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One of the things my WW told the other man post d-day is that I have a ccw permit (I guess to make me look like a maniac p.s. leave your pistol in the da car if you do confront him!  And I am not surprised the OM runs from you, they are always little cowardly weasels. Which again, not to beat it to death, asks why did she do this with him? Someone afraid to stand up for himself? It is a "little" cowardly to actively RUN away from someone, what's the attraction? Do they secretly tell each other later: WW- don't worry baby, I know you could have killed him. OM- yeah, he's lucky! or something like that...just a big unknown I guess
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Who knows why she chose him, but I do know that any punk who fools around with a married woman is a weasel. So it only follows that such a man of low character will be a coward too.
How old is the boy?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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29. I'm 42, wife is 39.
I know it's stupid, but the age thing hurts, too.
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Again, thanks for everything. Going home to see where we are.
See you tomorrow!
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Expose on face book is great.
Exposing on FB and at work even better.
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night, jcb! Hang tough. You are doing just great! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Which again, not to beat it to death, asks why did she do this with him? Someone afraid to stand up for himself? It is a "little" cowardly to actively RUN away from someone, what's the attraction? Do they secretly tell each other later:
WW- don't worry baby, I know you could have killed him.
OM- yeah, he's lucky!
or something like that...just a big unknown I guess These are questions you could ask your W. Not the OM.
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Will not quit her job. Deleting facebook not an option, everyone at work is on there, no need to send OM a letter there is already no contact aside form work... Deal breaker!!! She's playing you like a cuckold. Personally, I'd take a sledge hammer to the PC then tell her to Facebook her [censored] off! Expose 20 minutes ago!
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p.s. leave your pistol in the da car if you do confront him! And I am not surprised the OM runs from you, they are always little cowardly weasels. Did you guys ever see "Harry and the Hendersons"? Remember the guy on the bike that got scared and fell off the bike and tryed to say that the Bigfoot knocked him off? Then he started crying "yes!! yes!!.. when Mr henderson calls him on his lie and makes him admit he was scared. or In the movie "Lies" when Arnold Swartzenger was going to throw the used car saleman off the bridge cuz he was hitting on his wife and the guy starts crying and pees his pants? lol "Ive got a tiny weiner really, its pathetic" he says. Picture those guys, then you see how worthless they are.
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Hi,
Went home, had a great night with WW...very close.
Asked her to quit job, she said "do you really want me to quit" I said yes, it kills me every time you go to work. She said "what about getting the new house, we need the money" I said we don't need the money, I'll get you a job at my work" she said I have to trust her, and that there is nothing there to be worried about (!) I left for work saying that just won't work for me.
Appointment with therapist in 3 hours, counting down until Friday...
Thanks
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It's not having it on me that worries me...if he says I threatened him with it (which I wouldn't) the police WILL assume I did because I have the ccw, phone may be best for him...i could just spoof the wifes number that way he would think it was her at first.... Before confrontation put your weapon in your gun safe, and put the key in a safe deposit box at the bank. All bank safe deposit boxes log in when people come and go...and the cost for one is negligable. If the cops come, show them the safe and have them come with you to the bank. This would also work if you don't have a gun safe, but have the gun locks...
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>she said I have to trust her
To which you replied, "Trust is earned, not passed out like Halloween candy...have a cookie," right?
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Hi,
Went home, had a great night with WW...very close.
Asked her to quit job, she said "do you really want me to quit" I said yes, it kills me every time you go to work. She said "what about getting the new house, we need the money" I said we don't need the money, I'll get you a job at my work" she said I have to trust her, and that there is nothing there to be worried about (!) I left for work saying that just won't work for me. Good job! Just be a broken record, jcb, and stick to your plan! Why would you trust an untrustworthy person?  Trust is not an entitlement, she has destroyed your trust. So the next time she tells you this crap, tell her: "the trust in this marriage has been destroyed. Destroyed. But I can show you ways to regain my trust. Such as ending all contact with the OM, giving me all passwords on your computer and living a completely transparent life. That would be a good start in earning my trust." Appointment with therapist in 3 hours, counting down until Friday...
Thanks jcb, is the same "therapist" who told you to lie to your kids and went along with your W working the OM? Why are you going to see him? You might want to print out some articles written by Dr Harley for him so he doesn't make this same mistake with the next client. Your therapist is very unqualified to counsel marriages afflicted by adultery. Never see or communicate with a former lover
misleading children When Should An Affair Be Exposed? By Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr.
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Did you guys ever see "Harry and the Hendersons"?
Remember the guy on the bike that got scared and fell off the bike and tryed to say that the Bigfoot knocked him off? Then he started crying "yes!! yes!!.. when Mr henderson calls him on his lie and makes him admit he was scared. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hi,
Went home, had a great night with WW...very close.
Asked her to quit job, she said "do you really want me to quit" I said yes, it kills me every time you go to work. She said "what about getting the new house, we need the money" I said we don't need the money, I'll get you a job at my work" she said I have to trust her, and that there is nothing there to be worried about (!) I left for work saying that just won't work for me.
Appointment with therapist in 3 hours, counting down until Friday...
Thanks No no no. She's given you NO reason to trust her!! Read my bio - the job has GOT to go!
D-Day 2-10-2009
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Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Just a thought, why get a new house if shes going to divorce?
I would hold off on any major purchases until later on when you can actually see recovery in progress. (10-12 months) or possibly 1-2 years.
just saying...
FBH 34 me,FWW 34,
DS 14, OC-D 12 (given up for adoption), DS-8, DD-5
D-Day#1 10-12-1998
D-Day#2 2-10-2008
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Which again, not to beat it to death, asks why did she do this with him? Someone afraid to stand up for himself? It is a "little" cowardly to actively RUN away from someone, what's the attraction? Do they secretly tell each other later:
WW- don't worry baby, I know you could have killed him.
OM- yeah, he's lucky!
or something like that... Yea, that�s pretty much it. My wife�s OM is poorly tattooed convicted felon who portrays himself as a "Bad Boy".... Truth is he is the biggest pansy on the Earth. My confrontations with him would have been almost comical if they had been under different circumstances. But somehow he had WW convinced he was a real Bad-A Now, I want to repeat a question that has been asked about 50 times but you have yet to answer. 1. WHY ARE YOU GOING BACK TO SEE THAT QUACK THEROPIST?
2. WHY ARE YOU DELAYING EXPOSURE UNTILL AFTER SEEING THE THEROPIST?
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Me 34
WW 30
Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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Just a thought, why get a new house if shes going to divorce?
I would hold off on any major purchases until later on when you can actually see recovery in progress. (10-12 months) or possibly 1-2 years.
just saying... Totally agreed. I would put the brakes on that immediately. You guys have just taken a tiny baby step but still have miles to go. I've know people that have bought a new house when their marriage was in shambles thinking it would somehow make a difference and the added pressure makde things worse.
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Dday 2001
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Married 20 years
Recovered after years of hard work and above all...Honesty. It's been years since I've been here but I'm still finding it therapeutic.
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Waywards are so similar it's scary.
My exww had me house hunting with her while she planned her escape. Don't buy into the house hunting thing. It's a ruse. They're thinking in the back of their heads that they are the women, they will get the kids and the house, and you will pay for it all in CS payments after you're kicked out in a D.
House hunting is a fantasy. I was told by her, "I just wanted to see if my feelings would change while we looked for a house."
Don't fall for this garbage and stay away from it.
Also, everyone is bashing the counselor based on what the WW is saying about him. Odds are she is lying about what he said.
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>They're thinking in the back of their heads that they are the women,
Thanks for that Dads.
I know when my fwh duped me into buying a car while he was still boffing the OW, that is EXACTLY what was goin' on in MY mind.
OI!
I'm sick and tired of the fingerpointing towards women...
I've said it before, and I'll say it again,
IT'S A WAYNERD THING.
Geesh.
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