Listen. I know where you are at. She is running around, doing all of the things Melody said. You have done many things you were supposed to do, and she still seems to be flagrant about it. Plus, you dont know how to get her out, as there is a legal component to that.

So, you are scratching your head wondering what to do, right?

Okay, you need some battle plans. First off, you need to find out what she is doing. Why? Because she thinks she can do as she wants to, and it is still secret.

I had Army buddies, my brothers, etc. follow her around. Take shifts for a few weeks. They enjoyed doing the covert stuff. They would document where she went with whom. They would take pictures of them going in and out of the Troll's house, etc. And I would get a call or email with where she was.

Added to this, I put a GPS tracker on her car, where I could follow at times or at least get the info of where she was.

Now, what did I do with all of this info? Well, first off, I live in Virginia which is a fault state. Adultery (and even fornication) are Class 4 misdemeanors. So, I was compiling this information to use against her in court.

Second, I compiled this for the custody hearing. Now, adultery in and of itself usually is not admissable for the custody hearing. That is unless it has affected the children!. So, while I am documenting EVERYTHING (including what the children say and do), I use the information I have to show a pattern of neglect by my wife, where she spends most of her time with the OM, etc. I had everything documented, to show where I was, where the kids were, where she was and what she was doing. And showing how the kids were being affected by her not being there. Judges do not like WSs that put the paramour before their kids!

Lastly, I compiled the information and used it to make her uncomfortable. How? well, take what happened just now with you. If you had intel on where and what she did all night, then once she returns, you can say "well, the kids missed you last night while you slept over at the OMs." Her response "You have no idea where I went last night. I actually was over at my GF's house after the party." Your response: "Yes that is true. But then the OM came by and picked you up and you spent the night at his place."

Of course, it will be at this point that her head will spin around and she will float off the floor. "Are you spying on me...following me?" Your response "You are my wife. I know everything that you do." And leave it at that.

You dont discuss everything you know. You make her think she is being followed, the room is bugged, etc. My wife thought she had 24/7 PIs after her, that the OM's house had bugs and cameras, etc. You see, with just a little knowledge, you can make their imaginations go wild.

Now, when your kids ask her once she returns home "where were you, Mommy?" She will respond: "I was at my GFs house. Did you have a good New Years?" You can then chime in with "Kids, your Mom spent the night at the OM's house."

You see, the light of exposure and continued exposure makes things more uncomfortable. If she thinks that everytime she comes home, her actions will be brought up for review, home is going to be a hostile place for her. Not because her home is a hostile place, but because her actions make it so.

My wife's attorney asked me in a deposition once, after seeing the mounds of intel I had on her, "Dont you believe your wife should have privacy? Doesnt everyone deserve privacy?" My response was: "Sure, she deserves privacy. When she goes to the bathroom, she should have the right to shut the door in that private moment. But, in a marriage, NO ONE has a right to secrecy." That shut him up!

How else to shine light on the vampires? Well, I think I read that you dont sleep in the marital bed, am I right? If true...then get your butt back into your bed! Do not let her keep you out of it or lock you out. It is your bed. You are not the one soiling that bed, she is. Now of course, her head will again spin when she sees you laying in that bed. She will scream at you to get out of the bed. Do not budge!! Make her sleep on the couch or even better...at the OM's house.

If she locks you out? next day, buy a door knob that doesnt have a lock on it, install it on the bedroom door, and then sleep in your bed.

Now, due to experience (unfortunately), I have to warn you. WSs, especially WWs, will use this as an excuse to call the cops and accuse you of all sorts of things (abuse, etc) in order to get them to throw you out. You MUST protect yourself. The first thing is to continue to document EVERYTHING. The second is to buy 2-3 of the voice activated digital recorders (handheld) and place in various places (including the bedroom) around the house. Some of them will record all day, only when someone is talking.

At night or whenever she isnt there, you get them, connect to your computer, upload the days intel, and save. Then erase off the recorders and place back in their hiding spots (hide them good, but where they will pick up what you want to hear).

Now, how will this help? Well, when the cops are called,, she will be blathering on about how you shoved her or something up in the bedroom. You ask one ofthe officers to come with you...you go to the bedroom, pull out the recorder and have him listen in to what happened. He will hear you trying to go to bed, your wife losing her mind, she threatening to call the cops, you saying that you arent doing anything but laying in bed trying to go to sleep, and her saying that it wont matter because they will believe her.

Once the officer has that, then he can write in his report what the truth is...and you wont be charged with anything. When you go to custody and divorce hearings, to have police reports backing up what you have been saying...is huge. And makes your wife look like a liar. Which is what she will have been doing.

I am a former inspector general with the Army. Once way to get people to break down and open up is what I call the slow drip of truth. What we would do is put out some truth and then the other perso nwould respond (and try to lie). We would then put out some more, but just enough to refute what they had said. They will now be nervous because they have been caught in a lie, but they erronously believe we have told them all of the stuff we had on him. So, they come up with a second lie. Well, then we let go a little more information, just enough to refute that lie.

After we do that 2-3 times, most people are usually broken down and will begin spilling the beans! And never did they know all of what we knew. Many times, they would begin spilling the beans about stuff we didnt even know about!!

What this long post is trying to do is to make you start taking the battle to her. She was out all night, and you ask her via text where she is because the kids missed her...and oh by the way, bring home cat food. Huh? The correct text (which you would also document) is "Where you all night? The kids have wondered where you were. I told them you were at the OM's house." Dont ask her to get catfood, that just allows her to change the subject!

You must keep the sordid affair front and center constantly. You must keep her uncomfortable at this point. Dont be threatening (never threaten anything...just do!). Be calm and in control. Shoot, one night when she was ranting, and actually hit me in front of the kids, I immediately grabbed them and left and spent the night at a friends house down the street. The next day, we came home. I documented that I had left because of the physical violence shown by her in front of the kids