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From another thread .....So, allow me to answer you by quoting Pep from one of her posts on this very thread:
“Quite frankly, if there had been two, I would have stayed until our youngest was graduated from high school and then divorced him.
That is possibly your husband's plan. It would be mine if I were in his shoes.”
Add to that a quote from one of my own posts in this same thread:
“Think long term severely abused wife receiving advice on how to prepare to get away from her abuser, with her children, and not be followed. It takes time and planning and setting some minimal emergency resources aside. It takes creating a place to go to. She better play that close to her chest or even those slim chances at rescue and salvation will be foiled.”
If you care to think on these two quotes for a moment you should be able to get reasonably close to identifying my primary intentions and my objectives. Not my reasoning, of course, but perhaps my goals. As I understand this, your long term goal is to escape ... eventually. What is your approximate time line? I have a follow up question after know your approximate time line.
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Two-and-a-half years, give or take. Several useful and significant things will come together at that time.
‘course, the feces might impact the rotating vanes at any time…
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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Ok- here is my follow up question.
Are you in danger of falling back in love with her while the clock is ticking?
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How did I know that would be your question?
I don’t know. I don’t want to. I am making an effort to prevent it. I’d be a fool.
I think I have changed too much.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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How did I know that would be your question? Because you're intuitive? I don’t know. I don’t want to. I did not want to either. I fell back in love with Mr Pep kicking and screaming ! I am making an effort to prevent it. Like what? The only effort that works is preventing her from meeting most of your ENs. That's what happened to me. Mr Pep deliberately met my needs with no payoff - as he was instructed by our counselor (a former priest who was himself happily married). From my favorite book PRIDE AND PREJUDICE WE ARE ALL FOOLS IN LOVEI think I have changed too much. 
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How did I know that would be your question? .... BECAUSE IT'S ALREADY HAPPENING?
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How did I know that would be your question? Beacuse you know I am a sneaky  devil?
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"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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Because I am your favorite MBer? 
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Because I am your favorite MBer?  Because she's psycho that way... um er. ahem.... I MEANT PSYCHIC...yeah...psychic!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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OT: Pep, have you ever read books by Sigrid Undset? She converted to Catholicism. I've read Kristen Lavransdatter and am about to finish the forth book in her Master of Hestviken tetralogy (written between 1925-1927). I think you'd love her books as I have. She was awarded the Nobel prize for literature in 1928. (I mentioned this because I also loved Pride and Prejudice)
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Married 1976 Me:BS Him:FWS MB Weekend March 2003 2 S's: '77 & '80, 1 D: '82
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Because I am your favorite MBer? Getting warmer... PS: You and Believer were my firsts. MB'ers, I mean.
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"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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I MEANT PSYCHIC...yeah...psychic! Does she see dead people too?
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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Does she see dead people too? Only when I fail at my job 
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OT: Pep, have you ever read books by Sigrid Undset? She converted to Catholicism. I've read Kristen Lavransdatter and am about to finish the forth book in her Master of Hestviken tetralogy (written between 1925-1927). I think you'd love her books as I have. She was awarded the Nobel prize for literature in 1928. (I mentioned this because I also loved Pride and Prejudice) Thanks ! Putting it on my book list... much appreciated 
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Correct me if I am wrong, but sometimes your job is easing passages, not erasing time.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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Getting warmer...
PS: You and Believer were my firsts. MB'ers, I mean. aah-ha! A clue! Because I already asked you that question a long time ago?
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Correct me if I am wrong, but sometimes your job is easing passages, not erasing time.  <~~~ I don't guide souls to the other side if that's what you're saying.
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No, that's not what I am saying.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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You're being too obtuse for my small female brain :crosseyedcrazy:
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