Tell her betrayed husband. You shouldn't worry about your friendship because you should not even have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex who is married anyway. It's time to spill the beans, so her husband can start working on their marriage again.
Let me ask you this, if your wife was cheating from someone on the office, would you like for it to continue and no one tell you about it, or would you like one of her coworkers to tell you so you could do something about it?
There is probably a 99% chance that your friend's husband will not divorce her. If he does, it'll probably be because of her actions after he finds out, like not agreeing to no contact and switching jobs.
Thanks Jim,
I thought I cleared up the gender issue with my repost. Her and I are women and are married to men
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OK, so telling the husband is what I have to do...before I do that, I would like to make one more try to get her to do it. Wouldn't it be better coming from her? What I am hoping to find are some stories people remember or I can search for about WS's coming clean on stuff like this after D-Day. Or stories about BS's that were hurt by not finding out. I need some convincing stuff.
Yes, if my Husband was having an A, I would like to get tipped off about it. I guess the Divorce concern comes from the BS's statement @ D-Day that if anything like this ever happened again that he was going to leave.
In no way an I blaming him, but I really wish they had sought some advice after D-Day. They are young I suppose and didn't know any better. It just seems like he said OK, I'll forgive you this time, lets move past It, just don't talk to him anymore. To my knowledge there was no checking up on her, maybe some phone calls, but it makes me wonder...
I wonder if she told him everything... I don't get the impression my friend and OM were in love, but certainly there was an addiction or something that kept it going. The whole thing makes me so upset. I wish in some ways I never learned about this. I keep shaking my head every time I think about it. That and hugging my H as often as I can.