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I was thinking of buying one of the Harley books for a friend for Christmas. If you could only pick one book to give, which one would you recomend?


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That's tough. They are all so good.

Maybe Fall in Love, Stay in Love.

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Assuming there is no affair to recover from, Fall In Love Stay In Love combines the best of HNHN and Love Busters into a single unified DIY manual.

If already familiar with Dr Harley's basic concepts, then go with Defending Traditional Marriage.

If newly weds then I Promise You.

That's the ones I have given and will continue giving...


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I agree with Fall in Love, Stay in Love.


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My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.

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Originally Posted by Zelmo
My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.
To which BS are you referring? grin


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Note to self: Mel agreed!

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Originally Posted by Fred_in_VA
Originally Posted by Zelmo
My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.
To which BS are you referring? grin

I do think bitterness gets a bad rap. It can be very sweet, at times. Plus, it is about as normal a response as a BS can have(for a while).
I love it when, on some other board, a BS gets accused of being "bitter", as if that is really messed up.
Well, Duh? Do you think ...?

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Originally Posted by Mark1952
Note to self: Mel agreed!

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Mark, don't you just love Defending Traditional Marriage?? That is my all time favorite.


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Originally Posted by Zelmo
My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.

DID YOU GET THAT BOOK Defending Tradional Marriage?? toe tap


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by Zelmo
My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.

DID YOU GET THAT BOOK Defending Tradional Marriage?? toe tap

Seriously, I am at the library, on the computer.I will get it, if it is in.
I think it is in English, but they might have the Texas edition, as well. y'all.

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Be sure and get the Texas edition, it has a chapter on a** whooping. twoxfour


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Y'all!


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Be sure and get the Texas edition, it has a chapter on a** whooping. twoxfour

Okay. I'll check in the children's section for it.
Any pictures?

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Originally Posted by Zelmo
Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Be sure and get the Texas edition, it has a chapter on a** whooping. twoxfour

Okay. I'll check in the children's section for it.
Any pictures?

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Originally Posted by Zelmo
My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.
faint rotflmao
For some reason Zelmo, this, coming from you, just struck me as really funny ... so thank you for my first LOL today,
or maybe I'm just in an odd mooook. crazy .... nah, I don't think so.

off to tour some threads .......


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Originally Posted by Vittoria
Originally Posted by Zelmo
My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.
faint rotflmao
For some reason Zelmo, this, coming from you, just struck me as really funny ... so thank you for my first LOL today,
or maybe I'm just in an odd mooook. crazy .... nah, I don't think so.

off to tour some threads .......

Don't encourage him, Vittoria, he is onna roll today!! sigh


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by Vittoria
Originally Posted by Zelmo
My favorite "Cultivating Bitterness for the BS". I co-authored it.
faint rotflmao
For some reason Zelmo, this, coming from you, just struck me as really funny ... so thank you for my first LOL today,
or maybe I'm just in an odd mooook. crazy .... nah, I don't think so.

off to tour some threads .......

Don't encourage him, Vittoria, he is onna roll today!! sigh
Well, there's nothin' wrong with a good ole roll ...... rotflmao


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I think actually that the three books - "Defending Traditional Marriage", "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders" and "Fall in Love, Stay in Love" give readers a glimpse of Dr Harley's full philosophy of marriage. Only by reading all three can you see how complete his plan is and how much clarity he has when he writes.


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Thanks BigK for getting us back on track.

For all those kidding around, focus people, focus! There's no place for fun in marriage building. smile laugh smirk


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