Queenie....you have come so so so so so so so far. You rock!

Hi Queenie,
I have been reading through your sitch little by little. ok ok I skipped about 20 pages! But you have really grown on this journey.

Admire your strength as this progressed and your strong faith with God.

Keep up the good fight. I know I struggle everyday and still can't believe that I find myself here.

take care.

Queenie my darling...

I missed reading your thread for a few days because of time constraints and LOOK AT YOU!!!!!!

I am so proud of you, and am in AWE of the Goddess you are! You are an inspiration to me. I mss you heaps, and i am realling looking forward to getting to know this new Queenie with TEETH!

Queenie,

It really gives me joy to watch your personal growth right before my eyes.

Most of us...(me especially) are all over the board when it comes to dealing with emotions.

I keep asking questions of other MBers, seeking advice, comfort, council, etc.
But you know what? When I ask God the same questions, that is when I feel the most comfort.

This journey that you and I are taking is really not about our WS's...its about US.

For me, and if you think back, for you as well, God has been trying to get our attention for a long time. When what you love the most is removed from your life, I think you have 2 choices.
Give up OR Give it to God!

I am so proud that you chose the latter, I know I am.

Remember, NO ONE can betray your relationship with God! "He will never leave you nor forsake you"

You do ROCK....keep it up!!

Rob

I hope you get a kick out of this!

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I had an a-ha moment. I am so sorry. I really blew that one!!! I apologize if you, or anyone else, found the previous link hurtful...

I have changed the link.

Walk Like an Egyptian

HI everyone,

I wanted to wish you all a wonderful weekend and Good Shabbas. It's been an interesting week at work and I had a few moments of dip in the attitude. But this NEW QUEENIE fights and I fought through it.

WH, he really won't understand what hit him when I am done with him. I have prayed and sought guidance from G-d on how to handle the impending D. Not what I wanted, but it seems to just continue to take a life on.

My job is uncertain and we are being asked to take a pay cut. Oh won't WH love that. I have been lining my ducks up and have inquired about getting profession opinions on how having to move again would affect YS.

I never imagined being at the point where I can totally imagine my life without WH. Again, not what I wanted, but he's a schmuck and I'm tired of being his whipping post. Let him have rode hard and put away wet in joy and happiness and beat up on her. It won't really affect her looks.

I'm going to try and get my laptop up and running so I can lay in bed and catch up on people's thread, if not, I'll be back this weekend. I am attending a Step 11 workshop on Saturday which I am very excited about. I also started going to a meeting where I am learning to be a better sponsor, it's not on AA conference approved literature, but it's a great book and applies so well in life.

My love and heart felt warmth and support to you all. I miss you guys a lot.

This is queenie



This is WS alien




This is queenie telling WS to her hiney.


This is WS


WS's life is retched and about to get worse. This is queenie enjoying the show


Your life, on the other hand, has no limitations! You be da QUEEN!

You are so CORRECT SMB, however, as long as G-d leads me there is no limitations.

And if I FORGET that... Then I am SUNK....

Shabbat Shalom, Queenie.

Hey Queenie Girl, what's up?

Yeah, you ok, woman?

bumping up.

How are you doing Queenie?

So happy for you! I've been praying for this for a wile now. Well done! Fell better already, doncha?

Hi there,

Gosh I have missed this place. My computer at home, actually both of them are feeling sick and I haven't been able to log on at work. I don't have the money to get the computers fixed, but I am having faith they will be ok soon.

I am actually doing ok. I'm going to just be honest and lay it out - I went on a date. A real date, where someone opened the car door for me, the door to the restaurant, where someone smiled at me because he thought I had something interesting to say and where someone thought that I wasn't a piece of garbage.

I know, I'm married, and I'm not ready for ANYTHING. But I'm not ashamed, I have done EVERYTHING I could to make this M recover. I'm not even going to that place that sucks me down and destroys what G-d has built up in me.

No word on the D yet, I haven't had a chance to meet with the lawyer and give him the financials as QUEENIE sees IT. Which is probably WAY DIFFERENT than WH. But GUESS WHAT - I DON'T CARE.

As for the dating, I'm not really dating. I went out on ONE date. I may choose to do it again. OR NOT, but I prayed and prayed about this and let G-d lead me.

My son signed up and is a Navy man. He took his physical and skills test this week and has become a member of the armed services. My YS seems to be doing a little better, I was finally able to sign him up for lacrosse which should be good for him. His grades sucked and so I came up with a responsibility chart for all family members including myself and DD. It hangs on my refrigerator and shows exactly what will happen to the children if they don't do what they are supposed to.

I'm getting ready to go on mid-winter break and don't have much planned except for maybe a little cleaning GODDESS style.

Oh did anyone hear the news..... about the man who executed his wife in San Jose, CA. Well it turns out, he lived in my apt complex, and in fact it was on the news last night AND he had enrolled his kids in our school.. The woman I work with remembers him and remembers the conversation about him moving up here and his job. Who would do that?

Unfortunately we all here have learned exactly what people are capable of even when it's out of character.

My - long time no see. I was wondering if I would get the thumbs up for you.

OMG!!! Excellent news....delighted for you! So give us all the details, feels GREAT doesn't it! And just relax, enjoy it, you don't have to marry the guy!


Thats great! Good secure pensionable job! Pretty exciting too, travel.......great!


DEFINITELY THUMBS UP! BRILL NEWS!

Divorce first...

SMB was certain TST was never coming back.

She was sure she'd never take him back, too.

Whoops...

I really am happy that you had a good time and that it helped you to see the value you really have and that others can see it too.

But divorce first...

Too easy to fall in love when our Love Bank is bankrupt. That old addiction thing kicks in and...

Well, you know how it goes.

Not saying you don't deserve to be happy and fulfilled, just reminding you to be done legally before beginning again.

You've waited this long, Queenie. You can wait till it's official without drying up and blowing away.

Then you can have all the dates you want and never have to wonder "What if?" ever again.

Mark

You have got to be kidding me! You can't seriously be comparing Queenie's sitch to SMB? Queenie's WH has been gone YEARS!!!

So you want her to sit at home in case her WS should deside to come back? Honestly! Give the girl a break! Queenie DESERVES this. You GO girl!

Vladie (mfil), you just like to justify your own situation and are telling someone not to listen to sound advice. Please don't call Marks advise absurd. Unlike you he has been with Queenie since the begining and he knows that as a Jewess, Queenie needs to accept Gods laws, NOT the worlds views.

TST - Please don't call me out on a thread that is NOT YOURS again. If Queenie has a problem with my advise then so be it.

And yes I am DELIGHTED Queenie is getting out on the dating scene and enjoying herself!

Ok the reason Queenie's had such a hard time moving on is because sit and wait for you WH to come back type of advise is holding her back.

HE IS NOT COMING BACK! He's been living with crack ho for 2yrs!
I suppose next you'll tell me he's a fogged out zombie who doesn't know what he's doing!

Queenie, I am glad you have had the attitude boost and the affirmations of a date EXCEPT I ,like Mark, would like to see you wait until you are single before you do it again. The world won't end but I don't want to see you get fixated on something not healthy for you.

You know, you have to finish the battle before you can declare it over.