teenager. However, my life was already screwed up by then. The difference between your daughter and I is that she has two loving parents, you and the man she knows to be her father. I believe you both should tell her the truth. Also, she should be able to listen to the bio-fathers explaination for why he has not been a part of her life until now. Based on my experience, she may be angry and confused at all three of you, but in time that will fade. Be ready for all kinds of questions and comments. In time she will learn more about her father and maybe even grow to love him. BUT, take solice that she will never forget who her real parents are. If your husband has been there for her through thick and thin and has treated her and loved her as if she were his own, then she will always love him and know him as HER FATHER regardless if her bio-father is in the picture or not. Good luck!

sobeit: Thanks for your response. A major part of me hopes she never wants anything at all to do with her bio dad, but I know that's unreasonable of me to expect. Her biodad has other daughters who want to have a relationship with my daughter and the thought just sickens me. Both the OM and his children belong to a religious cult and I'm very afraid of them trying to suck my daughter into it. I'll let you know how she takes the news in a day or two. Lisa