The computer says he's visited 35 times
When I checked the history this morning, it said 35 visits to that page. At lunch it said 20. Another time it said 9. I don't know why the number changes, but 35 apparently isn't an accurate number. In fact, we've been trying to figure out where the number comes from and we've tested out the history with other sites throughout the evening, and it doesn't even come close to accurate. This still isn't an excuse. Zero is the ONLY acceptible number, but I can't crucify him over a specific number. He was very adamant this morning that it was only a handful of times and that he was NOT lying about THAT. I will concede on this point.
He does admit to checking her site a couple times over the last week (and from checking on his history in the past it has only been the last week), and he did apologize and is in complete agreement of my putting on an internet site blocker which I figured out how to do today. (Wish I would have known how to do that from the start. bleh)
We had a calm and rational talk this evening, and we are able to get past this. We both know that talking about the A right now isn't a help to either of us. That doesn't mean that it won't pop up now and then, but I will try to control my thoughts better in an effort to avoid LBs. And he has agreed that he needs to comfort me when I am having a bad time.
We agreed that when we need to discuss ANY issues, we will go to a certain spot in the house (if possible), make it an intimate setting, cuddle and talk about it calmly. This way we can start the talk out in a good environment and hopefully keep ourselves under control. It made a difference tonight.