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..."well that's like a turd in the punchbowl"


Or a Baby Ruth in the swimming pool.

Well, I have always said I am the lucky one. No contact with Wayzilla has been easy. She wanted the "Why can't we be friends" thing at first but my total lack of response seems to have convinced her otherwise.

Hopefully contact with him will be minimal to none.

Do you think he will seek you out while there?

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Originally Posted by Chrisner
Do you think he will seek you out while there?


No. I think this is where AZman is uncomfortable. He may believe there will be interaction. NOT on my part. I walked right by him today, without such much as a glance. I actually saw him out of my peripheral vision. THAT is how little contact *I* have with him.

I guess it seems weird to others, and maybe even to you guys, but I just don't want to SEE him anymore.


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I feel if I give an inch, he will TRY to take more. If I could be rid of him completely, I would. No such luck with a small child.


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I guess it seems weird to others, and maybe even to you guys, but I just don't want to SEE him anymore.


Not me. I don't want to see or hear from Wayzilla EVER again. Situations in the future may complicate that plan but I still will work hard to achieve it.

Plan B for LIFE.

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I guess it seems weird to others, and maybe even to you guys, but I just don't want to SEE him anymore.


Not me. I don't want to see or hear from Wayzilla EVER again. Situations in the future may complicate that plan but I still will work hard to achieve it.

Plan B for LIFE.

Me neither. I do feel for you because I still have unfinished business going on and still have to face the jack*** occassionally. I keep telling myself, "this will be the last time" but it never is. Some day....

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I feel if I give an inch, he will TRY to take more.


That was clearly Wayzilla's plan early on. A Happy Birthday email, other stupid pointless emails, voice messages about nothing, and not one response from me.

I really liked Cowgirl's letter to her idiot WxH when he pushed the "Let's be friends" envelope. It covered every base.

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I don't want to t/j, so I'll just point to my thread. Simply put, I have specific occasions coming up in which I will have to see/be in the presence of The Leopard, but after April 27, if nothing changes, I have no plans or wishes to see her again.


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Fred, it really is the best thing to do.

I do my Plan C, which is as little contact as possible, just the facts, with very little visual contact. I don't wanna chat him up. The most we have talked about is finishing up the settlement, and even that I would prefer in email form.

It's not a t/j, and if it were, i don't mind the distraction...

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It's not a t/j, and if it were, i don't mind the distraction...

Fred, if she tolerates me on her thread she will let anyone in. Even certain Cajuns.


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Fred, it really is the best thing to do.


Amen.



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Speaking of Cajuns, has anyone heard from ours?

SL, that really sux that you have to see WxH at work. Sometimes that is the only safe haven.

When I haven't seen your thread in awhile, I go into my Watch Topics list and pull it up out of there. It always takes me to the first page of your thread - which is THE SHIRT INCIDENT.

You sure didn't take this lying down, girl.

You have come so far, mi amiga. The waywards need to stay in the hole they dug for themselves.

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Funny, I was posting almost the EXACT thing that Foxx said at the same time she was posting it! Lost my post and saw her's!

I look at it as an 'invasion' by the Z of your space & I'm so sorry to hear about it. It's rare, but there are times that I have to see Drac and/or his latest ho at work. HATE IT!! Like you, I try to just move on my without any acknowlegement.

So, let's switch to a better topic - - Congrats on the new digs! I'm so happy you got your new place! Any plans for fixing it up to your personal Goddess style?

Lastly, I am so, so, so happy that you and AZman are going better & stronger than ever! You deserve every bit of happiness, love, support, and all that goes with what sounds to be a great relationship!



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THE SHIRT INCIDENT.


Ahhh yes.....THE SHIRT INCIDENT.

Didn't BR make you sew it back together.

We had a lot of INCIDENTs didn't we?

THE SIPPY CUP INCIDENT
THE RODEO INCIDENT
THE TACO BELL INCIDENT
THE CHOCOLATE MILK INCIDENT
THE PEEING OFF THE MOUNTAIN INCIDENT

and sooooooo many more.

BC lurked here earlier today. SD is MIA.


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THE SHIRT INCIDENT.


Ahhh yes.....THE SHIRT INCIDENT.

Didn't BR make you sew it back together.

We had a lot of INCIDENTs didn't we?

THE SIPPY CUP INCIDENT
THE RODEO INCIDENT
THE TACO BELL INCIDENT
THE CHOCOLATE MILK INCIDENT
THE PEEING OFF THE MOUNTAIN INCIDENT

and sooooooo many more.

BC lurked here earlier today. SD is MIA.

Ah, yes. All the INCIDENTS.

Good times, good times. rotflmao

I haven't thought about the RODEO INCIDENT for quite some time. Makes me laugh now.

I didn't see BC lurking earlier...... who'da thunk he could be so quiet?

SD is on FaceBook here and there.

Haven't "seen" Rin in awhile either.

Darn people musta got a life. TEEF

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We even had the off topic

NEIGHBOR GOT ATE BY HIS CATS INCIDENT

Didn't you have

THE TRUCK GOT SHOT INCIDENT ?


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rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao

YES!!!! I totally forgot about that! The neighbor incident wasn't funny, though. Shocking and sad is more like it......

I swear, you have an amazing memory. Ever since D-day, I can't hardly remember what I had for breakfast in the morning. (not D-day breakfast, just breakfast in the morning on the day I happen to be speaking.) crazy

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Darn people musta got a life.


HEY!!! I resemble that remark rotflmao

Ah, the RODEO-IN-YER-FACE-INCIDENT. What a hoot...NOT!

Yeah, my space has been invaded, as it was on and off thru Plan B. I had to deal with it then, and now. Oh well, whatev.

A woman here, whose husband cheated on her many years ago, was so excited to see the Z here. She thought our VP was trying to help make it possible to knit our old marriage back together by bringing him here to cross paths with me. Needless to say, this lady took her husband back, no questions asked, and just gave him the cold shoulder until she felt like engaging with him again. Apparently, he still has a roving eye, and still flirts, but he's still her husband. I am not interested in THAT kind of love. BLEH!!!

I told her, NO WAY NO HOW. we are done. She said lots of people divorce and then remarry. I said, "Not this lady". I worked my patoot off to recover this thing. I learned a great deal and changed, but I'm not going to waste another breath on this thing. It would take miraculous change. The Z would have to outshine AZman, or wait til he was dead and THEN outshine AZman. I guess I get a little miffed when people suggest that we might remarry, cuz it belittles all of the tough work I did over the last four years; like it is ME that needs to change. mad


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Makes me laugh now.


Kinda made me laugh then.

It's great to look back at all that stupidity and laugh now. At the time it was such trauma.


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Ever since D-day, I can't hardly remember what I had for breakfast in the morning. (not D-day breakfast, just breakfast in the morning on the day I happen to be speaking.)



My D-Day was Thanksgiving. I think I ate turkey.


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like it is ME that needs to change

HOW DARE THEY?!

Just kidding. I now exactly what you are talking about. He doesn't deserve someone like you and you certainly deserve someone much BETTER for you.

There are days I feel really FREE and GRATEFUL that WxH is no longer in my life.

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She thought our VP was trying to help make it possible to knit our old marriage back together by bringing him here to cross paths with me.

Did you shoot her or drown her?


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