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anger how to cope
#2283039 12/05/09 01:22 PM
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how do i cope with the anger after my w affair with a ex-coworker
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Has the affair ended? Have you both been STD tested? Do not have sex until you have been.

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no sex i barely want to talk or look at her and i want to kill him
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and yes the affair has ended
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Has all contact ended? Or do they still see each other at work every day?

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Originally Posted by endoftheline2117
no sex i barely want to talk or look at her and i want to kill him

Your anger is understandable, but rage will do you more harm than not. Try to focus on recovery and not get stuck in non-productive emotional whirlpools.

It's very hard, believe me. I've been there. But realize that as long as you persist in being angry you will not be able to progress.

There is a lot of very good information and advice here. Read everything you can, ask all the questions you want. The beauty of the MB forums is that EVERYONE has felt like you do now. Let them, and they will help you heal.

Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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and yes the affair has ended
"endoftheline" means what? Are you trying to recover your marriage after the affair, or are you leaving it?

Why not post the full story? People will help you here.

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Originally Posted by endoftheline2117
and yes the affair has ended

How do you know that? Don't take the word of your WW.

When did the A happen? How did you find out? When were you told? Who told you? More info, please, so we can see where you are, time-wise.

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