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#2258359 05/08/09 01:20 PM
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Another "goodbye cruel board post."

Ugh.

I gave this advice to another poster yesterday. It needs to be said again today:

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>You are in the process of turning me off of this site, a site where I thought I could turn to in search for something good.

You're looking for a REASON to quit before you've even started. Again, man up. If you REALLY want to make your life work, you'll not blame our WORDS and make some positive changes in your life.

Don't dress up a bunch of bullsh*t on here and tell us it's chocolate. We've been fed bs so much that our ninja powers enable us to shoot it down before you even hit send.

Talk to us when you actually DO something to save your marriage. Words don't work with us.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

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Dealan-de #2258374 05/08/09 01:42 PM
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Yeppers. Same BS different day.


Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists. Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
princessmeggy #2258390 05/08/09 02:10 PM
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But don't you dare call them on it or a bunch of other people will railroad you and say you are being hurtful. smirk


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

I will not spend my life this way.
princessmeggy #2258393 05/08/09 02:11 PM
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The last thing a WS wants to do is the most important thing he/she needs to do.... look in the mirror and see exactly WHO is there.

AM


BW - 65
WH - 60
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
DD - 44, DS - 30, DS - 23
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
armymama #2258396 05/08/09 02:15 PM
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It's happened to me several times, to the point I'm wondering if I should even bother.

I get tired of beating my head against the wall hoping people will get off their butts and actually DO something if they want to be back with their spouse so badly.


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

I will not spend my life this way.
karmasrose #2258400 05/08/09 02:21 PM
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Hon...

Remember when you were so scared and you just KNEW your situation was "speshul..."?

Sometimes someone just HAS to keep doing what their doing on THEIR time...not on ours.

Doesn't matter that we've all BTDT...until they realize that the ONLY thing they haven't tried is the advice they get here...and once they do that one last thing...wa-la! All the lights come on in their cabazas and DING, DING, DING...holy-bat-do-dee...WE WERE RIGHT and they wish they'd done it sooner.

We all have to learn this on OUR timeline...no one else's will do.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

Recovered!
Dealan-de #2258533 05/08/09 08:03 PM
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Wow, good for you. You guys really showed him who's boss around here!


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