Interesting read
http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/12/08/cheating.spouses.lawsuits/index.html

I wish these where leagal here.
I would love to slap OM's lawnmower pushing, poorley tattoed, convicted fellon but with a nice fat lawsuite. I know he would never be able to pay it, but I sure would feel better.

Oh how I would love these to be used regularly.

Liked the article but this really pi**ed me off.

"It's much like dropping a nuclear bomb on a family," Rosen says. "It really does damage the relationship between spouses. If there are children involved, it's devastating for them."

Was that a quote about what happens when a spouse has an A? NO.

It was a lawyer complaining about what happens when a BS brings such a lawsuit.

Some people have no idea.

Yea that ticked me off to.

Blame the mean old BS for there vendictive, evil, hatefull ways.

What a crock!

Forget "alienation of affection". There's no way to prove it and most people just laugh at the term.

I think a BS should be able to sue:

1) The WS for Gross Marital Misconduct

and/or

2) The OP for Gross Marital Intrusion.

#1 above would be used mainly in divorce cases, to help protect the BS and the kids and make it clear to all what really happened.

And I really, really, really like the idea of being able to legally slap the OP for willingly and knowingly intruding on and invading a marriage. They might as well break into the marital home and walk off with whatever goods that they want. It's no different.

I think some lawmaker did propose these once, not too long ago, but I never heard any more about it.
Mulan

Hi Mulan,

I have followed you for many years now, especially with the gaslighting thread. Thank you for that.

I wondered, and you may smack me with a 2x4, but you never spelled out whether or not your XWH was having EA's or PA's with the co-workers, or perhaps you didn't know for sure? If I remember correctly you disagreed with his behavior around the females, and he thought you shouldn't have a problem with it...

If it is too intrusive, just ignore...

Hi beginagain,

No 2x4 - thanks for asking.

I never had video evidence and he would admit to absolutely nothing, but:

1) Years of ditching me to go off for lunches, dinners and business trips with girls from work (and lying about it)
2) Hanging out in strip bars after-hours on business trips (and lying about it)
3) Way more porn than any man needs
4) Wayyy too friendly e-mails (the ones I managed to find) from girls at work
5) Obscene greeting cards from girls at work (the ones I managed to find)
6) Never, ever talking about me or acknowledging my existence to any girl from work

and finally

7) Moving out and filing for divorce rather than stop doing "nothing" with the girls from work

Do you think sex was involved, or was I just crazy?

I believed his lies for a long time. I'm not that stupid any more.

And even if - *if* by some stretch of the imagination he wasn't scr*wing any of them, the years of lies and neglect he heaped on me in order to spend all this platonic time with them would have been enough to destroy anybody's relationship.

I think #7 above pretty much puts the last nail in the coffin.
Mulan