So i'm planning my Plan A for my WW. It will not be before the holidays, but i need time to plan it to hit as hard as I can. I also may need some time to steady my emotional behavior in the marriage so home will be an inviting place. Exposing it isn't gonna do any good unless I am to look like the better choice.
I'm planning on picking up a digital voice recorder to put in our front room. I work overnight, so while i'm sleeping during the day, she has plenty of time to engage in phone conversations with the OM... I have already overheard her say "I love you.. bye sweetie" to him. And she already fessed up to it, but I need hard evidence of course.
I've begun to write the letter i'll be delivering to the houses of his and her loved ones. which i'll go ahead and post...
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To Whom It May Concern:
This letter is to bring a matter to your attention that may be endangering the familial status of your loved ones.
WW and OM are involved in an extramarital affair that is taking place. If you check the call histories on their cell phones, you will find the two of them are spending an inordinate amount of what should be productive work/family time to further their relationship.
This was brought to my attention a few months ago, and has come into light more since then. And now i have sufficient proof of the actions that have been taken, and the damage those actions are causing, that is tearing not only myself, but my family apart. I fear for the repurcussions of this news on the lives of (OM wife and children).
I have made more physical and emotional effort in trying to repair WW and my relationship than anything else in my life. But as long as this affair continues, regardless of the extent of it, we cannot repair our marriage in effort to save it.
If you have any questions, please call me at xxx-xxx-xxxx. Otherwise, I have encouraged WW to end this relationship. I hope that you will do what you feel would be right for Each of the families involved, and discourage them from continuing this destructive relationship in any form.
Regards,
Me
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Any comments on my approach, method, or questions otherwise?
Here is a link to my original post about the situation.
Situation Thread