I'm writing this because my wife of 19 years and 3 wonderful girls, has mentally checked out of our marriage once again, and I fear she is cheating. She cheated on me three years ago, which was discovered and I went through 3 months of hell winning her back, but only because he left for another woman. Now, once again, she is leaving home, for AA recovery meetings, but she's gone for 3-4 hours at a time. He behavior towards me is exactly the same as it was 3 years ago. I told her that I suspect and feel that she is having an affair.

She's says now that she doesn't want to be in a loveless marriage, that she is happier away from home. I am emotionally crushed and terribly lonely. She's been avoiding having conversation with me in the evenings. I love my wife and want her back but not sure that I can forgive her again.

I told her to leave the other night if she was having another affair. She didn't. I'm not sure what to do next?

She's agreed to go to counseling, but asked me what I was expecting to get out of it? I though the comment was not constructive.

Please help

If she is AA then she will not get a great deal of assistance from this program. Alcoholics must recover first.

You need to monitor her path using a cell phone record of where she is going. Have a friend of yours follow her around.

Snoop.

sorry to have you here under these terms,

your gut is probably right, but if you cant be sure then you need to find out,
ck emails, phone service, you or someone else follow her, go into her personal belongings, ck out the inside of the car when she comes in the house; under the seats, glove box etc...be the master snoop.
She didn't admit to the last A right? you had to find out on your own? odds are she won't, on her own, admit to this one, even when there is admittance it usually is coupled with lies.

sorry you are here! I have been through this personall he[[ twice...and if there is one thing I have learned from all of this, it's to trust my gut feeling.

I agree with previous poster...SNOOP!

- GPS her car
- Voice recorder in her car
- track her texts
- monitor her cell phone (if she's got a smartphone check out flexispy.com)
- install keylogger on computer
- check her e-mail
- hire a PI to follow her

Do everything you can to verify that there is no OM. You must know for sure before making any decision about your marriage.

Snoop, snoop, snoop, snoop...