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Wheres Scotty?Did she go on Vacation?
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Nope no VACA for me.  I just took some time off of the computer all together and there really was nothing new to write about.  WH didn't call IMs about having the kids sleep over so I don't even have to deal with that.  Nothing else to report.  Day 21 went without incident and hopefully day 22 will as well.   Dark Plan B still going strong.  It is hard not communicating in any way but I am doing what is best for me.  Still dreaming about WH every night.  Waking up at 5 am with dreams.  Then I try to go back to sleep only dreaming some more.   Reading SAA for the 3rd time and absorbing as much as I can.  Started going through a little bit more anger.  Doubts creep in but I make sure I remind myself what I want to accomplish.   There's my update.  Don't ever worry if I don't post for a while.  Usually just means that I have nothing of any real significance to write about.  I do lurk and check though.    
 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click here Praying for walls and doors.  Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION      THANK YOU
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No one here has mentioned a January thaw. I'm not sure if there is one. However, they are predicting a high of 31 for us on Tuesday, unheard-of warmth since October. That's just over 60 degrees more than it was yesterday or day before. (Can't remember which, maybe even both lol.) Scotty, don't let those dreams get to you. Perfectly normal. I probably would've had more dreams during the A if I'd slept.    I was SO looking forward to a nice, long rest during Plan B. When you get to R, you'll be grateful for this time of respite. Also, don't be afraid to post even when nothing is happening. Tell jokes or funny stories, and amuse yourself to pass the time. A "What Should Scotty Be When She Grows Up?" competition might be fun. I nominate you for astronaut - you're already an expert at dealing with aliens. 
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Cat- not yet but I am looking into it.  I am looking into it for the boys too.
 Neak- I was thinking about that competition.  I think you are right about the astronaut thing but I would prefer to be home every night hehehehehe
 
 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click here Praying for walls and doors.  Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION      THANK YOU
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That rules out truck driver, then.
 Ballerina?
 
 
 
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Definitely not truck driver.....I HATE to make left turns on to a busy street and I hate driving in snow.
 Ballerina.....ummmm NOPE.  I have weak ankles.  HAHAHAHA
 
 You are giving me a good laff though Neak.
 
 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click here Praying for walls and doors.  Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION      THANK YOU
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This is hard. Maybe you'd better submit a resume. 
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Me 56  Former BS Widowed 5-17-09 --married 25 years.  4 children  DS-35 previous marriage--18-22 DGrandSons 6 and 4   Me former BS DD-29 with DGDs 5 and 1yr DSs 26 and 23Teilhard de Chardin ..“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ...Sounds about right to me.
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Hey SCot just want to let you know that you can talk to us like we are real freinds and such.. Hyuk- HYuk lol.
 Neak where are you at, midwest right? What thaws out in the desert? rofl.
 
 "January thaw is to Northeners as is Indian summer is to Desert dwellers"
 
 AH NM me just bein a fool here.
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A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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yeah thats right . hmm MOntana  Big Sky country.
 Well January thaw is a temporary rise in the temperature that "thaws" some of the ice. Its funny cuz sometimes all you see is the ice flow a bit. Its still cold as heck LOL.
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Resume.  Hmmmmmm let's see.  I went to one year of university for engineering but I didn't like it.  Then I went to one year of computer programming(which I loved but we ran out of money so I dropped out).  Got married.  Worked at Wendy's.  Got pregnant.  Worked at Wendy's for 6 more months.  Stay at home Mom for 4 years.  Now I have been working at a MAJOR retailer for 4 1/2 years.  So no education past HS, small jobs since.  I didn't realize until a couple of years ago that I really LOVE to train/teach people.  Any suggestions now? hehehehehehehe
 I am looking in to career counseling.  I need to figure out what I want to do with my life that is fulfilling.
 
 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click here Praying for walls and doors.  Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION      THANK YOU
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I am looking in to career counseling.  I need to figure out what I want to do with my life that is fulfilling.You'n me both, hon.  I've been in advertising sales my whole life until I got sick, and I hate sales.  I want to keep writing my novels, d@mnit!  But I need to find something I can do that will work with my health issues AND pay the bills.  Tall order. I've thought about becoming a counselor too. From what I've seen you could be great at it! 
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 Why wolf?  Wolves mate for life.
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 Bomb drop 10/13/2008. EA +some physical, plus disclosure of long term porn addiction and "gaslighting" campaign to isolate me from our social circle
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Maybe a sub then. That would be substitute, not submariner. 
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Although submariner does sound exciting! 
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Ask your company if they help pay for training or university. It it's a major retailer, they should. You may have to be working full time, though. First see if your own company will train you to be a trainer. If not, look for university classes in your area and go while still working. That way you're building up tenure at your job and training too. |  |  |  
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AHHHHHH I hate this feeling sometimes.  The kids were brought home 15 minutes late, which I totally don't mind.  I said, "Hey you guys were a little late today."  DS9 said, "We were having too much fun we didn't want to leave."  Talk about breaking my heart.  They were at OW house(of course since WH lives there) and they were playing with her D11.  WH even cooked dinner again which is something that he NEVER liked to do here.  AHHHHHHHH.
 Even yesterday WH took the sledding and then to the movies.  I would have to beg him to do those things with the kids when he lived here and he is doing these things on his own.  Makes me crazy sometimes.  Oh well, 6 days with my boys and I get my new fridge on Friday(present from my sister and mom).
 
 Complaining done for now.  HEHEHEHEHE
 
 I am holding my informal survey on my FB account to see what people think I should be when I grow up.
 
 
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.  I would have to beg him to do those things with the kids when he lived here and he is doing these things on his own.  Makes me crazy sometimes...((((Scotland))))), I know this feeling well. I went through this same thing. It helped me to keep it in perspective of the kids. I am sure they enjoyed the time.... and don't be surprised if this is all "short-term". Waywards will do things out of the norm in order to ease their conscience...... How was YOUR time away from the kiddo's??.... I hated saying it, but I truly loved my time away. Oh sure I missed them, but when you are the only one holding the fort, those breaks become something you can cherish. And as the only one there, don't feel guilty about it.....its okay to want some "me" time... not2fun |  |  |  
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