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You've got a thing or two to learn about me baby 'cause i ain't taking it no more and i don't mean maybe You'll don't know right from wrong Well the love we had is gone So blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating, Two-timing, double dealing Mean mistreating, loving heart
Well all i wanted was to be your one and only And all i ever got from you was being lonely Now that dream is laid to rest 'cause you have failed the test Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating, Two-timing, double dealing Mean mistreating, loving heart
Are you headed for a heartache, oh yeah Gonna get a bad break, oh yeah You made a bad mistake, oh yeah Well, you're never gonna find another love like mine Someone's gonna do you like you done me honey And when she does you like she'll do you, it ain't funny You'll need some sympathy But don't be calling me Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating Two-timing, double dealing Mean mistreating, loving heart
Are you headed for a heartache, oh yeah Gonna get a bad break, oh yeah You made a bad mistake, oh yeah Well, you're never gonna find another love like mine Someone's gonna do you like you done me honey And when she does you like she'll do you, it ain't funny You need some sympathy But don't be calling me Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating Two-timing, double dealing Mean mistreating, loving heart
Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating, two-timing, double dealing Mean mistreating, loving heart
My DH and I heard this song in the car one night during my snooping stage of this A ordeal. I knew at that point and I cranked it up and started to sing along. He talked over the song trying to drown it out. I couldn't help it.
Sometimes I can't help but crank up songs like this even now. I guess there's some residual anger left. Oh well my bad.
During the last car ride I will ever take with my ex, Carrie Underwood's Before He Cheats song came on. I cranked it up and sang along. And my ex drives a 4 wheel drive with leather seats, and OW is a bleached blond tramp. So it was very fitting.
To be honest, songs about cheatin' always depressed me. Now they depress me ever more. I'm a die-hard romantic/idealist, which means I'm still looking for things as they should be as compared to the downer side of life.
This song has been my favorite since the first time I heard it, back in high school. It sums up what we're all really after, anyway. I've been listening to it a lot over the past two months, trying to remind myself what the ultimate goal is. It's kept me going, to be honest.
"Bargain" written by Pete Townshend
I'd gladly lose me to find you I'd gladly give up all I had To find you I'd suffer anything and be glad I'd pay any price just to get you I'd work all my life and I will To win you I'd stand naked, stoned and stabbed
I'd call that a bargain The best I ever had The best I ever had
I'd gladly lose me to find you I'd gladly give up all I got To catch you I'm gonna run and never stop I'd pay any price just to win you Surrender my good life for bad To find you I'm gonna drown an unsung man
I'd call that a bargain The best I ever had The best I ever had
I sit looking 'round I look at my face in the mirror I know I'm worth nothing without you And like one and one don't make two One and one make one And I'm looking for that free ride to me I'm looking for you
I'd gladly lose me to find you I'd gladly give up all I got To catch you I'm gonna run and never stop I'd pay any price just to win you Surrender my good life for bad To find you I'm gonna drown an unsung man
I'd call that a bargain The best I ever had The best I ever had
---- Me: BH (49) Her: WW (47) Sons: 23, 22 EA 3/07?-12/08 PA 6/07-10/08 D-Day 11/12/08 NC established 1/1/09
A good start to what could be a great '09. Or not.
BH 52 FWW 50 S26 S24 EA 3/07-1/09 PA 5/07-10/08 NC finally established after eight false starts: 1/23/09 Final Version of Events 6/09 In a solid Recovery, and lucky beyond belief.
Death Cab for Cutie's Crooked Teeth still describes my situation to a tee.
It was one hundred degrees, as we sat beneath a willow tree, Who's tears didn't care, they just hung in the air, and refused to fall, to fall.
And I knew I'd made horrible call, And now the state line felt like the Berlin wall, And there was no doubt about which side I was on.
Cause I built you a home in my heart, With rotten wood, it decayed from the start.
Cause you can't find nothing at all, If there was nothing there all along. No you can't find nothing at all, If there was nothing there all along.
I braved treacherous streets, And kids strung out on homemade speed. And we shared a bed in which I could not sleep, At all, woo, hoo, woo, hooOoOo.
Cause at night the sun in retreat, Made the skyline look like crooked teeth, In the mouth of a man who was devouring, us both.
You're so cute when you're slurring your speech, But they're closing the bar and they want us to leave.
And you can't find nothing at all, If there was nothing there all along. No you can't find nothing at all, If there was nothing there all along.
I'm a war, of head versus heart, And it's always this way. My head is weak, my heart always speaks, Before I know what it will say.
And you can't find nothing at all, If there was nothing there all along. There were churches, theme parks and malls, But there was nothing there all along.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
Definitely Chris Daughtry. These songs really hit home.
1. What About Now?
2. It's Not Over
3. Over You
And Kellie Pickler has a new one regarding a cheating husband getting remarried. It's called "Best Days of Your Life" and was co-written by Taylor Swift. Can see it on Youtube.
I recently discovered Verizon Ringbacks on my cell phone. As I discovered, the really cool part is you can have custom ringbacks for certain people! Here's some from the last month for whenever STBXWW calls:
1. Dueling Banjo's (OM is WW's 2nd cousin) Luckily WW still has not figured out the reference.
2. Spiderwebs (No Doubt) "It's all your fault, I screeeeeeen my phone calls!" This is good choice for those who are in a Dark Plan B as well.
3. Throwing it All Away - Genesis
Me BH 49 WXW 50 Married 1998 DS 2002 DD 2005 D Day 1 7/28/08 D Day 2 8/19/08
I love Merle Haggard and just a couple months ago heard this song - "Place to Fall Apart". You can watch/listen to the video on YouTube.
I'll Prob'ly Never See You Eye To Eye A-gain This Letter's Meant To Be My Last Fare-well But You Need To Under-stand I'm Nearly Crazy You Need To Know My Life Has Gone To Hell
Write Me Back And Tell Me Why It Ended Send A Letter That I Can Show My Heart I'll Be Somewhere Between I Love You And What You're Feeling Now Lookin' For A Place To Fall A-part
Looking For A Place To Fall A-part Trying To Find A Place That I Can Leave My Heart I Need To Be Somewhere Hidin' When I Feel The Teardrops Start Lookin' For A Place To Fall A-part
I Can't Seem To Justify Your Leavin' Me I'm Be-wildered As To How It All Came Down I Thought Everything Was Fine Until Your Phone Call The Call That Turned My World A-round
Send Me Word And Tell Me Why It Ended I Need Some Final Proof To Show My Heart I'll Be Somewhere Between I Love You And What You're Feelin' Now Lookin' For A Place To Fall A-part
Your cheatin' heart will make you weep You'll cry and cry and try to sleep But sleep won't come the whole night through Your cheatin' heart will tell on you When tears come down like falling rain You'll toss around and call my name You'll walk the floor the way I do your cheatin' heart will tell on you When tears come down... Your cheatin' heart will tell on you
Today seems like a good day to burn a bridge or two The one with old wood creaking burn away right on cue I try to be not like that but some people really suck Some people need to get their axing chalk it up to bad luck
I know a drugstore cowgirl so afraid of getting bored She's always running from something so many things ignored I might do that stuff if it didn't make me feel like [censored] I'm on some old reality tip so many trips in it
Beautiful disaster Flyin' down the street again I tried to keep up You wore me out and left me ate up Now I wish you all the luck You're a butterfly in the wind without a care A pretty train crash to me and I can't care I do I don't whatever
I know a drugstore cowgirl so afraid of getting bored She's always running from something so many things ignored I try to be not like this but I thought it'd make a good song There's nothing to see shows over people just move along
Beautiful disaster Flyin' down the street again I tried to keep up You wore me out and left me ate up Now I wish you all the luck You're a butterfly in the wind without a care A pretty train crash to me and I can't care I do I don't whatever
I have days where I hate my job, This little town and the whole world too And last sunday when the bengals lost Lord it put me in a bad mood
I have moments when I curse the rain Then complain when the suns too hot I look around at what everyone has And I forget about all I've got
But I know Im a lucky man Gods given me a pretty fair hand Got a house and piece of land A few dollars in a coffee can My old truck's still runnin' good My tickers tickin like they say it should I've got supper in the oven A good woman's lovin And one more day to be my little kids dad Lord knows I'm a lucky man
Got some friends that would be here fast I could call em any time of day Got a brother who's got my back Got a momma who I swear's a saint Got a brand new rod and reel Got a full week off this year Dad had a close call last spring It's a miracle he's still here
[chorus]
My old truck's still runnin' good My tickers tickin like they say it should I got supper in the oven A good womans lovin' And even my bad days aint that bad Yeah I'm a lucky man
I wish you could see me now I wish I could show you how I'm not who I was I used to be mad at you A little on the hurt side too But I'm not who I was
I found my way around To forgiving you Some time ago But I never got to tell you so
I found us in a photograph I saw me and I had to laugh You know, I'm not who I was You were there, you were right above me And I wonder if you ever loved me Just for who I was
When the pain came back again Like a bitter friend It was all that I could do To keep myself from blaming you
I reckon it's a funny thing I figured out I can sing Now I'm not who I was I write about love and such Maybe 'cause I want it so much I'm not who I was
I was thinking maybe I I should let you know I am not the same But I never did forget your name Hello
Well the thing I find most amazing In amazing grace Is the chance to give it out Maybe that's what love is all about
I wish you could see me now I wish I could show you how I'm not who I was
Three thirty in the morning Not a soul insight The city's lookin' like a ghost town On a moonless summer night Raindrops on the windshield There's a storm moving in He's headin' back from somewhere That he never should have been And the thunder rolls And the thunder rolls
Every light is burnin' In a house across town She's pacin' by the telephone In her faded flannel gown Askin' for miracle Hopin' she's not right Prayin' it's the weather That's kept him out all night And the thunder rolls And the thunder rolls
The thunder rolls And the lightnin' strikes Another love grows cold On a sleepless night As the storm blows on Out of control Deep in her heart The thunder rolls
She's waitin' by the window When he pulls into the drive She rushes out to hold him Thankful he's alive But on the wind and rain A strange new perfume blows And the lightnin' flashes in her eyes And he knows that she knows And the thunder rolls And the thunder rolls
The thunder rolls
And the lightnin' strikes Another love grows cold On a sleepless night As the storm blows on Out of control Deep in her heart The thunder rolls
She runs back down the hallway To the bedroom door She reaches for the pistol Kept in the dresser drawer Tells the lady in the mirror He won't do this again Cause tonight will be the last time She'll wonder where he's been
You may not know it, but I was once a country bumpkin and one of my favorite bands was Alabama. I saw them many many times and actually had the opportunity to talk with them on their tour bus. Anyhoo, here is a song that really defined my view of what NOT to do in M as a teen growing up. Never in a million years did I think I would be on the receiving end of it, but what you gonna do.
I'm gonna send this one out to Not2Fun and the other ladies at MB that find themselves at a crossroads...
Alabama - Lady Down On Love
Its her first night on the town since she was just eighteen, a lady down on Love and out of hope and dreams. The ties that once bound her now are broke away, and shes like a baby, just Learning how to play.
She never thought that love could ever end so soon. Her mind drifts back in time to a mid-summer moon when he asked her to marry And she glady said o.k. And a woman came to be from the girl of yesterday.
Now shes a lady down on love. She needs somebody to gentley pick her up. Shes got her freedom, but shed rather be bound to a man who would love her And never let her down.
Well, I know a lady thats down on her love, cause I used to hold her and Have that special touch. But work took me a way from home late at nights, and I wasnt there when she Turned out the lights. Then both of us got lonely and I gave into lust, and she just couldnt live With a man she couldnt trust.
Now shes a lady down on love. She needs somebody to gently pick her up. She's got her freedom, but shed rather be bound to man who would love her And never let her down. Now shes a lady down on love.
L4, I don't know how long I can keep it going, but we'll see.
Not2Fun...Paging Not2Fun...Don't miss the dedication to you on this thread...
Mark
I didn't......
And no, there will be no "pistol" whipping going on here.....remember, SRN is in retirement...... ....well, ESPECIALLY right now with the surgery and all......
Hey, did you see I FINALLY edited my thread links????.....Looks like Not is getting a little smarter in her old age...... ....this is what happens when you have nothing better to do and physically you CAN'T do anything......lol
....well, ESPECIALLY right now with the surgery and all...... 
....this is what happens when you have nothing better to do and physically you CAN'T do anything......lol