This is my first time and I am not sure how this all works.

Basically, I have asked H to live the house 6 months ago.
Apparently, he lied and went on vacation with a w.

I have seen several new women at his Apt. Recently, I have asked him to stop seeing this women so we could try and build our marriage. We have been married for 28 years.

He comes over to the house and he even asked me if he could come over for Xmas. Which I said okay. I have asked him if he wanted a divorce and he says I don't know. We talk but we are not communicating the right way in order to make a mends between us. I asked him to move back home, and he says he is not ready.

He says he does not love me anymore. But on the other hand he is not sure if he wants a divorce or not. I have had a hard time dealing with the betrayal, hurt and anger and recently we always end up in an argument.

I want my husband back but I don't know how to fix it.
Should I e-mail him a letter at work explaining all of the Feelings.

Help, I don't know what to do.

He will not decide to come back to the marriage if he is still seeing other women. You are in a bad situation because he is not at home and doesn't seem to want to come home. Why should he? He gets to have all the sex he wants now.

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