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You already told us about your adultery. So not sure why you are denying it now.
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At the same time my wife and I were very open sexually, and allowed each other the freedom to have fun sexual adventures (together and separately).
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And again here. Yep, finding the ultimate sexual experience apart from your spouse certainly qualifies as an adulterous affair. Quote below:
As our 'fun' in the past was based around having the ultimate sexual experience,
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I came here because I wanted some advice and perspective on the fantasies I've been having, to find out if they are a normal part of recovery, to find out if I'm going crazy, not to be ripped apart for my 'sleazy' lifestyle. Instead of trying to hook up with sympathizers, why not get back to your thread and respond to the numerous helpful posts? You aren't going to find endorsement for damaging behavior, but you will get help for your marriage IF YOU ARE SERIOUS. [ which I am seriously doubting] I doubt the solution is to hook up with another swinger female on MB, do you? The blind can't lead the blind.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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We're all humans. We all make mistakes. We are all trying to live better, more positive, peaceful and productive lives, and I thought that this would be one place I could come to find some comfort. How wrong I was. Since you couldn't find the "comfort" you were hoping to receive from the open boards, you decided to seek COMFORT from FW in private. Yeah, you're not looking to hook up.... :RollieEyes:
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Since you couldn't find the "comfort" you were hoping to receive from the open boards, you decided to seek COMFORT from FW in private.
Yeah, you're not looking to hook up.... :RollieEyes: Are you judging him? Please don't judge him....  :twobyfour:
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So Jimmy....
Let me understand this.... Your marriage is in trouble because of you and your wifes swinging lifestyle.
The obvious solution in to try and hook up with another woman right?
That's like getting bit by a poisonous snake... then trying to save yourself from death by....
Getting bit by another poisonous snake....
The cure for poison....More poison...
Hey makes sense to me...
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We are two people who have been through similar experiences and may just be able to help each other out, lend each other a supporting ear, and not have further stress added to our situation by people who are far from welcoming. I thought that is what the message boards are for. Why can't you two help each other in the open?
Last edited by why_us; 01/11/09 03:50 PM. Reason: spelling
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LOL Amazing
Judgement gets a bad rap from folks who don't exercise it much.
Guess they don't find it COMFORTING.
*shrug*
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Judgement gets a bad rap from folks who don't exercise it much. MM, Don't be to hard on these poor folks... I don't think it the lack of judement thats the problem.... They ARE exercising judgment...Just like an alcoholic that decides to drive after drinking a few too many... They ARE exercising judgment as well...It's Pi$$ poor judgement ... But it's still judgemet... BTW..... Please don't judge me... I could be making a poor judgment by making a statement about judgement. :twobyfour:
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Promotion of adultery has no place on Marriagebuilders.
* thread closed *
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