I meant in into reference of why imagine was still up... and you saying you sleep alone.

You and I need to look at the positives. The positive of sleeping alone is there is no snoring. Now, should your snoring wake YOU UP, well my sweet friend, you have BIGGER ISSUES than we can help you here.

Last night I went to the movies with my sister to see "the day the earth stood still"...I enjoyed it,thought it had a good message about looking after the planet better.

I'm really missing my boys loads and the house is so quiet without them.Today is WH's oldest sisters birthday..I wished her this morning and she had not heard from any of her family....I really hope they remember to phone her...I would always remind WH of his familys birthdays.She said the last time she heard from him was when she phoned him for his birthday in july...I told her that he is very selfish and only thinks of himself at this present time, so she shouldn't let him upset her too much.

Tomorrow is a month since I gave WH my PBL.I'm starting to find it hard to think positive thoughts about him.When I think of all his done to me and the kids...

Does he have a conscience? When he looks in the mirror every morning does he hold his head up high?...

Dang Hope, you know that WH and OW are self consumed... Don't let external events consume YOU.

I guess I can empathize with your sitch. All your friends are married and occupied. With DS16 and DS18 out of the house you experience premature empty nest syndrome. So.. your posting to help others is both useful and therapeutic. Keep going at it.

Let me give a belated reply to explain the previous evening's late session: I watch over a couple of forums and get far too involved in their circumstances. I think I only hit the hay around 01:30am.

OT: I could also do with advice as to enabling my HTML. I really would like to use the icons.

Hope have you ever heard about the double a penny a day story? Where you don't think after day two and only two cents any money, BUT at some point, you have recouped not only that penny BUT WAY MORE.... Time honey, give it time and STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM :twobyfour: :crosseyedcrazy: :twobyfour:

Plan B isn't about punishing him or waiting for him to respond and come home. It's about CLAIMING YOUR LIFE BACK, and preserving the love, IF and WHEN he gets his [censored] out of his...... you know....

Darn, imagine, you got to her first.

Imagine, I'm not able to help you with enabling your HTML,my computer knowledge is questionable!

You right, they are self-consumed....I just feel sorry for my SIL, as she has been deeply hurt by WH and I don't think she buys the fog analogy either.

I don't look at my posts as helping others....more just my vents and thoughts.If they help others,I'm pleased to know that....I look at this as my diary sometimes...and my counseling sessions!

Queenie, as always you so right...I'm fine when the boys are home but when they are with WH, I think about him often, and not good thoughts either...I hate that he splits my family like this because of his selfishness etc.

I sometimes wish he would move to another province and just leave us alone.

I still battle with the idea that after 2 years he can be "fogged" still.

Great minds Queenie... Thanks for dotting the i's and crossing the t's for Hope.

I've been thinking I need a new title to my thread...

Any ideas?

How about this for a title?

It seemed so much better than "Stabbed in the back by worthless louse and vacuous moneygrabbing secretary..."

Are you still up Hope?

Hey Hope,

You've been quiet. Just checking in on you.

I asked the mods to change the name of my thread. They have been very gracious and patient as I came up with just the right wording.

Click on one of their names and I believe you'll get their email and ask them that way.

Check in with us, please.....

Yesterday afternoon I found out that WH and OW got married....so obviously the divorce went through....
I was devastated and mt sis spent the day with me...

My kids only knew last friday when WH told them...DS18 wanted to keep it from me till after Christmas.....
They had a small ceremony at their house which was informal apparently......

I have to go to work now...will chat later...

I'm still in shock over this....so much for his wanting to come home..

I had to learn the hard way, G-d doesn't always give us what we want, he gives us what we need.

HOPE, I love you. Please stay closer to us here so we can love and support you through this latest garbage.

You are FREE now. You did EVERYTHING you could. You fought your hardest. There isn't ONE THING I can say that will make it feel better or take the pain away.

You know it hurts, I know it hurts and it's NOT what you wanted.

Find the strength to believe that G-d has a better plan for you. He plans to prosper your life because you stuck with him even in the darkest parts. We don't know the future for you. And it probably just feels like cliches right now.

So what comfort you can take, take this. I LOVE YOU............

Hope, Cinderella just posted this on Chai's thread..

Maybe this brings a moment of comfort....

From Isaiah 54:

4 "Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame.
Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.
You will forget the shame of your youth
and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood.

5 For your Maker is your husband--
the LORD Almighty is his name--
the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer;
he is called the God of all the earth.

6 The LORD will call you back
as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit--
a wife who married young,
only to be rejected," says your God.

7 "For a brief moment I abandoned you,
but with deep compassion I will bring you back.

8 In a surge of anger
I hid my face from you for a moment,
but with everlasting kindness
I will have compassion on you,"
says the LORD your Redeemer.

9 "To me this is like the days of Noah,
when I swore that the waters of Noah would never again
cover the earth.
So now I have sworn not to be angry with you,
never to rebuke you again.

10 Though the mountains be shaken
and the hills be removed,
yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken
nor my covenant of peace be removed,"
says the LORD, who has compassion on you.

11 "O afflicted city, lashed by storms and not comforted,
I will build you with stones of turquoise,
your foundations with sapphires.

12 I will make your battlements of rubies,
your gates of sparkling jewels,
and all your walls of precious stones.

13 All your sons will be taught by the LORD,
and great will be your children's peace.

14 In righteousness you will be established:
Tyranny will be far from you;
you will have nothing to fear.
Terror will be far removed;
it will not come near you.

15 If anyone does attack you, it will not be my doing;
whoever attacks you will surrender to you.

I survived on this Psalm.... Literally survived those darkest hours..

Twenty-Third Psalm

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures;
he leads me beside still waters;
he restores my soul.
He leads me in right paths for his name's sake.
Even though I walk through the darkest valley,
I fear no evil;
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff--they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord
my whole life long.

--- Psalms 23: 1-6

God Is Our Hope

God is our hope and strength,
a very present help in trouble.

Therefore will we not fear, though the earth be moved,
and though the hills be carried into the midst of the sea;

Though the waters thereof rage and swell,
and though the mountains shake at the tempest of the same.

There is a river, the streams whereof make glad the city of God,
the holy place of the tabernacle of the Most High.

--- Psalms 46: 1-4

And these

Prayer for Trust in Jesus

O Christ Jesus,
when all is darkness
and we feel our weakness and helplessness,
give us the sense of Your presence,
Your love, and Your strength.
Help us to have perfect trust
in Your protecting love
and strengthening power,
so that nothing may frighten or worry us,
for, living close to You,
we shall see Your hand,
Your purpose, Your will through all things.

--- St. Ignatius of Loyola

For Those Searching for God

O Lord my God,
Teach my heart this day where and how to see you,
Where and how to find you.
You have made me and remade me,
And you have bestowed on me
All the good things I possess,
And still I do not know you.
I have not yet done that
For which I was made.
Teach me to seek you,
For I cannot seek you
Unless you teach me,
Or find you
Unless you show yourself to me.
Let me seek you in my desire,
Let me desire you in my seeking.
Let me find you by loving you,
Let me love you when I find you.

--- St. Anselm

Prayer for Healing

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes;
and there shall be no more death,
neither sorrow, nor crying,
neither shall there be any more pain:
for the former things are passed away.
--- Revelation 21:4

For Times of Fear

Almighty God, the Refuge of all that are distressed, grant unto us that, in all trouble of this our mortal life, we may flee to the knowledge of Thy lovingkindness and tender mercy; that so, sheltering ourselves therein, the storms of life may pass over us, and not shake the peace of God that is within us. Whatsoever this life may bring us, grant that it may never take from us the full faith that Thou art our Father. Grant us Thy light, that we may have life, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

--- George Dawson

And these....

I Cannot Do This Alone

O God, early in the morning I cry to you.
Help me to pray
And to concentrate my thoughts on you:
I cannot do this alone.
In me there is darkness,
But with you there is light;
I am lonely, but you do not leave me;
I am feeble in heart, but with you there is help;
I am restless, but with you there is peace.
In me there is bitterness, but with you there is patience;
I do not understand your ways,
But you know the way for me…
Restore me to liberty,
And enable me to live now
That I may answer before you and before me.
Lord, whatever this day may bring,
Your name be praised.

--- Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Make Me Brave for Life

God, make me brave for life:
oh, braver than this.
Let me straighten after pain,
as a tree straightens after the rain,
Shining and lovely again.
God, make me brave for life;
much braver than this.
As the blown grass lifts, let me rise
From sorrow with quiet eyes,
Knowing Thy way is wise.
God, make me brave, life brings
Such blinding things.
Help me to keep my sight;
Help me to see aright
That out of dark comes light.

--- Author Unknown

Prayer of Hope

O Lord, in Whom is our hope, remove far from us, we pray Thee, empty hopes and presumptuous confidence. Make our hearts so right with Thy most holy and loving heart, that hoping in Thee we may do good; until that day when faith and hope shall be abolished by sight and possession, and love shall be all in all.

--- Christina G. Rossetti (1830-1895)

The Blessing of Unanswered Prayers

I asked for strength that I might achieve;
I was made weak that I might learn humbly to obey.
I asked for health that I might do greater things;
I was given infirmity that I might do better things.
I asked for riches that I might be happy;
I was given poverty that I might be wise.
I asked for power that I might have the praise of men;
I was given weakness that I might feel the need of God.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life;
I was given life that I might enjoy all things.
I got nothing that I had asked for,
but eveything that I had hoped for.
Almost despite myself my unspoken prayers were answered;
I am, among all men, most richly blessed.

--- Unknown Confederate soldier

Make Me an Instrument of Your Peace

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love,
Where there is injury, pardon
Where there is doubt, faith,
Where there is despair, hope,
Where there is darkness, light,
Where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much
seek to be consoled as to console,
not so much to be understood as to understand,
not so much to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
it is in dying that we awake to eternal life.

--- St. Francis of Assisi

Do Not Lose Heart

Therefore we do not lose heart.
Though outwardly we are wasting away,
yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.
For our light and momentary troubles
are achieving for us an eternal glory
that far outweighs them all.
So we fix our eyes not on what is seen,
but on what is unseen.
For what is seen is temporary,
but what is unseen is eternal.

--- 2 Corinthians 4:16-18

The Eternity of God's Love

O Lord, you have made us very small, and we bring our years to an end like a tale that is told. Help us to remember that beyond our brief day is the eternity of your love.

--- Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)

Queenies right on the button. Except for one thing... You are your own prisoner. Take your time and mourn.

We mourn with you.

Hope,

May I wish for you the warmth of loved ones around you this Christmas.

I give you the assurance that you are being held in prayer and remembered in heart.

May God, who alone has power and authority, grant you His peace!


A Blessed Christmas to you.



From
Imagine, Mrs Imagine and our little Imagination

Queenie and Imagine, thanks for your kind words and prayers.....

I am still shocked that he actually married her....
My boys are coming home today so that will make me much happier too.I don't want to know any of the details of the wedding...

WH's other sister,who is in Joburg,still hasn't been contacted by any of her family to tell her about the marriage.She is very upset and can't understand it.

My lawyers office is closed till 5th jan so I'll have to wait till then to know the actual divorce date.

Friends of ours are shocked that he married her....they say he has loaded more stress on himself, what with the stress of just opening the shop and all.

I will continue to pray for him and to ask God to do His will in my life.All things are possible with God......

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