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This ~~~> S11 and D4
just makes me shake my head
and feel sad
and feel a little anger toward you
and lots of pity
but, it's none of my business
so I am just releasing my anger to the wind and I wish your children the best under these circumstances
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Have you told your husband everything? Does he want to reconcile anymore? Does he post here or read your posts?
Over it.
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I understand Pepperband....I actually feel the same way about me...but maybe a lot more anger.
How could a MOM do this to her children????? I ask myself this question about a hundred times a day. I have no answer that is acceptable.
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
S11 and D4
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D 5/08 (not final)
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I have no answer that is acceptable. What does this mean anyway? "Acceptable" is not the same a "factual". Look for the factual answer.
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Have you told your husband everything? Does he want to reconcile anymore? Does he post here or read your posts? Oh yes....my husband knows absolutely everything. and despite it all, last night when I took my son back to the house he (unprovoked by me at all) indicated that he IS open to reconcilliation IF I get my act together. We have not lived together for over a year and our divorce is almost final. Our lives are very separate at this point. There IS hope. I do not deserve such a man.
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
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and OM is a schmuck !
He's got 5 KIDS
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forgot to answer if he posts or reads my posts..
I have told him about MB many times....he has never told me if he posts here or reads anything on the site.
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
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D 5/08 (not final)
NC take 2 3/24/09
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and OM is a schmuck !
He's got 5 KIDS That makes S E V E N little broken hearted children who's lives have been altered, perhaps irrevokably, by two people thinking "I deserve to be happy". Damn
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i_n, I want to hug you and slap you at the same time.  Please stop talking to these toxic friends of yours. These are not quality people that need to be in your life PERIOD!!! They are are equally as messed up as POSOM. POSOM used to be a Rabbi? WOW! **shaking head**
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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Here are some words for you: "I am sorry. I apologize. I am guilty of hurting you."Start apologizing: To your kids To OM's XW and her children To your parents To your rabbi To your friends
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Have you told your husband everything? Does he want to reconcile anymore? Does he post here or read your posts? Oh yes....my husband knows absolutely everything. and despite it all, last night when I took my son back to the house he (unprovoked by me at all) indicated that he IS open to reconcilliation IF I get my act together. We have not lived together for over a year and our divorce is almost final. Our lives are very separate at this point. There IS hope. I do not deserve such a man. If you are sincere in your remorse and truly want to work on your marriage, is your husband willing to let you move back to his home? What is your plan to help him heal? What are you willing to change?
Over it.
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Here are some words for you: "I am sorry. I apologize. I am guilty of hurting you."Start apologizing: To your kids To OM's XW and her children To your parents To your rabbi To your friends and finally to your children's father the man you married the man you pledged yourself to before God - to honor and love above all others
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If POSOM keeps coming around, file a restraining order for harrassment. If you are serious about not going down this road to hell, do it.
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exWH - serial cheater
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
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Here are some words for you: "I am sorry. I apologize. I am guilty of hurting you."Start apologizing: To your kids To OM's XW and her children To your parents To your rabbi To your friends Yes you are right. I have been to most of these people....I am working on a letter to OMXM and children.
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
S11 and D4
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Here are some words for you: "I am sorry. I apologize. I am guilty of hurting you."Start apologizing: To your kids To OM's XW and her children To your parents To your rabbi To your friends and finally to your children's father the man you married the man you pledged yourself to before God - to honor and love above all others oh......believe me....this I have first and foremost been working on!
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
S11 and D4
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In Shreds, I'm rooting for your marriage. Don't drop me.
Revise what NC means.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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Have you told your husband everything? Does he want to reconcile anymore? Does he post here or read your posts? Oh yes....my husband knows absolutely everything. and despite it all, last night when I took my son back to the house he (unprovoked by me at all) indicated that he IS open to reconcilliation IF I get my act together. We have not lived together for over a year and our divorce is almost final. Our lives are very separate at this point. There IS hope. I do not deserve such a man. If you are sincere in your remorse and truly want to work on your marriage, is your husband willing to let you move back to his home? What is your plan to help him heal? What are you willing to change? I think it is too early for him to feel comfortable enough to consider that. But if I show him that I am sincere with my actions, I think this would be a natural step we would get to. My plan is to do whatever is necessary....right now it is having NC. After that, I will do anything and change anything that is necessary.
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
S11 and D4
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In Shreds, I'm rooting for your marriage. Don't drop me.
Revise what NC means. do you mean review what it means or revise what it means? What NC means to me is new phone #, new email, erasing all contact means to/from him, staying away from any mutual friends we have, coaching all those necessary to NOT inform me of any contact he has made with them or tried to make with me. Moving if I have to....(though my hope would be to be able to move home with H and kids when appropriate)
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
S11 and D4
PA 2/08 D-day 3/08
D 5/08 (not final)
NC take 2 3/24/09
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If POSOM keeps coming around, file a restraining order for harrassment. If you are serious about not going down this road to hell, do it. good input...noted!
me WW 40 BH 41 M 16 years
S11 and D4
PA 2/08 D-day 3/08
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NC take 2 3/24/09
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