Based on this "keylogger" info, I strongly suggest that you get that restraining order. Also, make sure to change ALL of your passwords for the sites you use (and your e-mail addresses). If you don't, you may find the OW or your WH trying to impersonate you in the worst way possible.

A possible appropriate response from your Mom might have been a quick "did your son do those things my daughter is accusing him of doing? If so, then frankly he has no character to assassinate. Good bye".

EXACTLY! Tell her this, cos I'm sure HIS family will be contacting YOUR family a lot more. Teach them what you've learned here.

AND GET THAT RESTRAINING ORDER NOW - TODAY - THIS VERY HOUR! You have no idea how long will it take to get it done.

What good will it do if the order doesn't take effect until Monday 10am, if you are already dead - and your kids disappeared - at Monday 1am?

ETA: Are you a SAHM? If not, please take at least a couple days off work so that you never let your kids out of your sight. Someone who is as abusive and entitled as he is will have NO problem uprooting and disappearing with your kids JUST TO PUNISH YOU. That's how people like that think. I had to stop my dad from being able to pick up his only granddaughter, just so that his wife wouldn't disappear with her.

What did he do to you? Please tell us if you don't mind, so we can help you determine what steps you should be taking (i.e., level of severity).

ok, sorry I haven't been able to get on. I had to do a lot of computer cleaning to get the keylogger program off the home computer. I haven't even started on my laptop yet. Yse, he put the program on the home computer too.

Basically, WH was trying to take my car keys. He had hidden our computers earlier in the week. I found them on Thursday evening and moved them into my van. When he realized around 10:30pm on Thursday night, he decided to come and demand my keys. I told him I wouldn't give them to him. I wasn't going to do anything with the computers. Just keep them where we both knew they were: locked in the back of my van. I was already in bed when he was doing this. I have learned to just stay calm and refuse to respond to his confrontational attitude. The fact that I wouldn't fight made him mad. He went out to the kitchen and looked for my (well-hidden) keys again. When he didn't find them, he came back in and demanded them again. All was fine til he went for my jeans I had worn that day. It had my jumpdrive in it, which had all sorts of stuff on it I was gonna use to expose. So I got up. When he saw me get up, he took off running for the kitchen. When I reached him, I grabbed my jeans and wouldn't let go. I didn't touch him. I know better. He wrestled me to the ground and held me there with his knee on the back of my neck/shoulders. I think while I was wrestling to get up I scratched him with a broken fingernail. I got up and he pushed me back on my back with my legs bent behind me. I screamed and told him he was hurting me. He let me up and when he did that, the jumpdrive fell out of my pocket. He grabbed for it but I got it first. I had what I wanted so I let go of the jeans. I tried to go past him to our bedroom to get my cell phone and he blocked my way. So I turned around to go to the back door to go to the neighbors and he tried to block me then too. I managed to get out and he locked the door behind me. I went next door but no one woke up when I knocked. So I went back. The door was unlocked and I found WH in our room, looking through my cell phone. I had to wrestle it away from him. I called my mom and told her what happened, all the while WH was screaming in the background that I had attacked him. My mom said she was coming over. WH said she wasn't allowed in our house. Neither was my Dad and if he stepped foot in our house, WH would call the cops and have him removed. Then he screamed that he was just going to call them anyway. My mom decided that she, too, was going to call 911 and have them check my welfare. I'm sure when he called, he never imagined HE would be the one arrested.

So that's what happened. I went back to the PD yesterday and gave an interview about the past "incidents." So they could build a case to give to the DA. They have pix and I will probably go back and have them take more, now that more bruises are showing up.

WH's Dad and sister are being horrible. Making me out to be the bad guy. It's all my fault. And my mom's, for not having better control over me. Now they are questioning my state of mind and stating they are afraid for the kids. And saying "unstable minds are more dangerous than imaginary fists." So they don't believe the abuse is happening. I know it's because WH got to them first and filled their heads with all sorts of junk about me. But his mom and other sister have known about the situation for the last year. I have had lengthy conversations with them. So obviously, that family is just not communicating. But if it makes them feel better to be in denial about WH and be angry with me, that's fine. I can handle the anger.

ok, so it's been a couple days. WH is out of jail and staying at his Dad and stepmom's house (his dad is at least a 2 time WH, himself). He has been ordered to not be on the property at all. I don't know for how long. He has his preliminary hearing on Monday. I have been informally suspended from EMS, for the emails I sent. Being called possible harassment. WTF? Since when is the truth harassment? This evening, I receive notice of OW filing a temporary restraining order on me. Made up all sorts of things. My mom and I sat down tonight and we can pretty much counter all the made up stuff. There are maybe 3 things in there that actually happened, in which she only gives half the story. But none of them could be considered harassment. She says my behavior toward her is anywhere from overly friendly to cruel hurtful and vindictive (interesting, those are almost word for word what WH has been calling me lately) and my mood swings are sudden and dramatic. She says this has been going on for a year and a half. Actually, I only started suspecting anything in the last 13 1/2 months and she's getting the year and a half from the exposure email I sent out, where I tell people it's been going on for a year and a half. Before that, I never had any reason to treat her any way but nicely. She's the one who has called the cops on me twice, altho she has never gotten anywhere with it. Anyhow, I really don't think it will hold up in court. I don't know how she expects me to come to her house all winter and traipse around her back yard when I work all day and have the kids pretty much by myself all night, while WH is off doing who knows what. Does she think I dragged my kids along with me? Come on kids, let's go walk in OWs yard, it will be fun!!! Come on!!! You have GOT to be kidding me. She also accused me of, in the last month, turning over a large flower pot in her back yard, and putting it up to her window so I can look inside. Can you say neurotic? Did I mention she's bipolar? And she drinks? What a great combo, don't you think? Anyhow, this isn't a bashing post, just an update as to how things are going. UGH!!!

Sorry to hear it. I'm glad you're safe.

Others have said here to document each and every thing that happens in your life, to the very minute, in a notebook. Make sure it's a bound notebook (like a hardback book) so that no one can accuse you of adding or subtracting like you could in a open and close notebook. Go back to the beginning and add in what you remember, by date. Just the facts.

You will probably need it in court with these lunatics.

Oh, and do some creative thinking about who you can go to to put pressure on them to back off.