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Good to see you writing.
Everytime I see you check in I'm glad because that means that you are still connecting and not withdrawing.
I know this is a hard time in your life. Please know that you are in many people's hearts, minds and prayers.
Keep taking things one day at a time, and know that God is watching over you and your family.
Love,
S
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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GG, I wish I could do something special for you. You really do mean a lot to many around here. It also seems that you are doing well, all things considered. Please, keep taking care of yourself. So many of us love you.
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Ha. Today is like that first week. Today is awful. I'm in pieces. But, many thanks Cinderella.
I'm planning to run away in February. If I land near you, I'll look you up.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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You don't deserve this.  I don't know what to do. I've endured so much sorrow in my life, I wish I could take your pain from you.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Just adding my prayers for you.
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Thank you all. I know there will be days like this, where the grief monster is just overwhelming. I'm going to just survive and hope that tomorrow will be better.
Of course, just to make things even more wonderful, Mike's mean cat went outside and won't come back in. It's 22 degrees outside and windy. I call her but she won't come. The nice cat is safe inside. I can't let anything happen to Mike's cats.
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Perhaps we should plan an MB gettogether sometime soon to hug GG in real life.
Does anyone have any time over New Year's weekend?
Is GG available anytime to meet us?
I think there are a few of us near enough to meet, and others may want to join us.
Just a thought. Any interest.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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I'm available around New Years. I don't have the kids from 12/30 until 1/1. The first Saturday of the month is when the "young widows/widowers" get together. I'm going in January for the first time.
I'd love to see you, Newly, and anyone else that's available.
Now, I'm going to go take my sleeping pill and go to bed. (I hate having to take sleeping pills. I never needed them before, but the doctor said I shouldn't even try to do without them for a while. He was surprised that I tried that last Tuesday. I'm also not allowed to watch any more scary documentaries, like those on mummification.)
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GG - whatever you do, please take care of yourself.
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I know that on 12/31, I plan on going to a college bowl game in my town....a local team is playing in their first bowl game in about 28 years. The last college football game I went to with my dad was that bowl game. I want to go to remember my dad. I still have the shaker he bought me.
I would be glad to take any number of you. Well, to have you go with me as I don't think I can affort many tickets.
We have lots of interstate highways here and a nice airport.
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Yes, please take care of yourself GG. Many of us are thinking of you.
When you can see it coming, duck!
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Dear Hold, Many thanks for your prayers and thoughts.
I didn't want to post this over on ENs since well, it just didn't seem like a fit.
I would like to share a prayer that my pastor uses as a blessing every Sunday. He also used it for my wedding, and Mike's services.
Life is short. We haven't much time to gladden the hearts of those who travel with us, so be quick to love and make haste to be kind. And may the blessing of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit be upon you.
I imagine, for those who are Jewish, you can just leave out the last part.
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I'm sorting through Christmas stuff, and look into some boxes I don't recognize. Mike had put them in the storage area when he moved in, and they haven't been opened since.
The second box contains a healthy collection of porn videos, both DVD and VHS. My favorite title that I saw was "Ameuter Spanking." Honestly, I think porn is probably best left to the professionals.
So, do I put it out for my very nice garbage man? Give it to my BIL? Hold on to it in hopes I get my libido back? We never even watched any of it together. That stinks. 'Course he denied he had any, and I know the box wasn't opened since he moved in.
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That stuff...I think I'd destroy it before discarding it. A hammer should do the trick.
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I'd put it out to the garbage...or offer it to someone.
Me, 43
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With all the disruption that can be caused by use of porn, I think I would rather burn it than let someone else have it.
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Me, 43
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Ok, I was trying to be polite.....change disruption to PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGES!
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Sorry....I don't agree....I think it's a case(marriage) by case(marriage) thing. Alot of couples use it to benefit their sex lives. I'm not saying it has never ruined marriages. I've heard that it has. Some women are even jealous of them.
Ultimately it's Anne's decision. I don't want to discuss this too much on this sensitive thread of hers. I'm sure she will do what she feels is the right thing to do for her.
(((((Anne)))))
Ronda
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I see nothing wrong with a little porn in a M as long as its viewed together.
Plan D June 08
Me FBS 36
W 38
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