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Re: DO I move on or do I work at it??
sampleman #2221232 02/26/09 04:59 PM
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You were more honest about your intentions when you went out to the bar, and that's something.

Why, when you know that honesty is the thread your marriage is hanging by, did you lie to your wife and tell her you didn't intend to hook up with any of those women?

What precautions are you planning on putting in place to ensure that this never happens again?

Figure out the answer to both of these questions.
Then tell your wife the complete truth.
Tell her why you felt compelled to lie about it.
Tell her what precautions you are putting in place.

Come back here and tell us how she reacts.

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Re: DO I move on or do I work at it??
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i did this earlier. she said she didnt care, we are done. then, we were together for a few hours this afternoon and everything was cool. but when i do talk to her, she shuts it out. she says it doesnt matter anyway, she has no love left. the love is there. she was staring in my eyes like only i know how she does today a few times. but she acts empty and doesnt want to hear anything when i come out with the truth. does she really not care, or is that the forcefield up??
Re: DO I move on or do I work at it??
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so we talked last night so long on the phone she fell asleep listening to me ha. i was very truthful about the past, i told her i lied because i always thought i could get away with things, and i told her i am working on becoming a better me, and learning who i am. she said thats fine, make sure you do for you, and your children. thats all i need to be concerned with right now, not her. i bit my tongue, but didnt lash out. she told me she has no faith, and could care less what happens at this point. she prayed to God to take all her love for me away....the same God I am praying to to bring us close again. getting any affection from her is a miracle right now.
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