I didn't send them to anyone I took them with his phone. I believe that when he finds them he will actually delete them. He has been reading texts, messages, and emails and just deleting them.

My face isn't in the pictures so I don't know that they could actually PROVE who the pictures are of. I also don't know how taking these pictures would make me a bad parent. There are many people who are strippers, porn stars or even prostitutes who have children and these children don't get taken away.

I can see your point but they are tasteful. In Ontario, where we live, it is LEGAL to walk around topless.

I do think I am really getting in to his head though. Last night after work I went with a friend to a coffee shop. We got off at 1230am and I said "well, I guess I don't have to worry about him calling me since he doesn't care." At 215am my cell phone rang. It was him. He asked me if I was coming home tonight. I said "yes I am." He said "Ok" and then hung up. I left a few minutes later (we were leaving anyways) and when I got home and went to bed he was still awake but he didn't say anything. Neither did I and I went to sleep but I made sure I laid my hand on him and he didn't move away. At 5am I was so cold and I cuddled right up to him and he didn't move.

I know that it isn't great signs but it is something. One more week of Plan A and then it is on to Plan B. I still haven't found her family's info yet but I did my best. That's all I wanted to do so I could say that no matter which way this ends up I did the best I could.

She's overseas, right? What about searching the internet for facebook-type sites over there, and posting a thread asking if anyone knows her. You never know!

No she's not overseas, they work together. Her mom lives somewhere far up north. I know that her brother lives in the same city as she does, which is 20 minutes away from where I live. She had a my space account and a facebook account but they were set to very high privacy so no luck in finding any of her friends.

I am ok with it if I can't get her info because I did try.

Sorry, the Scotland must have thrown me off, lol, confused you with someone else.

Do you know her last name?

Oh! Plan A can be SO MUCH FUN!

You are doing so very good. He will miss sleeping with you when he is gone. He really will.

And, I think the pics of your assets will not be a problem. You are his wife. He is living with you right now. He has seen your assets and anyone else who sees them, well, not YOUR fault!

Breasts ARE a part of a female's anatomy and used to feed infants (though men adore them, that isn't what they were built for! LOL).

Check FB account again. New privacy settings have been established just this week. Friend lists are available to "everyone." I have not found a way to change mine. It would be worth a try.

God's Blessings,

Say

no luck. She is no where to be found.

Oh ... and put an "extra" copy of the Plan B letter behind the photo, inside the frame. (unseen)

If WH says he cannot re-read the Plan B letter because he threw it away ... have your IM say:

"Scotty thought of that. Open the frame and there is an extra copy behind the family photo."

Excellent Idea about the photo. I am definitely going to get to work on that one.

well i was doing a little more searching on OW and I actually found a facebook post that she wrote that had a lot of email addresses on it. I think I will be sending out a few emails. Well this is an interesting development. I hope her family members are on there.

Any suggestions as to what I write to her friends?

Catperson-

I not only know her Last name, I know her bday, and her license plate number for her car. I know her previous address but she moved last October because I caused problems at her apartment when I showed up there one night.

I have a list of emails that may or may not be friends of hers on facebook but I wanna know what you think I should write when I contact them. I am going to be doing it on Monday morning, so any input would be appreciated.

My name is Scotland, and I'm writing you to ask for your help. My WH is having an A w/ your friend, OW. I very much want to save my M, but cannot work on it as long as she is involved w/ my WH. Would you please talk to OW and encourage her to do the right thing and leave my WH alone?

If anyone writes back and is sympathetic to your sitch, ask them if they'd help you find OW's address and/or other friends or family of OW so that you can contact them.

OMG ok so I looked back at that page and now her profile is OPEN and I am now messaging whoever has the same last name as her. WOW KARMA is AWESOME today. And to think I was about to give up on finding her family. I am using what you wrote Marsh

this is the message I am sending out

My name is BS, and I'm writing you to ask for your help. My Husband, WH is having an Affair OW. I very much want to save my Marriage, but cannot work on it as long as she is involved with my Husband. Would you please talk to OW and encourage her to do the right thing and leave my Husband alone?

Thank You

You rock Scotland!

This is freakin awesome!!!

I would include something about saving your children from the loss of their family and having their father in their daily lives....

I believe in Karma and I guess it is in my favour today. I gotta pick the kids up from school now but I sent 5 messages to family members and I did it stategically to try to get her mom and brother. He is gonna be MAD at me. Well, i guess more Plan A. Maybe I will send him a flirty text right now

I thought of that but WH will say that I am using the kids. There is a picture of me with them on my facebook account which is where I am sending the messages from. I think they will understand.