Well she has to have a place of residence to be a SAHM doesn't she?

I don't think things rent-wise are going to get any easier now that shes unemployed.

Even with state benefits, it takes time for the gub'mint check to arrive, and thats if her employer decides to not fight her unemployment.

I think a list is a fantastic idea. Start compiling now, but hold off giving it to her until you have custody of the children. I think that the sister and the mom should give it to her. NOT Pbiker


Make is a detailed list of what you both gave up as a matter of face. Column A will be Husband, Column B will be wife and column C will be POSOM. She will be out on the street soon or at her moms.

WW has already threatened to have child support modified due to her unemployment. I doubt it would go through - the courts would collapse if everyone who lost their job filed to modify their child support obligations.

It "Child" support not "Soon to be Ex" support, that is called alimony!!

Luckily WW is not eligible for alimony - in DE, as soon as you cohabitate, you are ineliglible to receive alimony.

I'm sure this will be another thing that's "your fault"! Also FWIW, my first XH quit his job and told the court he was the better parent because he could stay home with DS whereas I had to work so DS would be in daycare. I ended up with full custody. He did a lot of other crap that cost him but I'm pretty sure the judge was not impressed with that.

More sand slipping through her fingers. Find out when she is going to file and file for full custody the same day. I mean she will be admitting she can't afford to take care of the kids. Again. They think they have a good idea and it turns to crap in their hands.

Just got back from the courthouse. I just filed the Rule to Show Cause petition. A hearing should be scheduled soon to deal with this. I also faxed a letter to the school district where WW is moving to tell them NOT to enroll DS6 without my written consent. Hopefully I have my bases covered. If anything, I would love to be a fly on the wall if WW tries to enroll the kids - there's nothing better than being inside someone's decision loop!

Also contact the principal of your children's current school, let them know the situation and ask them not to release any records to any new school without your consent.

I have to commend you. You have such a presence of mind. You seem to know what to do at every turn. But then again you're living it. Are you still holding off signing the divorce papers?

I have to commend you. You have such a presence of mind. You seem to know what to do at every turn. But then again you're living it. Are you still holding off signing the divorce papers?

I still haven't received the divorce papers. I already told the in laws I'm going to hold off signing the papers at least until she has a clue what she's going to do next. Once I sign the papers, she's off my health insurance. With situation she's in now, I can't see how signing the papers is in the kid's best interest. She needs to have health insurance. I look at it as a business decision.

As for presence of mind, I wish I had some back in July and August. I let WW's anger scare me into inaction. If I went with my gut, POSOM would have been off the farm after about two weeks. WW and POSOM are pretty predictable. It makes it easy try and stay one step ahead. Plus, WW has no money for an attorney. She is making all of her decisions by the seat of her pants with imput from POSOM. When your strategy seems to be to assume that everyone is stupid, it makes it easy to stay one step ahead.


I talked with mother in law last night for about 90 minutes - she's trying to get the guts to call POSOM's mother. I gave her the exposure is chemotherapy speech to her. I told her that her relationship with WW can survive WW's anger but it won't get better as long as POSOM is in the picture. WW and POSOM WILL go nuclear but it won't be anything we haven't heard before.

This is good news. Does WW understand the need for doing this?

How is all going with you and the kids PSUBIKER?

Did you get the court hearing?

Just was wondering if you were ok as you can be in the circumstances.

AW

Thanks for the checkup! Not much has been going on this week. The courts were closed on Monday because of the weather so I haven't received anything back yet from the courts.

The kids had off from school on Monday and Tuesday + a delayed start Wed. because of weather. WW hasn't had to do the drive yet with the kids. Turns out, WW has been at the house all week because the closing was pushed out to today because of an issue with the survey. Everything is taken care of so we should be closing this morning!

I have DD3 speech therapy tonight and a counseling session for DS6 so it will be a busy evening for me.

B

How did the closing go?

Just when I thought the drama was dying down...I received a call from realtor at around 3pm. Turns out, WW still had 13 horses and a garage full of stuff left to move out. Anyways, realtor tells me the buyers are holding 2500 in escrow until 7pm Sunday for WW to get everything out.

Twenty minutes later, WW calls and leaves a ranting voicemail on my work phone. She's tells I will call her or I won't get my money for the house. Plus, I need to help her and OM move the rest of the stuff out of the house or else. She also said the agreement says that she, OM, and me are the only ones allowed on the property. She says I'm not allowed to bring the police either. She tells me I will call her and I am not allowed to text or email her.

HMMMMMMMMM, let's see, WW and OM had already fabricated all sorts of stuff in the two PFA's she filed against me. WW is currently unstable, OM is an alcoholic who as part of his probation has to take anger management classes. Gee, that sounds like a great idea for PSUBIKER to go to the house this weekend to help WW move. I don't know, it kind of sounds like a set up to me.

So I text her back:
"If you like, I can take the kids this weekend so they are out of your hair during your move"

I'm still waiting for her answer.

Sorry to hear of the mess still going on... guess its to be expected.

If you do end up going out to help make sure you have 2 mates/ friends with you at all times at the very least.. or the Police.

It really does sound like a set up.... talk about a WW in the fog .. she all but explained step by step how they would set you up.
One moment she doesn't even know the closing date and suddenly she 'knows' no one but you can enter the property not even the Police????

She is definitely living in a fantasy world.

Just get that court order and keep the kids from seeing her fall like a sawn tree. When she's broke, homeless maybe living with her mum, and OM has shot through because the $$ are gone the crash is going to be loud enough to hear around the country.

Make sure you also take care of yourself.

AW

Bravo to you!!

Save those voicemails. Will be very valuable for later.

I still don't understand why you don't have custody of the kids given POSOM's history, warrant for his arrest, and WW's mental breakdown.

Is there something you're not telling us? Why don't you have the kids?