SE,

Please have no doubt that you did the right thing in confronting OM. He is a POS that deserves confrontation. My W's OM also deserved it, and me being Irish, made sure he got just that.
I applaud you for having more constraint than I did. I left OM after initial confrontation with a few scars he won't forget.

But that wasn't good enough for me, as I followed up up with a couple of more visits, just to make sure he perfectly understood my position. Dang, these POSOM have such a hard time understanding how fragile life is. :twobyfour:

After reading all this, I asked my W if she thought the less of me for these confrontations, and she answered no. You showed your devotion to me and family, and just how far you would go to protect it. It meant something meaningful to her to know that. She now understands the depth of my love for her and how far I will go to protect the one thing in my life that is worth fighting for......HER!!!!!

SE, you were not wrong in what you have done, and I applaud the fact that you are ready to do battle for your family.

All Blessings,
Jerry

Please check out this thread,

Mike could use some support from those of you in favor of threats and violence to the OM.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2223103#Post2223103

Shinethrough:
It seems to me most of us in the MB forums do have an emotional stake in our Ms. I think it's rational to protect that, even on a physical level if need be. I know my W if still worth it.

And I say "good for you SE."

All Blessings,
Jerry

oh please. Dishonest and inflammatory, 6years. No one has advocated violence. Shame on you..

You have absolutely not a shred of evidence that would link any violent act to this board, yet you persist in spouting this nonsense. Please spare us the high drama.

I am totally different as well, but my fwxw and I did the exact same thing. We were on FIRE. The moment she confessed we had awesome sex, we even went on a romantic trip right away, but the resentment became FAR too much to bare. She had a LTA so maybe that will be the difference. You are also MUCH more proactive than my FWxW. Thats speaks volumes. I would continuously apologize and not let him take any of the blame for the A. Keep reinterating it was your choice, he had nothing to do w/ it. I do think you are on track and I pray it all works out for you two. DUDE

Both ScrambledEgg and ShineThrough have advocated violence. I think from the scars comment that ShineThrough has committed violence.

ShineThrough said



ScrambledEgg said


The point I'm trying to make is that a physical confrontation in an emotional state is unwise. I was already saying that violence was a possible result before Mike had his latest problem.

Well you failed miserably in making that point because what *I* heard was cheap shots at ML and others.

Exactly Ggirl,

It is risky and I think it would be nice if people here would advise the BH to use a phone call or something where tempers do not get out of control.

Sorry I missed your reply through all the flames.

And I think based on your sreename, you are unwilling to confront an assualt on your M and are simply counting down your
"6Yearsleft".

You must be in purgurtory or something.

How are you holding out?


This sounds like a death by a thousand cuts. How's that working for you?


All Blessings,
Jerry

But... no one advised Mike to confront the OM. He is months past Dday. And certainly no one told him to assault the OM. In fact, folks told him otherwise.

Do you have some direct evidence that Mike was influenced against his will to commit an assault on the OM by this board? I would like to see the evidence that brought you to that conclusion, please.

Lets see the evidence, 6years.

Hey Jerry,


I'm divorced, the 6yearsleft is how I came to MB. I did read you post to say that you actually injured the OM. I'm not castigating you just pointing out that such a confrontation can go badly for the BH both physically and legally.

Melody,

You just said no one, then I provide quotes. Then you switch the subject. I never claimed you advised Mike. I claimed you supported these confrontations and by implication the threats that they contain. The violence is a foreseeable outcome of these confrontations and it can put the BH in an even worse situation.

Evidence please. I have been here for 8 years and we have told hundreds of BS's to confront OPs with no reports of violence. So, the evidence would appear to contradict your point. Do you have some evidence that would support your claim?

In other words, you have no evidence. If "violence is the foreseeable outcome" of these confrontations, I would like to see the evidence. I have been here for 8 years and have yet to see any evidence.

Please enlighten us, 6years.

In fact, HUNDREDS have been told this since I have been here, so if your assertions are true, 6years, there should be PLENTY OF EVIDENCE.

Lets see it, please.

Would the violent crime statistics around adultery suffice? I can look them up but I would prefer to use Mike as evidence that it can occur.

Mike is a veteran at MB and he should never have started his conflict with the OM.

Aren't you making my case by responding to my reply to ShineThrough? He actually said that he injured the OM.

But that is not evidence. I have not seen any evidence that anyone here influenced Mike, against his will, to assault the OM. No one even told him to confront the OM. Just the reverse; several told him specifically NOT to go near the OM.

So, I guess that sort of blows your implication that the board somehow asserted power over Mike and make him commit a violent act.

Unless you have evidence to the contrary, I am going to have to conclude that your implication is completely groundless and disingenuous.

do you have anything to support your allegations?

Is that because of the forum or because of Jerry? Did the forum make him do that?

Again, you are still making bizarre assertions without any evidence, 6years. That which is asserted without evidence can be DISMISSED the same.