Pilot spelled Pilates? Are you French by any chance?

I know I heard my friend say "pilot's" class. I'm not deaf.

Pio, do you remember the coworker I was having a great deal of trouble with about three years ago. I was her manager and had been put in the position over her when she didn't get the job. You and Todd gave me a lot of very good and helpful advice but I ended up taking a better job in a completely different area of the university.

I never actually disliked her, I just couldn't work with her and we meet for lunch most Fridays. Today she said she wanted to tell me something. She told me she'd seen the file of all my grievances and complaints. Unbelievably, the HR manager left it on the desk when she was interviewing my coworker and then left the room, sort of nodding to the file and saying "it's all in there".

We had a very honest talk about it all. It was the conversation we should have had three years ago although we both agreed it would have broken down our relationship completely if we'd had the talk then. Amazing how things work out. I was so frightened about having the talk back then but when it all came out into the open today it cleared up so much. About our perceptions about each other, about management higher than us and their agenda, all sorts of stuff.

Yep, openness and honesty. It always works. I'm so frightened of conflict but we were both very calm and it really cleared the air. We both apologised too and meant it.

PIO!!!! I just realized what you were asking! No! You can't make up your own commandments! That's what the permanent waywards do!

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Opinions are welcome but I am struggling whether to cancel our Mexico vacation plans and go a different direction (or if not in a different direction, not quite as far in the same direction). We are scheduled to leave on vacation in 2 months, 12 days, 6 hours and 10 minutes (or 105,490 minutes). We planned to spend 2 weeks in Tabasco and 1 week in DF. Gemela, of course, is desperate to see her family and she has been planning their first communion there for over a year. So cancelling the vacation is difficult. OTOH, we don't want to put ourselves or the DDs at risk unnecessarily. Her family has been saying that everything is under control. Last night that changed and her sister is starting to get worried. I find it difficult to believe that everything will be back to normal in two months. So is it a stupid idea to go to Mexico this year?

If we don't go, we are thinking of something close by like Mauritius, Seychelles, Zanzibar or safari in Kenya. All are just a few hours away and would be a lot cheaper.

And if I can't make my own commandments, then can I at least amend some?

Thou shalt not commit adultery - unless you are depressed and a cute girl/guy comes along and it really isn't adultery since the marriage is effectively over so technically you aren't committing it anyway(1).

Note 1: be careful not to covet in the process.

Oh, I thought you might have a comment on my little bit of news.

I don't think it's unsafe to go to Mexico. I talk with an academic at Harvard who specialises in infectious diseases. His opinion is wash your hands and don't sneeze on people.

Give me a link. I haven't been reading for a while.

I did see your note about the coworker. Seems strange the HR person would leave an open file on the desk and leave the room. What was her agenda?

But what if they sneeze on me?

lol, I meant don't let people sneeze on you. I was just about to edit it. I'll check it out with the Harvard prof to see what he thinks about going to Mexico.

Yeah, I don't know what the HR Manager's agenda was. She's completely hopeless so who knows what she was thinking.

Well if she was trying to get a meeage across to coworker, professionally and ethically she should have used a different approach.

My impression is that she was trying to create a problem and more specifically, a problem for you. Maybe that isn't the result but it still could have been her motive.

I think what she did sounds illegal.

OK - so in honour of Pio and ToddAC, I'm burning up my 7000th post here.

And to think they said you would never do it. You proved em wrong!

Congratulations.

Oh...and in honor of 6,407 of those posts -

Well I guess I just assumed Kenya would be inexpensive. I found out how wrong I was. So Kenya is off the list. We were seeing deals like $9,000 per person. Of course that did include airport transfers.

You old blabbermouth.

Actually, far too many of them looked like this:

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