I was doing a sex ed class tonight for girls only. Ave 12 to 16 yr olds or hereabouts. Guys you don't need to read any more if you don't want too
These are a very few of the girls comments from the getting to know you bit of the talk, sitting in a circle:-
Lydia (14) It's my first year there, and I'm just starting to take sex. I'm currently 14. But I started sex ed classes in grade 5 so I've learnt a lot over the past few years.
Meaghan (13)I will soon turn 14 in July. I have had about 3 Sex Ed courses in my life time, and "the sex talk" with my mum once. My parents are open to all of my questions and informed me at the age of 10 about puberty, condoms/safe sex, abstinence. I found everything they said to be very un-interesting, since I had already gone through and known these things for quite some time.
Gemma (16) I'm an atheist - (Okkkkk I was thinking, but who am I to question) I learnt what sex was when I was 7 years old - by looking up nearly every related word in a dictionary. I know plenty of people who lost their virginity young, I mean, between 12 and 14 sort of age, and they regretted not their age, neither the experience itself, nor the place, or anything - just the person they did it with. (Oh yeah she is going to be fun fun fun)
Annette (15) I had already pieced together most of the "sex talk" before I was eight. There was this western movie scene involving a mute man, a sexually confident saloon girl and a saddle.(I think she was talking about a Paul Hogan comedy but now I'm too scarred to watch it and confirm) I haven't watched the film since so my memory is most likely a bit blurry. But that pretty much gave me the information I needed to start piecing things together. I came to the conclusion that babies were made from a man's sweat when he has an intense need to hold a woman. I've been pretty sexually aware ever since. (She is kidding me right???? PLEASE!!)
Julie (17 - just) My mum impressed a strong abstinence view while growing up, my dad still thinks I'm a virgin. (Sophisticated hey?) My first sexual experience was when I was sixteen, I used protection and was dating in a "monogamous" relationship I only had THREE boyfriends. QUOTE "I was constantly getting UTI's and not knowing what/where they were from." (Mmmmm yes I WONDER)
So like a sheep being led to the slaughter house I started off:-
Aside from getting STD's and pregnant, why do mum and dad think having sex is not a good thing when you are young?" Long story, short, I said I am actually asking why do adults think kids shouldn't have sex????
ANYONE?????
I could see in the other tutor's eyes she was not truly comfortable with the nature of the question but I wasn't going to let it deter me in answering. I think she thought I was going to tell them where to buy condoms in bulk and that would be it.
The kids had all said that in their research sex was supposed to be healthy, something about even making your teeth stronger and helping with depression (yeah, I laughed
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I explained that while sex can be healthy and you can even burn calories, it certainly isn't a replacement for regular exercise and that it can promote endorphins which can curb depressed attitude but that's not its goal either. But on they went, sighting the jugular, mine, it was about "your morals', and I quickly agreed but then asked the kids to take that away for the moment, along with the religious aspect and focus on the other issue - the one no one had mentioned - the emotional health and well-being of a person. All the other stuff aside, this was a very important fact to consider because that's a huge part of what sex is about when it comes down to it from a health point of view. And at their age, are each of you really equipped to handle all that comes along with the actions??? The consequences??? The emotions???
SILENCE - I was expecting to be howled down :MrEEk:
a hand goes up, "Those STD's thingies, if you only do (well I will let you guess this one) I can't get it in my tongue can I? We were told it was safe. heads nod. Ummm what actually are STD's besides Aids and the goanna thing. ( goanna thing!!!)
The other woman looks at me in panic, I see the flight or fight instinct arise, a poor mum just volunteering runs into this.
OMG!! oh my. OK sex ed 101.1 (who is teaching these kids this rubbish??????????????)
DR Liz looks over imaginary glasses , Ok page 1, sexual reproduction & STD's - well you see girls there are more than 20 known sexually transmitted diseases, Gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, Trichomonas, Hepatitis B and C and - - - - - - - - - - after an hour of very very descriptive physiological functions and some very curious questioning, we finished the basics.
I NEED a drink. No TWO drinks.
They had a heap of information all jumbled up and turned around, some gaps, and some total rubbish. Like if you have sex standing up you can't get preggers, or do it in a hot tub you are safe. The look of disappointment (or was it fear?) on their faces when I told them that couples actually do it in hot tubs to get pregnant was something to see.
next exciting episode is "Understanding Conception and Ovulation and the Female body" -- the basics. My sis Hayls said we should offer the last bit to men. But I would never suggest such a thing
I also had a "leetle" talk to the 17 yr old in private.
Neak I missed you hon so I will have to hug you a few times after.
stupid dumb instrument
Kimmy 2