Nope its me DD. ive been looking for a job all year and havent found one till now... my mom is sleeping lol

Ah, ok. My bad

Congratulations on the job! What will you be doing?

And as far as the letter, don't think your dad won't care. He will, but may just not show it.

When my husband was having the affair, it just seemed like nothing I said got through to him. But then a year later, he started reminding of things I told him. Some of them I'd even forgot.

OK, T2LDD.

Just be kind to yourself if some of this stuff comes up later for you.

Healing is a process with many steps throughout the journey.

Congrats on the job offer!

thanks a bunch!!!
ive been looking for a job all year and finally something is coming through...

Sounds like an interesting job. You will meet lots of different people. Plus it will give you some experience.

Are you thinking of going to college? I hope so.

Honey...

I'm saying this as kindly as I can...but you don't forgive someone WHILE they are still hurting you.

You forgive someone when they stop doing the hurtful things.

Giving your dad forgivness while he is STILL hurting you is akin to giving him permission to CONTINUE his behavior.

Now, if you NEED to forgive him for your heart's sake, you can...but he needs to realize that even tho you forgive him, you will NOT allow him to abuse your good nature anymore.

He is no more your REAL dad now anymore than Darth was Luke's father when he cut off his hand.

REAL dads would cut their own hands off before they'd KNOWINGLY harm their children.

I'm of the mind that maybe you should tell him again that he's hurting you, then let him make all the calls and moves.

He sincerely is depleating your love bank for him.

I am afraid that every time he contacts you and rants that it is one more withdrawl. No one, not even the bravest daughter in the world can live like that forever.

I know you're still a youngling, but you are wise and strong for your years. Keep strong and brave, sweetheart, and give your dad to God for awhile.

AND WAY TO GO ON THE JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Online schools are usually very expensive. Do you have a community college nearby where you could start? They often have online classes that are good, because you interact with other students.

My NYE was nice - I babysat 8 kids while parents went out. It was lots of fun, and it was sure good to see them go this morning.

T2LDD-

Just wanted to chime in on the on-line college thing. Most colleges, even community colleges, have on-line classes. You can check out their website to find out what they offer.

You should consider taking a few classes at the school, because the "education" you get being around people of different ages, nationalities, and experiences is as important as the content that you learn.

Also, some classes are very hard to do on-line. Sometimes having the professor there to answer questions or to demonstrate for you can make a huge difference.

Check out the CC's website and see what they have. Good luck with the new job!

Hi T2LDD,

I agree that you should find a bricks-and-mortar school and if you need to take classes online, take it from them, not from a purely online school. Some of those are scams (the all-online ones) and they won't all be accredited, and you may find yourself having wasted thousands of dollars only to find the credits won't transfer.

Community college is a great place to start. No matter what you decide to major in, there are some basic courses you would need no matter what. Getting those out of the way at community college is usually the most economical approach. They should have an advisor that you could talk to, who should be familiar with which courses can transfer to most of the universities, especially the state schools in the surrounding area.

There are a lot of things you could take that would lead toward law school but could also be used in other careers - I'm drawing a blank here LOL but... oh yes, poli sci! Political science! That may be useful. I really don't know, but a great place to start is with your high school guidance counselor and/or an advisor at the nearest community college.

Oh, and... :happynewyear: ! ! ! !

My NYE was pretty typical - nuts! Lol. My sis was over here with her 3 kids. She probably would have come over anyway, but she was sick and they were all spazzed out from the visit they had Tues with their biomom.

So being the wonderful sister I am, I fed them supper and let them watch TV till midnight.

I nodded off at 11:45, but DD10 woke me up at midnight sharp, so I didn't miss it.

Congrats on the job - awesome! And I could easily see you as an attorney or MC...nailing them to the wall. Or you might be the next, MUCH BETTER Dr. Phil.

You will probably go in and out of anger more than once before this is all over. Don't be caught off guard, as that is a totally normal reaction to what your dad has caused you to suffer. Just remember that what goes down must come up.

The book, Bear's Guide to Earning Degrees by Distance Learning would be a great resource for you. I bought it when my son was a sophomore. It probably has all the information you need to decide if this is the right approach for you right now and how to go about it. My son decided to attend a community college full time his junior year of high school, so he didn't go the distance learning route. When he graduated from high school, he had just under 70 credit hours.

I suggest you and your mom check out Home School Legal Defense Association, HSLDA On the right side of their home page under the "Need Help" section, click on "Homeschool thru High School". Then look under the far right column, "After High School" and click "College Search". On the next page, click "Bear's Guides". It will take you to a page full of information about distance learning.

I could have just posted a link to that page, but I wanted you (your mom) to see all the information on the other pages. It may be helpful, too.

Here's a link about what HSLDA is, in case your mom has never heard of them. We've been members for our entire homeschooling life (13 or so years now).

HSLDA--Who We Are

T2L'sDD,

Just wanted to offer a business woman/lawyer's perspective WRT online degrees. In the real world, they are not regarded as well as 4-year degrees. If you want to get into law school and become a lawyer, you need to nix the online degree idea and look for 4-year schools. DO NOT let cost stop you. There is an abundance of financial aid in the form of scholarships, grants and student loans available. Look for those online, not a degree!

Regards,

BB

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Law and BB, you two ROCK!

T2LDD - my 19 year old is starting college this spring. There is a metric TON of info on the web for obtaining grants and scholarships!

I know your momma would be over the moon happy to help you look - I was to help my Z.

Smackaroonie dearie.
Kimmy

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