Well last night did not go very well.
It was nothing but one disrespectful judgment after another.
You've been told to expose, meet her ENs, and avoid LBs.
So you fail to expose and you LB all over the place.
I think that I made a mistake here because I then told her that the next person I was going to tell was her parents, OMW, and her bosses.
Ya think?
She said you are crazy and people are going to think you are and if you tell me boss I am going to get in trouble. shoud I have mentioned exposure?
Let's take a moment and see what you've been advised:
turtlehead, Nov 14:Expose this new A.
Do not tell her you are going to do it, just do it.
Do not rely on someone else to pass on a message, do it yourself.
Expose to your parents, her parents, her work (not just her boss but HR and the CEO), your pastor. Expose to OMW again with hard evidence if you have any.
Mark1952, Nov 26:When your WW tells people about her affair she tells them things like this:
Oh, there this guy that is has been just so helpful in getting me through all this stuff HF is putting me through. It's so nice to have friends you can count on at times like this. I mean HF gas been just so...unstable and acting all crazy and just not seeing that the problem is between him and me and has nothing to do with OM or anybody else for that matter...
And her friends and family say to her, "You poor thing. Dealing with an unreasonable husband and all, thank God you have such good friends as OM..."
That right there HF is why YOU have to expose the truth to them before she can spin all this crap and make you into a raving jealous lunatic.
turtlehead, Nov 26:You call your parents, WWs parents, OMW, and toxic friend. You say:
"I believe you should know that WW is having an A with OM. I am determined to do everything in my power to repair my marriage and make it the best it can possibly be. I'd appreciate any support you can give WW, myself, and our marriage."
You go through the whole list, all at once, and expose to everyone in one fell swoop. You do NOT warn WW that you are going to do this.
Then you write the HR manager and the CEO of their company, and you send a certified letter saying that WW and OM are having an affair and potentially using company resources to conduct the affair - ML has a great prototype letter you can use.
rwinger Dec 4:You need to use some hunting skills here. Stay quiet, keep your plan in place, no emotions, pull the trigger when the big buck comes around.
Full nuclear exposure when the trap has been set.
turtlehead, Dec 8:Expose - massive, without warning, all at once