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I'm ready and waiting....


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6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

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Yesterday was Holocaust Remembrance Day.

I received this poem from my business associate whose daughter write it for a Holocaust Symposium. She is in 8th grade.

Juden Verboten
By: H M

How can it be that some don’t know
Of the Holocaust 70 years ago?
The inhumane disgusting crimes
That the Nazis committed so many times;
How wicked they were, putting Gentiles to shame
They said Jews were criminals, always to blame.

Wouldn’t you want your own beliefs?
The freedom to live them, without any grief?
A life without racism, torture, or hate,
No death camps or ghettos, but now its too late.
The horrible things that Hitler did,
The unthinkable pain, and just to get rid
Of the peaceful Jewish people; it’s sad
Don’t just nod and say it’s too bad.

The Holocaust you mustn’t forget,
Nor ignore, discount, overlook or let
People say that it didn’t take place,
For I see the pain in my Baba’s face.
In Auschwitz her youngest brother was gassed,
He was only twenty when he had passed.

Forced from their homes people fled,
Some not so lucky were shot in bed.
Hitler decided once he’s done with the Jews,
To pick on the rest, so many to choose!
Gypsies, the elderly, babies and twins,
When Hitler strikes, nobody wins.

The German army stole so many lives,
And for what reason? What was the prize?
To see the tears in peoples’ eyes,
To gain more power, to hear their cries?
You see how horrible all this was?
The hatred, the prejudice and just because
The Nazis and others were unable to see,
That the Jewish people are like you and me.

They shouldn’t have suffered, what did they do?
Remember that Jesus was Jewish too.
Perhaps His death meant so much more,
To forgive what would happen in the Second World War.
“Blessed are those who suffer from hate,
Their reward in heaven shall be great.”

That tragic time has affected my life,
I’m so grateful to live without cruelty or strife.
Do not think this is all in the past,
If you see bullying, please end it fast.
Holocaust survivors still hurt today,
Their loved ones murdered then tossed away.
Don’t say, “That’s too bad, but I’m no Jew,”
It could have been anyone…yes, even you.

Last edited by QueeniesAdventures; 04/22/09 10:23 AM.

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This is amazing, Queenie. Very powerful and insightful. Amazing... Thank you for sharing it.


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Wow, a very talented 8th grader. I agree - very powerful.


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Happy Thursday!!

SmartiePants is on her way to Wash. State and the weekend to be with ME... dance2 woo hoo.... Happy Dance. I really need to find out how she got her name. She was the very first person I talked to from MB.

We are planning to go to Bainbridge Island tomorrow and make a day of it. Included in the sojourn was my YS, and OS and his awesome GF. Tomorrow night, my YS's lacrosse game is on the island and so I thought it would be a great way to spend the day exploring the PNW.

Well.... YS got himself ejected out of his game last night. faint As a consequence he doesn't get to play. rant2 Sometimes..... the testosterone in them just amazes me. So, looks like we are going to have a fabulocity day exploring with my kids, girlfriend, and Smartie and Me. And then we get to top it off by freezing out butts off as we watch a game that WON'T include my son. grumble No attitude there....

Oh yes, and as for the game last night, they won 11-3. Probably the only game that they will win this year, as they suck BAD..... In fact.... it could be puke y games from here on out. However, it was 70 plus degrees on Tuesday and as I sat at the game last night it was snowing. sigh

WH news...NOTHING.... rotflmao

Shabbat Shalom Mark, Bellevue, Pretty, WhiteRussian, Miriam...

Happy Friday tomorrow to everyone else.


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Wow, amazing poem for an 8th grader. You could read her pain.


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She has amazing parents who taught her about life. I hope to meet thing young woman who I knew as a young kid.


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Queenie, so glad you are having company of a MBer. It is such a stress reducer hanging with people on this board.

Enjoy your time, laugh, giggle, smile. Allow yourself to be happy in the moment.

take care


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Originally Posted by QueeniesAdventures
Happy Thursday!!

SmartiePants is on her way to Wash. State and the weekend to be with ME...

hurray Call me sometime while she is there!!!


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12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.

6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

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It's secretaries week at school and I'm getting spoiled rotten..

I've had THREE coffees today and I'm hopping around.

Almost like my drug days.

:crosseyedcrazy:



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Hi Ms Adventures...

Read the poem and loved it.

So how is Queenie doing today?

Mark

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She is doing G-ds work today hopefully. And not hers.

I left an email for you and Lil. smile

How was your trip?


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Got email thanx, will reply shortly


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And I gotcha back......


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Just sent you both a reply...

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Hi Queenie,

Stay the course.

hugQUEENIE hug



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Shabbat Shalom, Queenie.


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So... here I sit with my YS alone, because my OS has left my home. Yes, lucky me. He came home screaming that he was just going to quit his job. Does he have another one in it's place. OH NO...

But he doesn't LIKE his job. Well to be honest, he pushed me just a little too far this time. I called him a spoiled brat and told him that he was 19 years old and didn't go to school and wasn't going to just sit around the house for the next 4 months until he went away to the navy.

He said the ONLY reason I wanted him to keep his job was the for money. I agreed because it was the truth. In two weeks when he runs out of money and wants to borrow some for this and that. I won't have the chutzpah to tell him no. So, he has left. Gave me his cell phone, and left the keys to the car.

I'm not sure if I was right and I'm not sure if I was wrong. I just know that I'm sick to death of being talked to disrespectfully and that this is MY HOME and MY RULES. If he didn't like it, then he can leave. I love this child with all my heart, and if he believes he can have it better somewhere else, then my hat is off to him. But the reality is, he doesn't pay for car insurance, he doesn't really give me rent, he doesn't pay for his cell phone, he was giving me money back for the mercedes braking, but that's pretty much it.

In case you think I am this heartless witch. Trust me, my heart is crushed. This is my baby. I'm so confused. I wish I drank, I wish I could just run away and I certainly wish that I didn't have any feelings to feel.

What I will do is go seek G-d, ask him to take care of him and help me walk through this in a way that is helpful to me and my son and the younger one.



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Tough love sweety. Its hard but its right
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Kids! rant2

All you can do is love them and try to help them figure out life... :crosseyedcrazy:

He'll get over it... grumble
And you'll live it through... sigh

And God will take care of it all in the end if you let him... pray

Mark

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